The Baby In Your Dream

Your dream baby is very special to you. It doesn’t matter that perhaps the baby in your dream is the child of another woman, it is still the baby of your dream. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? Or perhaps it is about vulnerability. Therefore the answers you give to the following questions are important in helping you discover the truth about your dream baby.

Example: I have had 2 dreams now where I am pregnant and there are 3 possibilities for the dad! 3. And usually its a pair of brothers (different each time) and another person (cant remember exactly who, once it was my ex bf I think). Weird right? Why would I have this dream? I am married and had a baby over a year ago.

Your dream baby is very special to you. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? Such a baby is a new part of yourself that you have formed out of your life experiences and so is enlarging you. Take care of it and see what it adds to your life.

However, if you are pregnant or hoping for a baby at the time of the dream, your dream baby may be reflecting your hopes, fears or intuitions about pregnancy. Many pregnant women have very anxious or strange dreams about their baby. So do not feel that such dreams are predictions. They are often ways of releasing anxiety or of expressing hopes regarding your unborn child.

If you have given birth to a baby in a dream, it can represent a new phase of life; a new idea; new activity – as when we say someone has a new baby, meaning a new project or business. This ‘baby’ might be part of you that did not have a chance to be ‘born’ or express before. Or it may be things learned in a rich life that you could not put into practice because of circumstances. The baby in this aspect is the ‘you’ that could have been if you had been free from problems and past hurts.

How would you describe the condition or situation of the baby?

The baby in your dream might be hungry or ill. It might be wonderfully advanced and already able to speak. Whatever the condition, this is a description of what is happening with the newly emerging or vulnerable part of you. Therefore try to put into words what you see or feel the condition of the baby is.

As an example of this, here is a fragment from a man’s dream: ‘I am responsible for bringing up a baby boy. I feel very happy about it and feel committed to it.’ So in this case the condition of the baby is that of being loved and cared for.

What does it mean when I give birth to a dream baby without a father?

If you have given birth without any man involved, it suggests it is a virgin birth – i.e. no male partner was involved at the time.

So the dream baby born to you in this way a wonderful creative act between you and Life. It is a new part of you that if you let it gradually grow into your waking life as a new force, a new way of feeling about life and acting. Being pregnant like that is very important. Obviously you are not going to give birth to a physical baby, but dream babies are important too.

Many women dream of giving birth without any man involved. Virgin birth is normal part of dreaming. It means that the woman or young girl has conceived as a process of Life. Being a virgin represents the human soul or psyche and its possibility of dropping pre-conceptions, thus attaining an inner virginity and through that being receptive to the unseen or unconscious side of self. Joseph Campbell in his book “Myths To Live By” says – “There are myths and legends of the Virgin Birth, of Incarnations, Deaths and Resurrections; Second Comings, Judgements and the rest, in all the great traditions. And since such images stem from the psyche (from you and your dreams), they refer to the psyche. They tell us of its structure, its order, and its forces, in symbolic terms.”

For instance, the story and events surrounding the virgin birth, when looked as if a dream are not about a biological miracle, but about how as ordinary people, we can drop our preconceptions, our fixed ideas and beliefs and allow an entirely new and creative impulse into our life. This truth has been so venerated that we find virgin figures all over the world such as Maya the mother of Buddha born 500 BC; the virgin mother of Osiris, and of course the story told of Mary.

Being a virgin in this case is about having a mind free from previous ‘conceptions’ and so being open to Life itself fertilising you for a new and precious thing being born. If you are not a virgin because you have had children, that is not what virgin birth is about. It is about conceiving without any mental preconceptions, having an open and receptive mind or soul. it is about a wonderful human possibility.

Only a ‘virgin birth’ can bring forth the birth of an intuition, a new response to oneself and ones environment, that transforms ones life. This is a living relationship with the mystery which underlies our life. If we generate a child in this way, we are not held prisoner by habits of thought, stereotypes of behaviour, then we can begin to allow into our waking life what was previously impossible to know. This open state of mind and feelings, acts as a link between the identity or personality, and the deep unconscious life processes. This link allows a birth of realisations and inner change that brings healing and a possibility of experiencing the aspect of oneself that is our core self. Here is an example of a man giving birth to the wonderful child.

