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Full of love and pleasure, as if he’s a beloved boyfriend
« on: September 08, 2019, 10:08:43 AM »
 Hi Tony . . . I’ve been coming to your site for a long time now. Love the new revamp! I’ve been having such intense dreams lately. One is part of a set of a reoccurring dream – of a dream lover – but it’s not as mentioned in any of the examples above. In this reoccurring dream, it’s always pleasant, full of love and pleasure, as if he’s a beloved boyfriend, husband, and lover. In each separate dream, it’s a different man, but it’s always a positive often intense experience, both love and sex, much like when the honeymoon phase of a relationship is going on, or when it’s a stable very loving relationship. These dreams usually come during times of great sorrow or stress. And I haven’t been in a romantic relationship for years now. Anything that makes sense of this from your experience? Kate

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« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2019, 11:00:06 AM »
Kate – It may be that your wonderful dreams express a well known dream function – because dreams are said to compensate for conscious attitudes and personality traits. So the coldly intellectual man would have dreams expressive of feelings and the irrational as part of a compensatory process. The ascetic might dream of sensuous pleasures, and the lonely unloved child dream of affection and comfort. But this is only the most basic aspect of compensation and is demonstrated in the example below.

Example: In his book Psychology in Service of The Soul, Leslie Weatherhead tells the story of a little girl who while on a visit to a zoo was given a coin to get a small chocolate bar from a vending machine. She eagerly asked for more coins to obtain all the bars in the machine. The mother refused. The next morning the girl said she dreamt her mother had come into her bedroom and thrown a lot of chocolate bars under her bed.

Many dream researchers believe the dream process is linked with homeostasis or self-regulation – this sort of self-regulation means that the process underlying dream production helps keep psychological balance, just as homeostasis keeps body functions balanced by producing perspiration when hot, shivering when cold, and the almost miraculous minutiae of internal changes.

In https://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/peoples-experiences-of-lifestream/ are examples of this process being experienced not in dreams but in waking. LifeStream is a way of opening yourself to the healing and teaching power of Life within you. If you have not done this before you need to leave yourself open to whatever arises spontaneously. This is not done by searching but by noticing any idea or memory that presents itself and mentioning it and allowing any accompanying emotions. Amazingly one thing leads to another and you are taken on a journey into the previously hidden depths of yourself. See https://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/opening-to-life/

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