Sally - Your father's statement that, “Your personality wasn’t a small or limited one. Far from it,” suggests that you are a much more powerful being, held back by past life choices. You obviously take this seriously which is extraordinary, as most people blame their personal problems on anything other than their own actions. See
https://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/karma-and-past-lives/But something that is noticeable connected with, "As you sow, so shall you reap" again karma - is that the first life mentioned took his own life and the second one her life was taken from her forcibly. That is exactly what I have seen in other people's past life memories; it is that we do not own our life so it is in the end not ours to destroy. So what we do in a life is repeated in another life. so harm to oneself is often reflected in another life.
For our mother did not create our body, she was the instrument the Life Process formed the miraculous and intricate building of a body, and gave the consciousness allowing our personality to form. But apart from that I witnessed the same in another life where my wife, Brenda was told that the baby of friends of ours was seriously ill. Its illness, she was given to understand, would need to be treated with a drug taken every day of the child’s life. The reason for this illness and the drug use, she was told, was because in a past life the being now born as the baby had committed suicide using a drug.
I quote something for general readers:
“Things other than pattern concern the soul in its selection of a body: coming situations in history, former associations with the parents, the incarnation, at about the same time, of souls it wishes to be with and with whom it has problems to work out. In some cases, the parents are the whole cause of a soul’s return; the child will be devoted to them and remain close to them until their death. In other cases, the parents are used as a means to an end-the child will leave home early and be about its business.
The personality is shaped by three or four incarnations, the portions of the earthly experience on which the individuality wants to work. The emotions and talents of the person reflect these incarnations. The dreams, visions, meditations-the deep, closely guarded self-consciousness of the personality is the pat¬tern of experience among the other states of consciousness of the solar system. The intellect is, roughly speaking, from the stars: it is the mind force of the soul, conditioned by its previous experience in creation outside the solar system, and dimmed or brightened by its recent experiences within the solar system.” Quoted from The Story of Edgar Cayce
You have obviously worked long and hard in doing the most important thing – facing and working on meeting yourself – your ‘Life Work’.
Tony