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Door Doors

Freud felt that a door, a keyhole, a handle, a knocker, all depicted sex and sexual organs. The first example shows this clearly. Knocking refers to the sex act, the cul-de-sac is the woman’s legs.

But the image of a door has so many other ways of being expressed in dreams and is used very frequently. In the first example it represents the experience of discovering a new feeling state. For instance if one had always been apologetic and now became affirmative, ‘new doors’ of experience could well open.

Example: Dreamt I run away from police into a cul-de-sac. It is night and I cannot see a thing. I feel my way to a door, and knocked. An old woman of about 60 comes to the door. Although old she is healthy and well preserved. Without a word I grab her in my arms and embrace her sexually. Then she is naked and I feel her cold flesh against mine and I have intercourse with her. As I do so, she moans in apprehension and pleasure. I know that she has had no sexual life for 20 years, and I have now awoken her passions again. She takes me to an upstairs room, and I believe her husband comes back, but she gets rid of him somehow, I think for good. When she’s back upstairs, she notices the window is open, and a strong wind blows the curtains apart. This terrifies her into feelings of guilt and shame, and she makes me hide behind the bed while she tries to close the window. She leans out of the window to push her neighbour’s curtains back also, and falls to her death. I then wander in gardens outside.

This is a description of the whole Oedipus complex as stated by Freud.

General meanings depending on dream: Remember that context is everything in understanding your dream. So depending on context it can indicate a boundary; the difference between one feeling state and another, such as depression and feeling motivated. A barrier to change or growth or the passing from inside oneself to exterior life. The feelings or attitudes, such as aloofness, we use to shut others out of our life to remain independent or private and being open or inviting. See Context Theme

A sense of leaving an environment or relationship – or escape. A door can be an entering into a new work or relationship situation; entrance to a new life style, or a new phase of one’s life. Or conversely, an exit from one situation into another. The door can also show how you are open or inviting, or how you leave or enter an environment or relationship a life style, or a phase of your life. This is usually shown by the place, room or environment the door leads to or from.

In each of our lives there are initiations into new experiences or maturity. These are often shown as doors. So at puberty we are initiated into sexual development and a wider sympathy. At marriage we may face a door to parenthood and an initiation into motherhood. Do you enter those doors, and if so with what feelings? Why not walk beyond the door and see who, what, is on the other side.

I see that we have created a great screen of our mind onto which we have projected all these images. Out of our own need, out of our own hopes, out of our own fear we have played all these images onto the screen. What grabs us beyond the door is the power of the suppressed desires and fantasies, our fears, our hopes for love, a longing for beautiful sex. They seem to have a life of their own – which they have – because they have been denied so long that when one allows them they are full of suppressed energy. The more one has suppressed oneself the more power that image has – the more power it has in ones life.

Back door: Our private, family life; our more secret activities; the anus.

Black door: The barrier that ones fears or apprehensions set up; the unknown, but perhaps imagined in a way that does not relate to reality. Going through the black door may therefore lead to a freedom from the limiting fears.

To close a door: To be closed emotionally, or to end or shut something out. Often this requires a decision or strong feeling. Or it might be a response to protect yourself or someone/something else.

Door to strange landscape of world: Finding entrance into unconscious, a way into wonderland – in other words the infinite world of our mind or consciousness.

Doorknob – See: knob.

Front door: Public self; confidence; our relationship with people in general; a vagina.

Leaving door open: this can suggest that you remain ready and sympathetic to new ideas, a relationship, or to move in and out of a situation. It can also mean you are leaving the door open to a new relationship or sexual activity.

Glass doors: Invisible barriers in the way of your goals or possibilities; being able to see through to the possibility of change.

Opening a door: Is a very powerful thing in a dream and it depends what you are opening the door to – is it the unknown; is it a lover; a business opportunity; something frightening; a new experience and a new room; or is it an old room full of memories, associations, things long forgotten that you can reclaim? Is it someone else’s dwelling and you are unsure of a welcome. Whatever it is look it up in the rest of the dictionary, or explore for yourself using Techniques for Working your Dreams

Room with no doors: This can represent a feeling of being trapped with no way out of a situation. Or if you are outside the room a feeling of being excluded.

