Thanks for your reply Tony.
I don't see how this child could be seen as a victim though, she is being so assertive and brave and demanding and she is consciously assessing the terrible limitations of her care-takers..
**[actually reading back I see how in my 'telling of the dream' I may appear helpless - but the energy was quite the opposite, it was in no way downtrodden or giving up - it was demanding in tone - she is shouting for justice. Full of energy and self-determination - but the situation is too powerful for her]
I'm going to expand here a bit as it may be of use to others.,
Yes I am an adult now, but in this dream I am that child self, and the dream very accurately re-presents past experience.
Do I feel I have the power of self-help? Well it's a process by increments.
Throughout my life whenever I have sought even the tiniest shred of help or compassion, I was told I was 'being a victim' and thus shamed into silence. And that is from probably since I could speak. That has been incredibly confusing - because it turns out I was probably the only one who really had reason to call out in pain. I have since learned this is a common ploy to silence the abused, along with invalidating their experience so that they don't trust their perception of reality, or the truth of what has happened to them.
I think the greatest help I could give this child is validation. And that's what I'm starting to do. Every time I'm told I'm 'being a victim' it's like a wormhole I get sucked down into and I have long journey to claw my way back up to 'hey maybe just maybe I have a reason to look back in anger'. Maybe I suffered intensely through being tiny and powerless - but that's not the same as 'feeling sorry for yourself'.
I don't think Power can come before truth and its validation (for those of us dramatically lacking this).. but empowerment will come as a result of it.
Maybe you don't have the same associations with the world 'victim' as I do?
But I've always associated it with weakness, lacking backbone, self-pitying, laziness, someone who could easily change things but don't, lacking any willpower..
So I think this little girl is feisty and doing as much as is possible in a child's body.
I know the next level is to change the outcome, but I guess she has some battles to fight to get there.