Jake – I doubt very much that you are having the same dream as this beautiful girl – the reason is that she is the feminine part of yourself. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-anima-the-female-in-the-male/I know that doesn’t feel right, but having been through trying to find such a woman, it took me a long time to figure the truth. And the truth is, as far as truth is explainable in words, that we are all mixed sexes. So you have nipples, and women have a tiny penis hidden usually out of sight – the clitoris. Our dreams are forever trying to get us toward our wholeness.
Now in our dreams, if we get beyond seeing them as frightening, or as a reflection of physical life, we have no gender, and can be either sex, or something else. But because in our body we are only half of ourselves – only male or female – we constantly search for what is missing – our female or male self. This causing an awful lot of suffering because we go and fall in love with a woman who we feel in our soul mate. What we are looking for in such women is the female principle which we have lost.
But in our dreams we go in search of it and can actually find it and become whole again – though it is not easily gained. Remember the story of the Sleeping Beauty. The prince has to cut his way through brambles to get through. He sees that many others have died in the attempt. Then when he kisses the sleeping princess she wakes and they marry. In other words the dreamed of lover was woken from the unconscious and they become one. See
https://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/what-is-the-unconscious/Like you, I could never quite make her mine. In one dream I couldn’t get into the place we could marry. In another I didn’t have the right qualities. But I eventually managed it. Only then could I begin to love an actually woman. But since then I was led to meet her - see
https://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/tree-trees/#SpiritSo I wish you God’ speed in your quest for love. See a description of a small part of my own journey
http://dreamhawk.com/relationship-sex/the-bliss-of-becoming-one/Tony