Jemily - I know it may sound weird but you should never try to stop such things in your dreams. Dreams are always a means of helping you deal with a trauma or to deepen your understanding of yourself.
As an example - Then the throat pain became unbearable. I investigated it and I became aware of doom. If I didn’t fight it, doom would take over. I was weary of fighting it so I let doom take over and sank into the doom and it was then that I found myself at the foot of the great being and total acceptance of my life. Spontaneously, before I knew it I was offering everything as a sacrifice, including past mistakes and cock-ups, and that I had to do this. And then there were the images again of clefts: the earth, female genitals, undersea-ocean crusts opening and something, as yet formless, emerging. This, I suspect, is my creativity in the world. Sarah
It is by accepting fear and pain in dreams that we find our inner wonder. See
http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/lifes-little-secrets/The blackness is your core self, the place dreams emerge from. The young girl is you, who is showing you that a previously unconscious part of you through some problem you have been denying is chocking your ability to really express yourself. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/core/ -
You cannot win such a conflict with yourself.
Tony