The sexual urge is one of the most pressing and often troubling. Not as pressing as breathing or drinking/eating, but often more trouble to manage well.
Celibacy in dreams is not something that is often dreamt about in our modern climate where sexual feelings are used to advertise everything. In the West, we have been influenced by a dualistic outlook where everything sexual was seen as unholy through the influence of the early Christian church. Sexual desire was seen as the work of the devil. See The Con About Evil
This swings backwards and forwards, until in the present age sex is seen as a wonderful thing, despite all the crimes committed and the failures in relationship.
There is a lot of false information given about celibacy; that it is a wonderful spiritual discipline that will bring great results, or that it is bad for your health. I know from personally been celibate for seven years of my life without ever ejaculated, that they are both right.
The body and the mind are all of one thing. Sexual energy if withheld or expressed frequently has a powerful influence on the mind. If withheld and not dealt with well it can lead to powerful neurosis. It can lead to flights of imagination because it is the energy of life and creation. If handle well it can also lead to growth of personal awareness and maturity.
If we admit that we are not simple a spiritual being but also a body that has in it wonderful functions such as digestion, thinking and also destruction ending in faeces we will remain with out feet on the ground and our awareness in heaven. We are a Part as well as the Whole.
When a new level of accessibility opens to us it feels like a dramatic event, a new level of experience, and manifests as further maturity. The new level of maturity offers access to greater power and opportunity, but it also brings with it new responsibilities. It is like an inverse balancing. The less that is available to us, the more we can be intensely egotistic and individually possessive or seeking personal rewards such as money, sex, fame. The more that is available the less personal, the less self-centredness is involved. So that I see grades of possessiveness, grades of dependence upon possessions and role, grades of personal sexuality. Within the grades of great access, need for personal possessions drops away, need for a personal sexual relationship drops away. That is not to say that simply by acting out celibacy or poverty that this inner availability occurs. It occurs because one has matured through growth and endeavour to that point. It occurs because one can ACTUALLY meet, be conscious of, the huge Whole, and not draw back because one has not met ones own childhood pains, ones own secret lusts, ones own hidden motivations. If this maturity is attained, life opens it treasures to you.
We can use our sexual energies to create from within something of you that is an expression of your core self, your destiny and creativeness.
In this way you may achieve some of the spiritual gifts such Using as healing, devotion, serving or worshipping God, serving humanity. (People with strong sexual urges are potentially powerful healers. Priests and nuns do not take vows of celibacy without good reason. Strong sex desires are actually spiritual desires not yet recognised and harnessed.) It is up to you to decide how you will use those energies. Tiredness After Sex
But the expression of real, deep love can sometimes be felt as a balancing of male-female energies resulting in an uplifting, inspiring, and even spiritual experience. But my main experience of avoiding physical sex is that it can stimulate a meeting with ones inner female or male. This is a really wonderful integration with each other.
Example: I was still holding my mother’s hand and gradually a felt change occurred. I was overwhelmed by the feeling of love and the being of Christ there with me and holding me. He said “I held your hand a long time ago when I made you mine. But I have never let go of you.” That realisation tore me open and I cried so much knowing the presence was and always had been with me. He said, “I am with you as a baby, as a youth, as a man, and even as an old man – who people call God.” And I saw him there in all ages, knowing as I felt all this that the wonderful being could meet me at any point. I couldn’t help feeling enormous waves of emotion flowing through as I realised all this. But there was even more to come.
He reminded me that in our culture he was seen in a particular form, but that was because we are from a male dominated past. In other cultures he is known by many names, such as Krishna and Rhada the male and female. But while I was in this wonderful sate I was shown that He/ It could be any form, because It was Life itself, and was everything and everywhere. And that was when I experienced the divine union in holy marriage.
Example: I also saw that the spirit woman and I were a combination of much that had occurred in my inner/dream life. For instance the sharing minds with the alien woman; the merging with the female side of me; the Chinese woman who smashed into my body and so became flesh of my flesh, and so on; so all that potential might be part of this me.
Useful Questions and Hints:
What do I feel about being celibate?
What was I doing in the dream?
Have I ever been celibate?