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Roomaanaa – I get the impression from what you say that you are not the sort of woman who wants a man at any price; rightly so because otherwise you could waste years of your life.

But you seem it be stuck in a negative response from what your dream says. You do not like to be taken for granted – the groped breast incident and that makes you a little prickly. Again that is fine, but then the dream shows you another incident where you mistake another guy for SS.  That leads you into full struggle with the guy. And you have the habit of accusing the men of being afraid of commitment or not having feelings. And SS walks off in confusion.

So it seems as if all what you do is right, but there is a possibility that you are a bit prickly and off putting in your approach or reactions. Recently I read a piece about men and women and it said that many men take commitment very seriously, and then need to make sure it will all work out between them. So they often pull back at first till they are sure, and are capable of giving all that is expected in a committed relationship.

Tony

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Dream Interpretation / Re: Telling B to stop
« on: November 15, 2011, 09:35:48 AM »
Thank you for sharing so much, and welcome home.

It is good to meet you in this new place.

Tony

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General Discussion / Re: Following my dreams
« on: November 15, 2011, 09:32:19 AM »
I miss that environment so much.

I live alone in a small stone cottage because it it what I can afford. I am happy here but miss the community of other like minds close and around. So thank all of you for keeping me 'in touch'.

Tony

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Dream Interpretation / Re: My dream is haunting me - while I'm awake!!
« on: November 14, 2011, 11:01:11 AM »
Star – The way I see your dream comes from dealing with many such dreams over the years. And I see it as a way that you are meeting the reality if death, but with a strange attitude. What I mean is that in our culture we are all living in an artificial world that is dominated by a paradigm of materialism. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-paradigm/ to properly understand this.

Many people when someone dies are terribly shocked and even in your dream are crying. I believe that what happens is that many have never faced death. Every time they approach death they turn their head away. Yet everyone dies, yet it is still a terrible shock when a loved one dies. People have told me it is natural to do so, but having been there when my father, my mother and my best friend died I did not suffer lasting grief or felt haunted by the images of death.

But having faced death myself in reality and in dreams I found that death has a beautiful face once we tear away the awful mask we put on it. Death is naked beauty. It is a mask we put on it because we have been assured again and again that death is the end and all we see are the marks of illness or bodies torn apart by war. But I know from experience that death is an entrance into another life, a beautiful life without all the torments of the body. The life of the body is a classroom, often to learn difficult lessons. I could share my experiences but they would be just words, and try proving a thought or an experience to a person who knows nothing except their opinions. See the following because it shows that life goes on even though many do not have such an experience. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SF3KqGpxXvo&feature=related

But you had a double dose of death in your dream, and I believe it is to show you what it is like to live in the belief that death is the end and that saying goodbye is that – Goodbye for ever. Yet you are in reality are facing the death of your Grandmother and at some time your mother. They will certainly die at some time, so really cry as much as you can and get to the centre of where the grief comes from and move beyond it.

Tony

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Healing Dreams / Re: Healing a dead Son
« on: November 14, 2011, 08:34:22 AM »
I put the above dream in because it is so clearly a healing dream, but was put in the dream dictionary area. My reply was:

I know from personal experience what it is like to meet and know the joy you felt in helping your son. I know also that we are almost hypnotised into believing that when someone dies that is the end of them. So do not doubt your experiences.

Thank you also for sharing such a rich dream life, with so much for other people to read and learn from.

Tony

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Healing Dreams / Healing a dead Son
« on: November 14, 2011, 08:29:32 AM »
My 20 year old son, Max, died less than a month ago.

I had a strong feeling when I first learned of his death that he had remained “earth bound”. I can’t describe it exactly, but I felt very strongly that because his death was sudden and he wasn’t ready to go that he hadn’t moved on to the other side.

I have prayed for a sign from him and he came to me in my dreams the past two nights.

The first night he said he wasn’t dead and I couldn’t convince him otherwise. He even said that he wouldn’t be ready to go for another “year and a half”. But I got to hug him and feel him and it was him.

Last night he came to me at my house. He was sitting at the kitchen table and we just talked for a few minutes before I brought up the fact that he HAD to go into the light. He got a bit angry. Then I told him that I knew about the drugs in Utah and he hung his head in shame. Then I told him he overdosed. At first he disagreed, I began to think about things that I could show him that would make him understand…like stuff from his funeral, but then he understood. Like he knew what I was thinking and was kinda like “don’t bother, I get it.”

I started to cry and we hugged and I began to tell him about all the books that I’ve read on the afterlife so that he wouldn’t be scared. He hugged me and asked me if our souls would always be together and I said yes, that if you’re close on earth that means the souls always stay together.
We left my house then and went to the other side. He was leery of going so I told him that once he got there he would probably see grandma Josephine and grandma Jean and that Baxter, his old dog, would probably even be there.
I went further in with him, to try and find the souls he was meant to be with so that he wouldn’t be scared.
As we looked he began to feel more at ease. Drifting away from me and looking for himself.

