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General Discussion / Taking the time to read and think and focus
« on: January 27, 2015, 11:28:08 PM »
I am the world's worst at not following through with my education. Occasionally, I come upon something I get a lot of joy and inspiration from, but like the old quote..most men casually stumble on the truth and casually pass it by. I think it is because we become so ingrained with too many things. In fact, I think we may have lost some wisdom over the years because of our advancements in society. There is simply too much noise today. There is noise from industry, people, cars, families. I think everyone is in that same boat, sort of fighting to keep paddling their canoes. It is for certain, we are thrown into the world around us and we are good at adapting. It is no wonder though, people can get off kilter. I have been reading some literature recently given to me by a psychiatrist that deals with IFS therapy. In short, it talks about getting to the real you where you are centered. There are terms like exiles and protectors, most of it based on fear of being you. The other is solely focused on how the brain operates and stores memories (neurology based). It can store memories or patterns you can't remember in your short term memory(many of them are not useful in current life but they formed a pattern) but your conscious and long term memories like to do comparisons like a template to see how you handle it or retrieve a record like in a database. I think dreams are the key to unlock all that but it is complicated. The dreams will always tell the truth though. The problem is you can be so complicated, you may not always discern.

With a little awareness, we soon realize the world around us in chaos in addition to all the other challenges just primitive life throws at you. The world has economy problems, the world has war. Families have dysfunction, people have physical ailments, people suffer.

I was going to try to revise and edit this but the pizza is here, my dog is barking, the wife is asking questions, and the television talking about deflated footballs and some guy saying I am just here so I won't get fined.

Dream Interpretation / Re: Pastry shop
« on: January 27, 2015, 01:03:38 AM »
Oh, I forgot to mention, the people in the parade were in colorful costumes and happy. It was a real celebration and I remember feeling a little resentment like what are you guys so happy about.

Dream Interpretation / Re: Pastry shop
« on: January 27, 2015, 01:00:46 AM »
Thank you for your responses. It was very kind and considerate. I appreciate it. I read the article on active/passive and will keep that in mind.

So you know what do you wish for , and the action you need to take , but somehow you don't like take any action for that .

When you stated it that way, it instantly made sense to me. My routine has become mundane and much of it is my own fault or choices. There are some really basic things I could do to make things better. Those could include real basics like exercise, eating right, and sleep. My procrastination or delay causes emotions mostly aimed at myself but like you said can manifest by saying something rude I shouldn't say.

In a sense, I guess it means there is plenty of opportunity and happiness available to me still, but because of my poor choices or routine I don't allow myself to have it or depressed myself. Maybe a pity party for myself.

Well, that was a first impression. I will still have to think it over some more but thanks for giving me a little guidance. I'm sure I may find more after I think about it a while.

Dream Interpretation / Pastry shop
« on: January 24, 2015, 11:37:45 PM »
I had a strange dream. I was in a pastry shop. I was standing in an informal line to get a coffee drink. There was another person who was also waiting but it was obvious he would cut in front of me. The lady behind the counter gave the man a glaring look and said that I was next in line and not him. He immediately backed off. Then for some strange reason I showed the fellow all my teeth and said, Yes, I am next! Then I immediately apologized to him and said I was just frustrated and didn't mean to be rude. Once inside the pastry shop, I took a seat. It was a busy place. I could see various forms of cake and bread but I thought to myself I didn't want any of it. Down the aisle there was a large parade with people in colorful uniforms and all sorts of pastries. They were so proud they were displaying them and having a parade through the middle of the restaurant. I thought quietly to myself, this is the famous "Parade of the Pastries", as if somewhere in my life I had heard of this famous event. Right then, a fellow approached me and he was very accomodating and apologetic. I sensed he was related to the man I met in the coffee line. He asked, would you like to try our food? He was paying for it as a complement. A waiter brought me a large plate that looked like fried fish and chips. I thought, this was more to my liking. That was it, the dream.

I am going through severe stress in my life right now though because my wife has anxiety and it has been difficult for everyone. She is seeing a doctor but I have had her to ER 3 times and she spent 15 days in a hospital.

General Discussion / Beware of false prophets
« on: March 20, 2013, 04:19:55 AM »
I have been working on my grammar and style of writing. I found after years of neglect, it is possible to lose the ability to communicate the Enlish language. When we let ourselves go and forget to stay sharp on every day skills, we start to fold into all sorts of decay.  Now, the human mind is conditioned by exercise but I fear it is also willingly given to things that are not wholesome.  People pursue things and fill their minds with all sorts of ideas or things that have been created by some other mind, this is vanity. Take for instance, the idea of vampires. This is something brought to you by someone's imagination. The original Vlad from Romania was a sick minded individual. It is well known in the history books. I think the human race still keeps some of those primitive instincts and also memories that are passed down from generations somehow. They like the fact they are civilized, but fascinated with history in the regard that we were once barbarian. 

