Nightowl,
Your dream has been on my mind, which I am grateful for because mine have been nightmarish lately.
I am thinking that the see through lace of the white dress implies exposing your vulnerabilites. Your positive feelings about the "funeral" dress makes a funeral seem like a different kind of wedding.
Putting on the white dress or role that exposes vulnerabilities, and if you do not react in fear and project those fears onto others, i.e. expose your vulnerabilities while protecting yourself, you can access your own sense of being grounded as a woman. The down and dirty earthy sensual creative side...a gift to yourself.
I am also thinking of nature in this regard.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful dream!
Christine