“Was in a basement where my wife and a woman I loved was giving birth to a baby, but I was somehow the one who gave birth to it without a doctor being there. It was a lovely boy. Its lower face was covered by a tight caul, but I pulled this off and it began to breathe. It opened its eyes and looked about, fully conscious; then said something about Jesus, and, “It is gone!” I asked what had gone, and it replied, “The other ego; where has it gone?” I explained that the spirit self it knew before birth was now gone so it could live in the body. The baby was then taken upstairs, and I felt it was a holy and wonderful baby. I was going to rest from the rigours of the birth, but on looking around saw how dusty and dirty the basement was. I began to clean it, and felt I would go upstairs and rest afterwards.”

This was a dream marking a real change in the man’s life. The man did work at cleaning his basement/unconscious and then began to go upstairs to his wider awareness.

Example:  “I had a baby girl, but I had no idea who the father was. I’m dating someone now, so I figured it was his, but she didn’t look like him at all. I remember I started going through this list of men I’d been with recently”.

A way to understand this dream is that you have given birth to a new part of yourself and your inner male is the father. This is said because of your uncertainty about who the father was, and that your baby girl did not look like the present partner. /so this makes it more certain that your baby was a creation with you and the processes of life in you, your inner male – or animus – which is a synthesis of all your male contacts.
See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-jungs-view-of-the-male-in-the-female/

What are your feelings or thoughts about the baby as it appears in the dream?

What you feel and think about the baby gives an indication of how you are relating to the new or vulnerable part of yourself, or what worries you are discharging. Clarify them to recognise what may be helping or hindering this new experience in your life.

An example of this: I had a dream that I had a child and had to cancel a test because I had to take care of the baby. I was breast feeding the baby, because it is healthier to breast feed than to give formula from a bottle. The person that I had been seeing wanted to know what I thought I was doing. The question was in an accusatory manner, like I had no business breast feeding my own baby. Then I left the baby with my friends and left. When I came back, they were feeding the baby Tabasco sauce because they ran out of milk. This shocked me because I thought my friends were more responsible than that.

So there are two issues here. The first is the struggle and strength to oppose what is felt to be right in the face of other people’s opinions. The second is that other people can injure your vulnerable and growing self if you let them take over your decisions. In either case it is clear that you have the intuitive knowledge to see what is the best way to nurture your baby.

Is the dream baby my own child?

If we are parents we often dream about our own children. Occasionally such dreams express concerns we have about our own child. We have noticed something ‘out of the corner of our eye’, and the dream puts this into focus. But often such dreams use the child to illustrate a developing part of you. This is because your actual child has characteristics unique to itself. They may be adventurous, playful, thoughtful or highly verbal. To understand your dream you need to define how you see and feel about your child.

For instance a woman dreamt she was sitting on a window sill and was frightened of falling. So much so she couldn’t move. Then she reached out and took her small son’s hand and climbed into the building away from danger. In describing how she felt about her son, she said he was courageous and confident. So her dream was showing how, by reaching out for her own confidence and courage, however immature, she could overcome her anxiety about falling/failing. Her child calls out her inner strength to meet the situation and overcome the danger.

Can I help the baby in any way?

This is an important question to answer because your dreams often present you with opportunities to change or to grow. If the dream is dealing with an emerging part of your nature, or a new love or project, protecting and helping this new dimension of your life is important. So, for instance, if your baby needs feeding or affection, sit quietly and imagine yourself feeding the baby, or giving it affection. Do whatever you feel is needed to help it. See Secrets of Power Dreaming

Is this an intuition about a baby’s or my baby’s situation?

Quite often we dream about awful events in connection with our baby or child. Because these can be incredibly disturbing it is important to understand their meaning. As a first step there are at least two types of dreams that deal with disturbing events. The first type of dream is called ‘representative’. And the following is an example of it.

I am on a country walk with my wife and small son. I look back to see my son fall down a deep hole. I rush back to see him drowning, and wonder whether I should jump down to help him. Then suddenly he is okay and with me again.

The father was incredibly worried that it showed a bad situation for his son. But as we explored it we realised that the son represented his marriage. He had a terrible row with his wife the day before, and he was frightened that it was the end of their life together. The son in this dream was the result of their marriage, what they had created together. So if the son had died it would have shown the father feeling their marriage had no hope of a future. But the dream showed the son fully recovered, showing that even when he was feeling bad, his dream showed him a different outcome. So it represented the father’s intense feelings and the possible outcome.

