Tony,
Thank you for expressing the interpretation in a way I can understand. Again, this is a new journey for me and I'm a little "green" yet.
Two things surfaced as I did the exercise of "stepping into" my husband in the dream. First the word "Litany" flashed in my mind. Second, I realized (while being him) that I was doing all the talking and the telling and was
so busy being the talker that I was intentionally avoiding something in the room or relationship. When I "looked" down, it was me sitting on the couch - I was no longer my spouse.
Second - the inner husband that you speak of ( a powerful force for sure ) caused an almost physical response of stomach churning. I was married before to a man who was a (diagnosed) Narcissist. He was a "taker" vs. "talker" but the feeling is / was the same. So busy and preoccupied was he with his own reflection - all that was left in the "room" was lost and alone.
Lastly - I tried being the metal object! This was fascinating! First I just imagined how it looked. Lodged in the upper left gum, it was stuck in this dark warm environment. I asked it who it was (SO out of the box for me! I'm a scientist by day! ) It replied "I was left behind, forgotten" When? I asked "when you were 9" it said. (I had braces placed at 9 but taken off at 12). Why are you still there? I asked "Because the doctor forgot me and I'm making you sick. I'm sorry about this, I very much want to leave so you can be well".
I began to cry after this exercise. I have been living with an undiagnosed autoimmune disease for ten years and it's not only painful and frustrating physically - intellectually I find it maddening that the one system designed to keep me well, is actually making me sick.
I'm not entirely sure what the sum of all this information is - but I thought I'd share it and again, I'd like to thank you for your response and this site. You have been given a gift.