Kae - The dreamed of boyfriend often explores what you fear might happen in the relationship, and what you hope will happen. So, it is not your boyfriend that you are dealing with but yourself – we dream about them and use them as a symbols of what we picked up from the relationship. Only you can know that, but your dream does say that what he represents in you is doing the driving.
I see there are two major conditions in life. One is being in charge of your life in a reasonable degree and making your own decisions. The other is being directed by your fears, lack of confidence or other people’s influence or manipulation. Being in charge and directing your life is being in the driving seat. Being influenced by other people is being a passenger.
Being in the driving seat is a state of mind. It is nothing else. IT IS NOTHING ELSE!
Everything you do leaves marks - the tire marks, but what drives you leads often to not having the car. The loss of something that enables you to go where you want to in life, or that you are carried along by to your goals or toward something. This loss can be a belief or a fear or any strong feeling or motivation that carried you through life and enabled you to reach goals. If you connect your car with independence, then this links with the loss of that and your ability to have your own space or freedom.
Maylin - To understand the friend you need to be that friend. I mean imagine yourself in their body and see how it feels, and describe yourself as them, even ask them questions. In doing so do not forget that this is a part of yourself you are making more real. Don’t get the silly idea this is someone else, even though they have the face and body of someone else. If it is, as you said - I hate her stuck-up face and detest her, she reminds me of a know-it-all. I grab Maylin and look around to see if my friends were coming to help but they weren’t around so I begin to beat Maylin until I kill her - a bad one, you learn and try to avoid repeating the mistakes.
If you enter Kaylin as described above the lessons will start to be come clear. Aman who did tihs with a body he had killed said, "In ‘being’ the body in the dream the man said, “But it wasn’t until I got into the role of the dead body that any depth of feelings emerged. Almost as soon as I was in the role of the dead body I began to think about and feel things connected with the way I had killed my sexuality as a teenager. Gradually these feelings deepened and I was describing my feeling hatred in regard to sexuality and how the masses were pulled along by their genitals into some sort of conformity and performance. I felt anger and loathing for what I felt at the time were the cattle human beings were. At the time I despised and hated them. I also felt repugnance at the way people talked about sex or appeared to enjoy it. It has to be understood that in that period in history in the UK, most of sex was depicted in terms of smut, dirt, animal desire, hidden pornography, or loveless fucking. I wept deeply, at times hardly able to breathe, with the pain of seeing what I had done to myself. I said sorry over and over. I saw that I need not have killed my love and sexuality, but could have expressed it in a tender and loving way."
With you all the way - Tony