The other type of dream can be called direct insight or prophetic. Such dreams are usually not in any way symbolic and are highly uncommon. They do not include such things as are in the above dream which quickly switches from danger to ease. The following dream is an example.

One morning my wife woke and told me she had dreamt about the baby of two of our friends. The friends, a man and wife, were living about 200 miles from us. We knew the wife was pregnant, and about a week or so before the dream we had received a short letter saying their baby, a boy, had been born. We were not on the telephone at the time, so the letter was our only means of communication.

In the dream my wife saw the baby and a voice from behind her told her the child was ill. Its illness, she was given to understand, was serious, and would need to be treated with a drug taken every day of the child’s life. The reason for this illness and the drug use, she was told, was because in a past life the person now born as the baby had committed suicide using a drug.

In this dream very definite information was given that could be checked. I didn’t take the dream seriously, thinking it was some sort of personally symbolic dream. The dream was sent to the couple, and about a week later a letter from them said that the letter and dream had crystallised their already existing anxiety about the baby. It had not been feeding well and was fretful. On taking it to the doctor nothing definite could be found but special tests were made in hospital. From these it was discovered the baby was dying. It lacked an enzyme which was needed to digest calcium. To compensate it was given a drug, which it has had to take every day of its life to make up for the lacking enzyme.

The dream did not represent a situation, it described it clearly. Also it could easily be checked. So if you are uncertain, always go for the representative dream, as prophetic dreams are extremely rare.

So the questions to ask are: Is this dream making a direct statement? If so can I check it for accuracy? If it is a representative dream, ask yourself what it represents symbolically, and go through the questions above.

Summing Up

From the answers you have given to the questions see if you can recognise what new thing has come into, or is emerging, in your life. What do you feel vulnerable about? Is it to do with someone you love? Is it a new attitude you have to the way you express yourself? Or perhaps it is a new project you have undertaken.

When you can connect the dream with your everyday experience, consider what the dream is depicting in its drama. Is it saying the baby is healthy and strong? Does your baby need support? Is it nourished? Whatever you have discovered from looking at your dream baby, try to use the insights in your everyday life. Build them into the way you feel and think, and watch your baby grow.

See Being the Person or Thing;  Inner Baby and Child; also baby babies.

Comments

-Jessica 2013-12-01 23:48:29

Hi my name is Jessica, I would normally don’t research much dreams unless I’m very effected by them, except this one was different . I had a dream that I was heavily pregnant and I was so happy but I was struggling to walk around because the baby’s foot kept pushing on my rib cage. All I could remember is that all I wanted to sit down, I finally managed to do so and I looked down and seen a foot and and elbow try push through.. Soon as I saw the foot I bursted out in tiers, thinking this is finally happening ( by me being pregnant) and I remember seeing a bit of green but I can not remember if it was for a front yard of’ve a shop..

    -Tony Crisp 2013-12-08 13:50:22

    Jessica – The green is a sign or something growing.

    Obviously it is about a change taking place in you, something that made you burst into tears; relief and joy.

    The baby dream may be about the fact that you now have got the point within that you know you can have a baby. Please see http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#WomCreative

    Tony

-Kim 2013-12-01 0:19:52

I had a dream last night where I was holding, breastfeeding and caring for a baby girl that was mine and from one moment to another she got a bit older. started out with a newborn and when I woke up she about 9months. All I remember was feeling happy and stressed because my family were there just bugging me instead of helping me. but I was mainly happy to be with my baby girl. It was amazing. I don’t have children, but I might be pregnant since I’m a week and a half late. what could this mean?

    -Kim 2013-12-01 0:22:24

    I forgot to mention that I have had baby dreams before, but not like this where they are soooo clear I can even see my baby’s face. I have had them where there’s no baby face just empty darkness, but not this time her face was sooo cute and beautiful she looked like her father and I

      -Tony Crisp 2013-12-08 9:19:41

      Kim – It could mean many things. Dreams are often a way of practising important things, such a having a baby. Your dream shows you have no problems about giving birth, but you do have reservations about what your family will be like. But the dream shows you are okay anyway.

      Another possible meaning for your dream is that you are seeing the face of your baby – a special child.

      Also such dreams are an expression of your creative ability. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#WomCreative

      Tony

-Dynn 2013-10-28 20:15:04

Hi i dream my spouse, had 2 babies delievered at the same time by 2 different women. he accepted the children but i knew that none of them were his biologically and this distressed me, what does this mean.

