In the dream I am aware that this man is trying to track me down, sneakily trying to access my private information. I am not having it! I go directly to his place. When he opens the door he is surprised and had no idea how I knew. Nor was he expecting me to show up like that out of the blue in person to confront him. I am quite stern and demand he immediately cease all such intrusive encroachments upon my personal data. He agrees and says he'll stop. However, that's not enough. I tell him since the process has already been set in motion there is a third party or an associate? of his that he'll have to stop too. In the dream I know exactly who it is, but I won't name him here. At any rate, since the process was already underway it put my personal identity (address, social security, financial etc) at risk. This information would be vulnerable and accessible to "others" at large if he didn't work to reverse what he'd gotten me into by bringing in another to help him track me down. I'm not sure if it was his intention to damage me this way, or even if he knew it was a potential consequence of his actions, but I am quite insistent that he fix this. When my info is about to be exposed and exploited, I retreat again and hide. Although I am hidden, I can observe whether or not he truly honors my request. It's like I'm right there in the room with him, seeing, but unseen. I observe as he works to protect my info from this third party. He allows me to hide. When I realize he is actually protecting me (not just saying he will do it, but actually putting himself on the line and running interference), something shifts in me. It was as if his act shifted the gears in me; suddenly I no longer want or need to hide from him. A true turn around.
Because suddenly the dream flash forwards to the near future and we are together as a couple. I observed him respecting my boundaries and going out on a limb to protect my privacy and the next thing I know the dream flashed to the future and we are happily together. There were many happy scenes of us, but in one scene he is expressing to me his concern or worry about his not being adequate? or good enough? it was some kind of worry he had about himself physically. I'm not entirely clear on what it was, but I assured him I wasn't worried about it and adored him as he was, and am totally content with the way things are. Truly, whatever his concern was, it wasn't anything that I was worried about. I think perhaps he was worried he wouldn't be able to have children? Because the dream suddenly flashes forward into the future again.
Way into the future..We now have a teenage daughter (14-16 yrs old) We're all in the kitchen and its a typical domestic day playing out. We are a playful, affectionate family. As he crosses the kitchen and opens the refrigerator door, I playfully latch onto his back and joke something along the lines of "You'll just have to go through life with me attached to your back like this. I'm attached! This is how its gonna be." I am laughing. On the one hand I'm reassuring him of my devotion, and on the other I'm marveling how his simple presence still delights me after all these years.
So there was a series of 3 seemingly "peek into the future" dreams; all contingent upon my conditions being met.