Hi Midlander – I think this dream, to be understood properly, needs a bit of explanation. I have come across a few like this recently and it helps to understand how dreams form their imagery. So it can help if you realise that just as your eyes do not directly allow you to see, but nerve impulses are sent to the brain where they are translated into living pictures, so also thoughts are also translated into images as in our dreams. Nothing we sense in the world is directly known, but it is all impressions that are translated into a sense of smell, sight, hearing, etc. So the eye receives reflected light from an object, which is translated into nervous impulses, which is then received by the brain which translates what are formless nerve impulses into what we feel we see. So with dreams of the dead we are picking their thoughts and these use our own imagery in an attempt to give us an idea of the communication.
And of course dreams reflect our beliefs and convictions in such imagery. So I see your dream as a mixture of what you believe or are convinced about, and what may be an actual communication with him, in its imagery.
So my feelings about it are that the car crash was his sense of his death. And it wasn’t a ‘death’ but a loss of his body, which for someone who identified with his body, must have been a bad shock. As I say in the section (
http://dreamhawk.com/interesting-people/rudolph-steiners-philosophy-of-life-and-death/) “However, we have built into our soul nature, many longings and desires that can only be fulfilled through the body, which are out of harmony with the spirit. There is thus experienced a period of burning desires; as these longings consume themselves in their own fire;” which might explain his burnign episode; especially if we take in the translation of imager mentioned above.
Another interesting thing is his statement that he had been in hospital and had returned only now to let people know he was still alive. Many people cannot relate to a world without a physical body, and so because of the burning, which he probably experienced in what is his dream world, felt he had only just come out of it. You could perhaps explain to him and say he doesn't need a prosthetic hand, as his is still there.
The left hand is often the support for the action of the right hand – so its loss could mean his loss of body. Literally it was no longer his body. I am not sure what the other woman represents, but it could be an aspect of you that was not acknowledged – just a guess.
The lovely and loving lizard is almost certainly a deeply instinctive part of your nature.
See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/brain-levels-and-dreams/#reptilebrain As such it underlies all of your conscious actions and it is a very necessary part of your life. Without it we would not exist.
Tony