Shutting a door: Privacy; trying to find ‘space’ for oneself; the dismissing attitudes or tension we use to shut others out of intimate contact; repressing memories or feelings; decisively ending something.

Side door: Escaping from a situation or being indirect.

Someone at a door: Opportunity; the unexpected; new experience or relationship.

Waiting outside a door: Waiting outside the door – what a wonderful symbol that is. What a beautiful symbol. It represents all that we have as humanity placed behind the door. All of the gods, all of the images, all of the dreams, all opportunity, all of our fears, the devil, the angels. All that we place behind the door within ourselves. And they are only available to us if we walk through the door.

Car doors: Your way of letting other people share you life. The passenger door in particular refers to the people you let near you or push away if you do not let them in your car. The car door can also suggest allowing something to be seen or as access to things you have ‘within you’. The door is a barrier, a protective shield against people trying to harm you, or against other influences.  The lock on the door links with how confident you feel about your own strength. Not being able to open your car doors shows you feeling a loss, or at a loss. It is a loss of power to be able to go where you want, or to access what you have in the car. This is like being pushed right back onto your very personal resources.

Example: ‘I come up to a door which I’d never seen before, and on opening it, I came across another house fully furnished.’ Mrs R. F. Example: ‘I am being strangled from behind by a faceless man! I had gone down to lock my flat door for the night when I noticed the door was open. I hastily bolted it and ran upstairs, but unknown to me the intruder was already in the flat.’ Miss H.

Here the door represents the censorship the dreamer places between her conscious self and her sexual drives. In ‘strangling’ our own life drive, we ourselves feel cut off from life.

Wrong door: . This shows you wish to do things in the wrong way – the wrong door.

Example: I own a house. Its a big old I guess Victorian place and I love it. But there is a place “in” the house that I try to forget exists. You get to it through a hidden door and go down a corridor which takes you under the road outside into another house and a sort of separate studio room, which is light and bright and its a kind of arty place where people (me?) work.  I feel I’ve been there before in reality, and I don’t know why I’m frightened of it.

In this dream the person is constantly forgetting that she has a part of her that is light and bright where she could work at art and creativity.

Car doors: Your way of letting other people share you life. The passenger door in particular refers to the people you let near you or push away if you do not let them in your car.

The car door can also suggest allowing something to be seen or as access to things you have ‘within you’. The door is a barrier, a protective shield against people trying to harm you, or against other influences.  The lock on the door links with how confident you feel about your own strength.

Not being able to open your car doors shows you feeling a loss, or at a loss. It is a loss of power to be able to go where you want, or to access what you have in the car. This is like being pushed right back onto your very personal resources.

 Example: ‘I come up to a door which I’d never seen before, and on opening it, I came across another house fully furnished.’ Mrs R. F.

Example: ‘I am being strangled from behind by a faceless man! I had gone down to lock my flat door for the night when I noticed the door was open. I hastily bolted it and ran upstairs, but unknown to me the intruder was already in the flat.’ Miss H.

Here the door represents the censorship the dreamer places between her conscious self and her sexual drives. In ‘strangling’ our own life drive, we ourselves feel cut off from life.

 

Useful questions:

What does this door stand between – indoors outdoors – me and someone else – a bedroom?

Am I in control of how I let people into my life or let go of them?

What way am I relating to the door?

See Dreams are Like a Computer Game – Techniques for Exploring your Dreams – Questions

Comments

-Roni 2017-09-27 13:30:01

I had a dream last night that I was at my parents house. Before I left, I noticed the front door was left open. In real life it’s a little hard to open and close this door due to slight swelling. In my dream I tried with all my might to close the door. I couldn’t get it to shut all the way no matter how hard I pushed. I called to my 12 year old daughter to come help and it still will not close. Finally as my father drove up in the yard, I got the door closed, so I thought, but it just went through and opened up on the other side. That’s all I can remember.