This is only a fantasy. The reality of human experience is not one of free time and lots of imagination. The perceptions that we give to earlier ancestors does not really do them justice. The whole idea of civilization and man using his mind to improve and build better societies takes a lot of effort.

When we relish in the past or play some fantasy about how we perceive it took place, we should remind ourselves that is mostly our imagination.  There are such things as ignorant and barbaric humans and we mostly reserve those to the past.

The greatest gift of man has always been his compassion and perseverance.  It is not an honorable thing for a man to have a vain imagination especially if it dwells on evil things not helpful to society. 

What is fitting and helpful is the most admirable way to go and exploiting the worst  part of our natures like in the dark ages, is something I would hope we would never want to return to, and so we go forth in this world hoping that diplomacy and civility and all the lessons we have learned about our natures over history will bring us to a better understanding and more compassion. Stop.

The truth is , this hasn't happened at all. The world is on the brink.

General Discussion / Apprentice interpreted one
« on: March 03, 2013, 02:50:08 AM »
My niece was scared. She had a nightmare about her dog. She has been living with me because she is a tender heart. She adopted this dog. This caused her to be kicked out of her apartment. destitute, she came to live with us. The dog had lived in a shelter. Well, he is a real good dog.  I happen to know animals better than I know people. When i grew up as a kid, i was on a farm. I was only a small little fellow, but in the mornings I was greeted by all my friends.  We had a big chicken coop, and some wild ducks, and some guineas running loose. Down closer to the barn, we had 13 horses both mares and their foals. We had a little appy stallion locked up in a stall.  There were several cows and just down a little farther was the pig pen, just past the big garden.

Those were all my best friends for at least 15 years.  My little collie dog always followed down to help and protect me along the way. She looked like lassie.

That has always been a place in my heart, so it although my life has changed quite a bit from those days, it was no big task for me to take on a new dog in my house.  So this little fellow, a corgy with short legs has grown to feel at home in our house.

The niece had a dream because finally she has found a house of her own and now she can move on to bigger and better things in life. She has been irresponsible with animals. She loves them but doesn't really understand them like I do. They get hungry and their tummies hurt. They communicate in all kinds of ways.

Her nightmare was something bad happened to her dog.

We were having waffles and coffee. I told her not to worry but it was just a recognition that she needed to be more aware of the responsiblity of owning an animal. I explained to her what goes through an animals mind after they have been in the pound, and now, and introducing them to a new location.

So , it turned out to be a moment of greater understanding and a move away from just thinking about ourselves but also everything around us.

So here is my celebation song of suffering for my own life today, lol.


General Discussion / Re: Dreams in History
« on: February 27, 2013, 12:15:56 AM »
I came across a few references to dreamers in history. One is the article about Daniel. I think he had the greatest illustration of a dream in ancient times. Daniel seemed to be good at interpreting things. Jacob had a dream there was a ladder that reached to heaven. Peter had a dream that all sorts of food came down from the sky. Paul had a dream that he had entered a 3rd level. John had a dream about many symbolic things resembling the great difficulties of man.

Me not quite so great. I had a dream I was drinking crystal clear water and it had wierd floaties in it. That was in the morning. At night, for whatever reason, I poured all the pickle juice out of a jar and drank it. It had pickle floaties in it.  Something I would never do. It was a premonition or way of my sub conscious playing with me.
Sounds fake, but no there were two good reasons for me doing it that I didn't plan. So it did happen in happen stance. Like a funny game probably because I recently tuned in here.

General Discussion / Dreams in History
« on: February 26, 2013, 11:51:29 PM »
I will be the first to say that it is difficult to help anyone with advice. Sometimes it is possible if the person can relate. We do that through communication. Certainly we all do this from the time we hit the ground crawling. What happens to us. We learn many things. Some people are blessed and are just like a young plant that grows and is nurtured in a protective environment called their family. Others aren't so fortunate and they don't find love and instead find a truly dysfunctional home.

This is some of my understanding of humans. They are subject to every imperfect and disorganized thing around them. Our existence or existence. I always admired people like Jung, and Freud, and Tony too.  They are willing and fascinated about trying to establish some baselines we can all trust.

You think your computer is complicated...you realize your own mind is more powerful. Everything you see around
you called reality came within the power of the human mind. The ideas, imaginations, concepts are all yours.

Lets get back to hurt. People have emotions and they are hurt. We should rejoice. It means your are alive. Someone who doesn't experience feelings or emotions most likely will not be productive. I have read some of Tony's articles but I have to take time to digest some of them. 

