Cocoamoloko – Many years ago I was invited to a place that said it was doing therapy. I was introduced to a couple who, I was told, the man needed his wife, a very beautiful woman, to be touched by other men. He and she would then drive off and on the way back he would suddenly be aroused enough to make love with her. Otherwise it would be very difficult.
I feel that some men need an attack to get them aroused and it sound like he is one such. But because you are not attacking him he has to dream it.
Tony