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-09-28 9:55:07

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Roni – I think the message of your dream is to keep your front door open. That it was stuck suggested you found it difficult to let people into your life; perhaps you are a very private person. The dream suggests that you should try to let people in, and also allow them to leave without either rejecting them or holding onto them – for the door swings both ways.

    Example: ‘I was in a large removal van with a woman sat on my lap. I held her breasts with pleasure.’

    In exploring his dream Don found that holding the woman’s breasts showed how he was holding onto and held by sexual pleasure. Holding the woman made him a passenger, and not directing his life. But when he let go he could be the driver. This led him to realise that he was tied to his sexual need like a dependency – a dependency that directed his life.

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      -Roni 2017-10-04 13:58:38

      Thank you for your response. However the door wasn’t stuck in my dream. I couldn’t get it closed. It was hard to close and when I thought I did close it, it went all they way through. So maybe I need to let people leave my life regardless of how hard it is.

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        -Tony Crisp 2017-10-06 9:31:10

        Roni – I thought it could swing both ways.

        But just going outward might suggest you have a great deal more of yourself that you might give to others.

        Tony

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          -Roni 2017-10-15 10:36:26

          Thank you. I do give them f myself too much.

-Alyson 2017-10-10 15:46:08

I had a dream that I was on a long vacation (maybe a month or so), There were a lot of groups of people gathered on stair cases or walking by or standing in the courtyard of where I was staying. I was going around to the groups and socializing with them (bragging about all the fun things I’d been doing while on vacation, like singing with famous people and hiking awesome trails). I wasn’t part of any of the groups but was friendly with them and was having fun. On my way to my room I noticed that my door was wide open, the keys in the door knob, I couldn’t remember if I’d left my key in the door when I left or someone found my keys and went to my room? I went inside to check things out, the lights were on, there were wet boot prints on the rug leading to and from the bathroom, in the bathroom my laundry was dumped in a heap in the tub, laundry basket upside down on the floor…no one was in the room. I ran to take the key out of the doorknob, a group of jovial people were walking by and stopped to chat. The room was dark blue/teal and black, bathroom was white, doors we all open and dark blue with black antiquing. The room was brightly lit despite the dark paint and linen colours.

I felt like I should be freaked out, but I wasn’t…

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-10-11 9:31:25

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Alyson – You were obviously in a relaxed mood and on holiday, both conditions that leave you open to new experiences. But because all the people, animals, places you see in your dreams, are simply your own feelings, fears, hopes and wonder projected onto the screen of your sleeping mind as images, it suggests something interesting.

    Before I say what it is, realise that a modern view of the personality says that our mind is made up of many modules which are quite distinct. These modules, such as the sexual drive and the ability to speak, usually function in a way which is reasonably integrated. But many areas of dissimilarity are evident if we closely observe the workings of our own responses to life experiences. Because we each hold certain ideas about ourselves – our self image – things we do which do not express this self image may shock or even frighten us.

    So you have been hiding a part of you that messes up your living space. Ask this invisible influence in you life what the hell it is up to?

    Every part of a dream, whether an object, person or animal, is alive with our own intelligence. Each part has been created out of ourselves in some way, and depicts some area of our own total being. We can therefore talk with them. Such dialogue is of great importance and very revealing.

    To do this, imagine yourself as one of the characters, animals or objects in your dream. It may help at first to have two chairs – one empty and one you are sitting in. The character or object of your dream is in the empty chair. When you are ready to be that character move from your chair, sit in the empty chair and speak as that character. To answer or question the character from your own identity, move to the original chair and speak from your own character.

    Be playful and curious in doing this. Question the character, and when you move to that role, let whatever your feelings are as that character motivate what you say and do. Exploring your dream in this way unfolds a great deal of information that would otherwise remain unconscious. It also enables you to make real changes in unconscious attitudes or habits, as you are literally dialogging with areas of character patterning or programming, and can change them.

