That was a post put in the Boyfriend section of Dream Dictionary. She asked - Neena - I would like to grow past this because at this time I feel abandoned in many respects. Any suggestions?
So I did my best and wrote:
Neena – I am so delighted that you asked for suggestions. I realise from a long life that is all they can be. I believe that we are like a plant with roots searching for exactly what it needs. Sometimes it is only a few words that catch us and we retain forever. So here are some of my suggestions.
1. Although we may have traumas buried in us, do not go in search of them. Each trauma or powerful life experience gives rise to habits, and habits are easy to find everywhere. No need to dig. So confront your habits and your traumas, if any, will rise before you.
2. The feelings of jealousy you mentioned is actually a habit and is not a ‘natural’ reaction that many people take it for. So whenever it arises literally stop what you are doing and confront it. Think or say to your self, “This is an old habit of reaction started in my childhood. I want to grow out of this, and will replace jealousy/anger/frustration/failure etc with what I can feel when I am my best self. I know it will take practice, but it is just a habit like any other habit and can be learned like riding a bike.” Each time you confront it will be easier to get to the other side. See
http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/habits/ and
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYYXq1Ox4sk 3. Allow any emotions that arise as you grow. Emotions are not you, but they are a wonderful way of learning a lot of truths about your past and present – even future. If you can allow any spontaneous movement, shaking, shivering and watch it to see what it is saying. If you can do this it goes through stages. The most deeply buried hurts are physiological/psychosomatic. As they emerge they are first movement such as shaking or shivering. The next level is gestural. The movements will become gestures, cowering, hurt, avoidance etc. The third level if we allow it is the dream level – in waking not in sleep. The action then become a full acting out of something that was deeply unconscious, with sound, emotions, and actions. But remember this is still only a symbolic acting out – as dreams are. Then, if you do not get trapped in the symbols of dreams, you come to full understanding and insight as the whole thing rises into consciousness. See
http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/the-lifestream/4. You are the sum total of your past. If you stop blaming your present experience on others it gives you a wonderful opportunity to create a new future. Today, this hour, this moment is the most miraculous thing. What you do today, this hour, this moment reaches far into the future in an unbelievable way. If you are honest you can trace back your present predicament to the past. So your present attitudes, actions, thoughts, love or lack of it is creating your future.
5. Remember that you are far more than you currently believe. You are Life, expressing now, this moment. Look around at what Life can do. It can express as an amazing number of forms and in amazing environments. That infinite potential is at the Core of you. For more information about the wonder of you see:
http://dreamhawk.com/health-and-healing/notes-for-touching-your-core-self/ and
http://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_s_powerful_stroke_of_insight.html Tony