Christine – I am not sure what you mean by disconnect. But a dream someone showed me year ago stuck in my mind and perhaps it has something of your experience in it.
It was a man who had a very rough time in his family environment, and he was wondering what it was all about. He saw his family as wild and cruel creatures. But then he had a dream of sitting at their family table and there were his whole family transformed. He could see them as they really were, radiant and whole, and he realised that they were always like that underneath all the offensive habits they had. It changed his relationship with them – even though the viewsof them didn’t not connect.
Tony