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-Trish MacDonald 2017-10-14 7:35:32

Hello. I dreamt that I was trying to soothe my newborn, when I looked down into my arms and realized it was a doll. I heard his cries again and realized he was upstairs (in the guest room of the house I grew up in). I went to him and found him face down on the bed, struggling to breathe. I got him up and he was fine – I pulled off a costume wing stuck on his arm and then handed him to my sister to hold because the two double doors to the attic we’re blowing open. I walked over and latched the doors but they blew open again, so we went across the hall to the bedroom I grew up in. All the windows were open and it was raining. Just then, my black cat ran downstairs. I went and got him and when i came back up, all the windows were closed.

Any thoughts on what this all means? Lots of symbols so curious if they are interpreted alone or take on different meaning when together.

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-Mary Lyn 2017-10-21 5:35:14

I usually dream that someone is about running before me, and when I saw a door. I use to enter in that door, but when I try to close it. The door doesn’t fit right. And as I saw that someone is approaching on my way the door does fit or it will become smaller sometimes it was destroyed. Because I don’t want to caught by that someone, I wake up before he goes near to me.

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-Sally 2017-11-08 19:13:40

i HAD A DREAM OF MY OLD ROOM IN MY MOM’S APt. The door was white and I felt the door closing up on me but I didn’t let it everytime I got close to it it would try to close up on me and finally I got tired and hit it with my hand and it slammed against the wall At first I felt fear because when we did live there I had the same dreams of that same door to my bedroom. I dont have my mother anymore. the door seems to be trying to keep me from going into that room but this time I fought back.

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-11-09 12:15:42

    Hi – The answers I give arise not out of me thinking up things to say, but from fifty years of exploring dreams in depth. So some of what I write may seem wild. This may be because dreams arise and are experienced by a level of your mind or awareness that very few people have any concept or experience of – usually called the unconscious. So their view of dreams arise from their thinking mind, a very different creature than the thing giving you Life. Life dreamt millions of years before even humankind awoke and developed self awareness – a very young and precocious child. So I try to describe what takes place in the deeps of you.

    But it would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.
    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPersonor http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Sally – Well, you didn’t say whether your old dreams when you lived with your mother, the door wouldn’t let you in, or did you pass through easily.

    If it was that you passed through in the past but now it was difficult, it describes a situation that has become difficult because we live only in our physical senses. This makes it difficult to contact your dead mother. But your persistence suggests it will be easier, because in dreams we enter a different dimension where contact with your mother is easy. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dreaming-of-death/#Contact

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-Britney 2018-01-01 20:47:08

So i had a dream that i was in a room and there was a few doors in that room and i was trying to escape but everytime i would open a door another door would be there repeatedly.

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-Pilar 2018-01-04 17:07:04

I have a recurring dream where I dream that I still have to go back to a place that I moved out of years ago to finish cleaning up and moving out. I lived in this place with my son from the ages of one year old until he was 10. There are dirty dishes all over the kitchen counters and there are still things in the kitchen cupboards that I need to pack up.
One of the most significant parts of the dream is the front door cannot close properly. I can make it look like it is closed, but if somebody were to knock on it, or lean against it, it would open. I try so hard to get the door to stay closed, but I cannot.
I just have this overwhelming feeling that I have to get the door to close properly, and that I need to clean this place and finally move out.

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    -Tony Crisp 2018-01-08 13:22:22

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Pilar – An interesting dream, for most people fail to realise that we are constantly changing, and that such changes often link with big areas of experience. Each of us is immersed in a ‘river’ of constant change. If you think about it you have been carried, pushed, impelled by this current as you were moved through babyhood, childhood, teenage and adulthood. And as we passed through these changes we died to our old self in order to change to the new. It is the current of Life. This current then carries us on through old age and through the gates of death. All the time we are faced by decisions, and each decision directs us on a different path, helping to create our future. And this is a force of growth and change; and is fought like hell by many as we are afraid of such changes.

    So, many people do not realise that they have an inner world of experience equally as powerful as the external situations you know. You have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by living in a place, and the experiences you lived through change you and make you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost.

    In dreams we often visit places that we lived in, even years ago. Your dream carries certain messages for you, for instance deep down you feel that you could lived differently at that time. You need to review your life at that time because you have changed now, and you see there were signs of a mess that you can clean up now.