-pc 2013-10-20 2:41:34

When I was a teenager, I always dream of a particular baby boy, so handsome, always following me, sometimes, I carry him, it feels like he is my baby, everytime, this baby comes to my dream.
Now I am almost approaching mid twenties, I have this guy I really like, I just uploaded my picture and his to baby generator and the baby generated looks exactly like the baby that always come to my dreams as a teenager. At the same time, I uploaded the picture of my current boyfriend and myself, but the baby generated looks different, a baby I have never seen.
Please what does this mean. What freaked me out most is that the baby with the guy i really like , created by the baby generator, looks like this baby that comes to my dreams as my baby. I am confused.

-Debbie 2013-10-11 13:37:46

Good morning,

Last night I had a dream I had a baby girl, in reality me and my husband have been struggling for 5 years already. The babay was healthy, we took pictures, posted to our friends on facebook, I had my family at the hospital wiith me, I fed her, we had no name for her yet but she was beautiful and weighed 8lbs. Everything was so realistic. Within the 5 years I have had maybe about 4 dreams of having a baby and they all see so real that when i wake up I cry because I want to continue with my dream. I really want a child but I don’t let myself be consumed by the idea because then I know I will be depressed. What does all this mean??

-Cherie 2013-09-18 5:05:15

I was dreaming that my Mother came to me and said. You will get pregnant, but the baby will be sick and only live for 6 years. My Husband and I have had 2 pregnancies and both where miscarriages. I am getting older and I want to try one more time. Please calm my fears

-Priscilla 2013-09-15 18:50:18

Hello,
My name is Priscilla, I had a dream that I didn’t know I was and in the dream I had said I want to have a baby but want to have it without knowing I’m pregnant, I was standing when all of a sudden the baby feet pops out of my stomach and I pull the baby , the fist baby i pull out is small and plastic, the second is also small and plastic , and the thrid was a premature baby and when i pull it out the baby is awake and smile and i notice the baby has all his teeth and i put my finger in his teeth to see if she’s hunger she bits me but not that hard and then i get a to cover her and get her warm, I look down and have this big hole in my stomach, I start asking for my husband , but his nowhere to be found then I meet these people who offer me to take me to the hospital , I get in the van and in the van I start to worry about keeping the baby safe and warm , but the baby is moving normally and breathing.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-09-22 9:40:51

    Priscilla – I think your dream is a mixture of your desire to have a baby without and difficulties and worries about whether you could have a healthy baby. I don’t think it is a dream predicting your future, but is about your inner/dream life where a baby means a new side of you is born. So I believe that such a baby is a very real part of you – though an inner and not always an outer part. But it is a creation of a part of you that is only now becoming real in your life. It is your potential and it can be creative in new ways as social actions, in caring for others, in creative art work, such as writing or music, or ways beyond counting. Life itself is infinitely creative, look around at all the forms it creates. See http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/

    Tony

-B Sanchez 2013-09-13 11:02:47

I had a dream about me killing my 7 month old son, I had no remorse no sadness nothing I didn’t care. Later on in the dream my fiancé was digging through the dumpster with some man and opened the trash bag(he knew what I did) then my son smiled and attempted to laugh because he saw my fiancé and me. My son easing smiling and babbling in a way of very deep emotion. I grabbed him and started to cry uncontrollably I called for an ambulance. For some reason I was worried on how to cover it up instead of being at the hospital.(end)

I do not understand why I would dream this about my son I would never do anything to him he is my love of my life I will protect him forever. I woke up crying uncontrollably as if it really happened and i can’t sleep because of it. I don’t know how to interpret how horrible my dream was.

-Ellen 2013-09-05 4:04:34

When I was 17 I found out I was pregnant and me and my fiancé chose to keep the baby but at 23 weeks found out the baby had trisomy 21 and a severe heart defect so we chose and were encouraged to have a termination as the baby was very poorly, I’m now 19 and have just found out I’m pregnant again I’m so happy but terrified the same will happen then last night I had a dream I went to see a psychic and she told me I was having a boy but he would die and then I jumped and woke up please tell me what this means ?

-Kay 2013-08-27 17:06:25

Hi there, I just a had a dream of a baby girl. I don’t have children and I’m not pregnant. I don’t remember my whole dream but the part that really stood out was te baby girl. She was dressed in pink and she was very cute! I was holding her facing me on a couch and she was smiling at me. I’m just wondering what that means!

