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Dreams => Dream Interpretation => Topic started by: Evens on June 17, 2014, 10:36:03 PM
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Lately I've been feeling confused and heartbroken. For the past two years I've been involved in an online relationship. I was never sure if he was sincere, but he said he was, and as time went on he became less and less interested.
So, I had this dream of him. We were in a bathroom and I was hugging him, then caught his reflection in the mirror. He was a demonic looking vampire. I wasn't shocked or afraid. In my dreams I'm not emotionally reactive like I am in real life. I didn't want to let him know that I knew this about him so I pretended like I didn't see it in hopes that I could later help him. What I felt during the dream was deep compassion and love.
Why would I be so calm in my dreams, yet in real life I get panic attacks and surges of doubt and confusion? I think it's because in my dream i have access to all knowledge and it's the lack of not knowing for sure that stresses me out the most. If I only knew I could take a steady approach, but when you don't even know the full truth your mind plays all these tricks on you.
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Evens - In our dream world/inner life we are capable of so much more and can often lose all the silly reactions and limited viewpoints we have through living a life as only a body. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/what-we-need-to-remember-about-us-3/#DualBeing
Your heartbreak is only because your view of your life and possibilities is one which brings pain. As your view widens you can see so much more you are left pain free, as you can see in your dreams. I think something that might work is to remember as well as you can the feeling of deep compassion and love. And then ‘live as if you have it all the time’. It is hard at first, but most of our reactions and feelings are simply habits that our brain and emotions will play over and over again. They are records that can be played for ever if we allow them. By ‘living as if’ you are gradually changing the old habits. See http://dreamhawk.com/news/avoiding-being-my-own-victim/
The image of the vampire is probably an expression of what the feelings of pain lead you to feel he is. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dreams-the-magic-mirror-of-yourself/
Sorry if you already know most of what is said in the links. :)
Tony
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Thank you Tony Crisp. I'm honored to have my dream analyzed by you.
When I was 16 I found your book and have bought several copies since then (decades ago). It's my favorite dream dictionary. You are like a modern day Carl Jung to me.
How lucky we are to be able to interact with on a forum like this. I can't believe there are only a few members.
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Well Evens - The honour is double because I too am honoured by your saying what you did.
I am a lucky one to bathe in the deep river of dreams, for I learn so much from all that are sent to me.
But there are thousands of members of the Forum, 23 of them have viewed your post. And it gets more as time goes on. My impression is that members prefer to use it as reference.
By the way, my typing is hampered at the moment as there is a large black cat sitting on my right arm as I type. She adopted me and now visits often. See the end of http://dreamhawk.com/tony-crisp/biographical-information/
Tony