Elliott – the fire is a cleansing force, and it probably relates to an experience your dead husband was meeting. To make this understandable we need to know things that are usually not a part of our education.
The following is a small quote from
http://dreamhawk.com/interesting-people/rudolph-steiners-philosophy-of-life-and-death/“At death the soul may be saturated with physical concepts, desires and impulses, which as they are, cannot be integrated into the spiritual ‘body’, just as food, without digestion cannot integrate with our physical body.
Usually the first thing experienced at death is a vivid re-experiencing of one’s whole life in reverse order. These memories, Steiner states, are only experienced in this way when the formative energies of our being are separated from their action upon the matter of our body. Now begins what is for most people a purifying experience. In life we can choose to act from the direction or impulse given us by our whole being, or spirit: or we can choose to act from impulses arising from just one aspect of self, such as the body, sexual desire, intellect, emotion etc. There is thus experienced a period of burning desires; as these longings consume themselves in their own fire. During this time, one lives again through memories of life, but only those that were out of harmony with one’s innermost nature.”
That is an explanation of the fire that does not burn but purifies. So you were probably getting an insight into the condition of your dead husband. The parent’s home is obviously a reminder of his past life, but it is difficult to be sure because it is your own interpretation. Another piece of information is needed here.
So to understand how dreams come about and realise what your dreams are telling you, it can help if you realise that just as your eyes do not directly allow you to see, but nerve impulses are sent to the brain where they are translated into living pictures. Nothing we sense in the world is directly known, but it is all impressions that are translated into a sense of smell, sight, hearing, etc. So the eye receives reflected light from an object that is translated into nervous impulses, which is then received by the brain which translates what are formless nerve impulses into what we feel we see. So in dreams we tend to put pictures or images collected from everyday experiences to put an interpretation on our formless dreams. So you would need to understand what the parent’s home represents for you. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-in-your-dream/The last part of your dream is a great example of being in a culture that believes when someone dies they are dead and gone for good and we cannot be with them. Nothing can be further from the truth. As you say, “I see him in person the same as he was when he passed. Once I have awoken out of my dream its like I can feel his presences like he is right here with me.”
He is always there with you. Through years of marriage you are part of his life and he is part of you – through memories and living experiences. So please realise that it is misinformation you have been fed that makes you feel scared – of what – death? Please read On Life After Death by Elizabeth Kubler Ross.
Tony