My main thoughts are tonight mostly about how people have a hard time reaching each other because of many reasons. The main one is being judgmental.  Its okay to feel the way you feel and be who you are.

If you were damaged and we all are, thats okay too.  In the world , I think there are more people who are hurt
than the lost causes like psychos or socios.  Even so , we have to recognize those too. We have to protect ourselves. Its reality.

I have the experience of growing up with people who were functional but also hopelessly unprepared for the world too.

The human condition is complex and difficult to understand. Like i said, it is frightening to study much of it. 

So fear holds people back and sometimes for good reason. Sometimes the fear is real, but we can manage

it.   Only deal is, your subconscious is like the most modern digital electronic camera and the world's greatest super computer. Even though you may have rationalized or struggled with something, I think your subconscious

says, when its doin back ups or reengergizing, shows you all kinds of crazy stuff.

Maybe the best way to approach life is not be afraid to understand yourself.

and enjoy some humor...at that point in the speech the angry mob became outraged and started throwing

tomatoes..monty python.

So, if we really learn to communicate, we will learn to allow people to be who they are, free of influences, and
get back to basics.  Whoever planted that in your head could have been right or wrong.

so like the who says...who are you ..who who

General Discussion / Re: Adultery, human sized bird
« on: February 22, 2013, 11:33:35 PM »
I apologize for just blurting that out. I know this must be a very sensitive matter so my comment was a little wierd. I am still working on reading many of the articles and trying to find the relationship as to why we form certain images in our mind. It does seem to be part of the human situation and there is written history that shows we  aren't the only ones who do it. Forgive me if anything I said was offensive.  I don't know you well enough to understand what you may be going through.  I can only imagine it is a difficult time for you and I certainly wish the best for your relationship and family. Trust is a delicate matter many times. Yet, understanding and forgiveness are also delicate matters. It is difficult to realize all of us are imperfect and many times we do things not really understanding what is happening to us.  The process is difficult.  Anything that hurts is especially hard. My experience is to be very patient when we go through some type of struggle. It is difficult to wait or put off decisions. Yet, it is true we should never make a decision under duress.  If your husband is very remorseful it would make sense he would be having nightmares and also feel betrayed by something that caused him to go against his values. Just realize he is just human and probably has weaknesses like all of us. I can tell you from my experience, that men are wierd in a way with the stages they can go through. The reason I say it is because, most women are good at communicating or expressing their feelings. Men, have difficulties drawing out or talking about something when they are going through trouble. Many different disciplines try to
help couples resolve situations, not just from dreams, but also from psychology and even spiritual issues.

I am writing so long because I didn't want you to be offended by my first comment. Realize, most people will
be reluctant to say anything because they want to make your situation better and not worse. Forgive me in the fact, I tend to just jump right in and start talking.  I am not afraid for someone to tell me I am wrong or correct me. I welcome when people tell me where I thought wrong or acted wrong. That helps me see my own flaws or learn to relate to people. You are the first person I ever responded too and I think Tony will help you out.

The symbols show your husband is suffering and feels remorse. He is hanging on to you but needs your help. It is difficult for you to work through the feelings but I sense you are  meant to be together. Your difficult road will be understanding each other and why things have gone this way. I think you are probably the anchor in the family so ultimately your love and wisdom will decide what happens to your family. I know we all get so busy sometimes out of necessity , it is difficult to be human.  Free time where you can destress works wonders.

Like I said, this letter is a long apology to you because when I woke up early this morning I just blurted out my response. After I thought about the delicate nature of how you might feel, I was concerned about you and the importance of this matter. Thanks, and I think you can chase big bird away out of your house.

General Discussion / Re: Adultery, human sized bird
« on: February 22, 2013, 12:11:03 PM »
I am certainly no expert on dreams so take my reply with a grain of salt.

The first thing I thought of was an article I came across the other day.

There was an art piece sold which was very ancient.  Some people believe

it was Lilith. Here is the link to Wiki with the picture showing a woman who

was a bird.


Greetings / New Here
« on: February 16, 2013, 06:47:02 PM »
I am new here and interested to see what I can learn.  I think I have already learned some already.  It has to do with how we let fear or wrong thinking keeping us from living wholly.  Rather than ignore the things that hold us back, it is probably better to make some effort to understand it. I read just a couple articles thus far and some thoughts came to mind. I can be a real whiner when I have difficulties and I'm sure I use all sorts of adjustment mechanisms which trap me sometimes.  What came through my thoughts after reading some of the articles was that our current suffering is not new to us or even society.  We all struggle. When I thought of my past, I could see clearly all the difficult situations and struggles. So, my current trouble in perspective didn't seem so odd but just part of life. What is really amazing when I think back is how happy and positive I stayed through it all.

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