    The front door suggests that you had not set your boundaries firmly, so people could come into your life in an unregulated way. Did people add to your mess in life? As your dream suggests, you must have certain principles about letting people into your life, so you must be able to say, “NO” firmly. That means that when you say yes it is because you mean it.

    In a sense, the door not closing properly is like a constant ‘YES’. Wherever we say yes to a person or situation in a dream, we are opening to the influence of that aspect of another person and ourselves. It is important to define what leads us to agreement in the dream. Is it that one says yes because of feelings that one ought, or should, or it was expected? Was the yes out of anxiety? Was it said because that was what you agreed with, or was the most useful response?

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      -Amy Benett 2018-01-09 9:51:12

      Hi,
      I had a dream where there were two doors. Both were closed and i could open them if I wanted to. They were part of a restaurant but I needed to get out so i could make it to my exams on time. I was almost running late. The first door to the right lead to a toilet; i didnt open it but noticed what it was when the guy opposite the door was talking to his son who was using the toilet inside the door. The door to the left lead to another part of the restaurant. I opened this slightly to notice it was also the wrong door. I was very frustrated. Then i noticed a third door to the right of both doors, but quite a distance away. I opened it and it lead me outside. It was sunny and there was a long sloping path i had to walk down. I checked the time at it was 1:10pm. I had missed my exam and i called my friend and started crying to her about it. What does all of this mean?

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-Kathy 2018-01-14 16:17:38

I had a dream in which a friend wanted to rent a room in the house my father grew up in. We went to the house and walked up the steps. I opened the door which was very large and made of glass encased in gold metal. When I walked in it was beautiful large and ornate like a fancy hotel. There were people moving around very busily making repairs and they tried to tell us we couldn’t be there. We just ignored them and kept walking. We walked through many rooms that were so nice and very big and finally found the room my friend wanted to rent. I remember thinking it must have been a lot of work for my grandmother to keep up this large house and felt very warm and comfortable there.

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    -Tony Crisp 2018-01-18 13:29:10

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Kathy – Your father has left quite an impression on you. Many people do not realise that they have an inner father equally as powerful as an external father. You have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with your father, and they are what makes you the person you are. This is true even if your father was never there for you – you still have all the memories of him not being there for you filed under ‘Father’. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner father can appear in dreams because you are still deeply influenced by what you hold within you.

    Your friend comes under the same definition, because when you think about a lover, a friend or a person you know, you are only taking in your thoughts, impressions and feelings about them.

    In any case, your father has left you a wonderful legacy, so don’t be stingy about the space and opportunity you have. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/potential/

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-TinaL 2018-01-18 21:24:04

I had two dreams in one.

In the first dream I was in a car. My fiancé had left me there for some reason. I alternated between being the driver (locking doors to prevent a fun loving, but active dog from coming in). It wanted me to play with / take care of it in. But I wasn’t in the mood / didn’t want the responsibility. I was also, somehow watching this play out from behind the car somehow. I think I had a blanket around my shoulders as I watched an empty car with the passenger door opened. I also watched myself and the whole thing with the dogs from the same place at the same time.

The car was in front of a sliding glass door which was in front of me. There were crashing waves outside the door. When door opened onto an outdoor hall that was like a boardwalk and an outdoor motel hallway at the same Time. The waves were crashing loudly in front of the sliding glass door and it was loud and beautiful and I didn’t want to hear it.

I kept trying to close the door but the dog, and a new bigger frisky dog who wanted to be his buddy kept trying to get in. I finally let them but closed the door tight against the noise of the waves.

Then, just as I locked the dog out of the car, a woman with medium short, dark hair, (whi was with a man who didn’t speak), knocked on the Car window and asked me to take the smaller dog. She made me feel guilty and asked, in a friendly way, if I could take the dog for awhile until the owner returned.

Later in the dream I was hiding under a tent, pulling it close to me trying to be warm and disappear st the same time. And then a healer, a woman with short blonde hair, found me and made me stop feeling afraid.

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-Stella 2018-01-20 9:16:22

i had a dream the other night that i was standing in front of a brown door then the door opened and the person i like stood there? what does this mean?

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