The dream. I am sitting outside my mother's house around a large glass table in a circle with a number of people. My aunt is to my right, the man I am seeing to my left. I sense my younger sister is across the table and my mother beside her. I say sense it is them because there are a number of people around the table but the ones I am aware of are those I have described. The sun is shining. Then, my other sister arrives, (next sibling to me) and I internally panic. I panic because my partner is with me. I am afraid of her loudness, brashness and provocative behaviour. Next, in panic I get up and excuse myself to go to the bathroom. I return to find that my sister has gone outside the gate to have a cigarette with my boyfriend. I am internally uncontrollable with fear and anger. When she comes back I am getting into the back of a car with her and I behave very badly by grabbing her mouth and saying "you've been smoking" and making a scene of it ..... like an older child sister telling!! It jumps from the car scene to the destination hotel and as I am entering I pull my boyfriend aside and say "by the way, it is off, you are now free to do whatever you like".
This dream is very important in that I have been dealing with my family constellation this year with a therapist and through other work myself. I am not 20 as it may sound with the nature of the dream but 45, divorced for eight years. I think the gathering described may relate to my fathers 20 th anniversary coming up soon. This significant dynamic between my sister and I - abuse. I have learned my experience was far more severe but I became suppressed creatively and sexually to counteract the opposite in my sister. The dream is very reflective of real life feelings but I do not know how to finally break away from these chains I am in. As eldest, I have had support role in family all my life, and picked up pieces, been drawn on from sister, and energetically have to keep my life very private as the dynamic is draining.
Can you help?