-Chloe Hughes 2013-08-10 11:33:17

I have two different dreams recently of watching over a red haired little toddler boy who I feel is my son and he looks back at me quite happily as he’s playing

--Amanda 2013-07-25 7:00:02

I’ve been recently having this dream constantly, and it never changes. I just turned 18 a few weeks ago and I don’t quite understand why I keep having this dream. I had a detailed dream about being pregnant, which I currently am not (I’m a virgin). In my dream I didn’t know I was pregnant, nor did I show any signs or symptoms that I was. While I was studying in my cosmetology class during the summer, I started feeling some pains that I couldn’t describe. At first I had thought I was starting my monthly period, but it was nothing like I had ever felt before. Once my teacher started to notice, she took me to the hospital and the doctors said I was going in to labor. Later that day I had a beautiful premature baby boy named Noah. I didn’t quite understand how it happened but I saw it as a miracle. He was so healthy, and some how my parents saw it as a blessing. When I was able to take him home I had called a few of my close friends to come and see him, but as they began to ask all these questions that I myself didn’t have answers to, I felt a bit overwhelmed. As everyone started to leave two of my closest friends stayed over, they had wanted to help me out since it was only going to be me and the baby. I was living alone in a small but decent apartment with two bedrooms, so I had good space. As they were getting ready for bed I was in my room with Noah, I couldn’t help but think of the father as I was looking down at Noah while he was asleep. But my friend came in the room and we had started talking about it. Strange thing was, that in the middle of the conversation I began to cry and kept repeating “there is no father, there is no father”. She hugged me and tried to calm me down, I didn’t want to wake up Noah. But as she held me I was just looking down at Noah and telling him I’m sorry. After that I woke up in tears. This dream was so vivid and had so much detail, but what could it mean? Someone please help I know I’m very young but I’m just looking for answers.

    -Tony Crisp 2013-07-26 8:21:26

    Amanda – Dear young woman, it is natural to dream of having a baby, and a beautiful one too. It is because you are a woman and have the wonderful ability to help Life create another being. And it doesn’t matter that there is no father – don’t you remember the story of Mary and the virgin birth? Unfortunately the church has mixed us up over it, claiming it only happened once. But it is about the wonder of women and their ability to create – it is about every woman.

    You have brought forth something that only Life has given you – as the story says – and it is a special inner child that will grow and mature if you care for it.

    Remember, you have the power of creation, and that was seen as holy in past cultures. So please read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#WomCreativehttp://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/

    Tony

-Abigail 2013-07-22 18:25:49

i had a nightmare about a friend of mine giving birth to a baby that was dead, i tried waking the baby but he wouldn’t move or cry. As soon as i realized he was dead i looked at my friend and saw she had died as well. this nightmare left me in tears, i was crying inconsolably, and when i woke up i had tears in my eyes. i don’t know what this dream means, but it left me feeling really upset. can you please help me?

-Leonita Murtz 2013-07-08 14:55:26

i had a dream two nights back, and i was wondering what it meant, i dreamt that i was pregnant with two babies but each had a different daddy and breast milk just squirting out, and i remember that in my dream i asked how is this possible to be having two different men’s kids at the same time, in my current life i have two kids, and i am in a relationship but than there is also someone else special in my life, so there are my two kids in my life and there are two men in my life, so does this thing about being pregnant and having two babies have anything to do with my current life.

-Pauline 2013-06-25 18:24:17

Hi!!
I’m pregnant now..
I dream of having giving birth on cesarean section so my sister who’s looking over the baby , she never feed the baby because the baby is sleeping the next morning i went to the baby’s room i found my dad and other guy who’s looking the baby and my dad said the baby was dead. so, i carry the baby hug and kiss by check to check keep the baby warm, i ask my other sister to make me a milk for the baby, i feed the baby after few minutes the baby was alive….I’m wondering..can you interpret my dream..thank you!!

    -Tony Crisp 2013-06-30 15:41:34

    Pauline – The first part of the dream is all about fears you have about the fate of your baby. The caesarean birth is usually something mothers dream when they are uncertain about their own powers as a woman to give birth naturally.

    Those fear led to the anxiety that your baby will die – but your love and care gave it life, not death. Hold like a holy power the love you gave to the dream baby. Use it like prayer or meditation, and your baby will be as beautiful as your love.

    Tony

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