Then a crashing booming voice said something, I don’t remember what, but I knew I had to leave. So I went back to the tunnel that we had come in through and Max came, with another young man, about his age, they were wildly happy….riding what kinda looked like skateboards, but not. He took me back through the tunnel. He said he understood and that the other soul that was there with him was his friend and that they wreak havoc on the other side playing pranks and acting rambunctious.

I started to cry and he hugged me so tight and I told him I loved him so much and he whispered in my ear “I will see you soon”. He was completely calm and not upset anymore…like someone saying, “see you tomorrow”…like time wasn’t a big deal.

I watched him skateboard away with the other soul and he turned back and gave me a huge smile and waved and I felt all over that he understood everything now.

The tunnel began to close in…getting smaller and smaller at his end of it so I had to turn around and walk through my side because I had to come back.

I knew, even in the dream that I had helped him get there.

Was this my sons spirit? Did I help him? I feel it was…and waking up today I feel better. I miss him terribly but I feel like he is safe and where he should be.

Is this just wishful thinking or was it my son?

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Dream Interpretation / Re: White hen
« on: November 13, 2011, 01:01:12 PM »
Hey I miss you. I felt you were an old friend, and hope things are okay with you.

Anyway - all the best.

Tony

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Dream Interpretation / Re: recurring mansion dream
« on: November 13, 2011, 12:56:00 PM »
Miao – This is a grand and important dream. It shows you that you have a great potential because of all the rooms; these are your many directions you could go in and talents you could use. It is melancholic and full of yearning because you can see your possibilities and how you have neglected the highest part of you – the widest awareness.

Maybe you feel it is forbidden to kiss and love because of your past indoctrination. I say that because love is never forbidden when it springs from truth and not the lies some people live by. And it may be that this is in some way linked with the ‘oldest and grandest that is all broken and dilapidated.’ You realise even in the dream that you have a sense of history. In fact I usually call it the House of the Ancestors, for its secrets hold all of the history of your soul along with all that has brought you to this place in your life.

The time it was haunted is because memories haunt you. If you could know this house as it is really known you would be astounded as to what it holds. In fact, if you can use the faculties that you have allowed to be broken and dilapidated, you could make them new again. Try it by using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-in-your-dream/

Tony

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General Discussion / Re: One crazy dream
« on: November 11, 2011, 11:19:45 AM »
Eva - Thank you for telling me about your realisations about your snake.

My favorite snake dream is as follows:

Last night I dreamt I was outdoors walking through open ground, maybe at times gardens. I was with others - not sure who, and we frequently came across large snakes which we reacted to as if they were venomous. Then I came across a lot of them and they swarmed onto me. I froze, terrified that if I made a move I would be fatally bitten. But they just swarmed over my body and got under my clothes without harming me. Gradually I relaxed and slowly began to move about with the snakes still on me. They started to feel like a built in defence system which would attack anyone who was aggressive to me. At one point several large and aggressive dogs walked past me. They turned as if thinking about attacking, then appeared to sense the snakes and ran off cowed. As time passed the snakes felt like part of my body.

As you say, "Decision time...no gray.  But the snake had a calm, peaceful, almost loving look on its face...so I think it is trying to tell me to go, grow, don't be afraid." So let the snake in. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/brain-levels-and-dreams/ as it as some intresting information about snakes.

Since reading what you said I realised there was a part of Dream Yoga I should have included. I have put it at the very end of the piece - "I have been there once". It can happen many times, and each one is wonderfully different.

Tony

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Dream Interpretation / Re: im so worried and confused
« on: November 11, 2011, 10:21:04 AM »
Slick -I am so sorry I worried you for nothing.

Dream are like a massive and living mirrors which reflects exactly what we are worried about and feeling. So your dreams were a continuation of you worries about losing people you love or depend upon, and reflected that in your dreams. I tend to like to explain the background to the dreams, so gave you the second take on what I thought. The woman in the dream I quoted did not experience her husband dying suddenly.

So rest assured you have a long time together.

Tony


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Dream Interpretation / Re: im so worried and confused
« on: November 10, 2011, 01:36:12 PM »
Slick - I have to be very certain in dreams like yours, and usually I base what I say on experience. After struggling with the meaning of your dream I was strengthened in my view by the following.

Many middle aged women dream of ‘losing’ their husband while out with him, perhaps shopping, or walking in a town somewhere. Sometimes the dream portrays him actually killed. The dreamer often wonders if her dream was a premonition. It is more likely a form of practising the loss, so it does not come as such a shock. The greatest shocks occur when we have never even considered the event - such as a young child losing it’s mother - an event it has never practised, not even in fantasy, so has no inbuilt shock absorbers. As most of us know, men tend to die before women, and this information is in the mind of middle aged married women.

My husband and I go out somewhere together, mostly in a town or built up area. After a while I lose him, and even though we arrange to meet at a certain place, he's never there when I arrive. I'm looking everywhere and desperately asking passers by if they have seen him.  The sense of loss and panic is awful and people keep saying "Yes, he is over there, or went that way." I never find him.  

Eventually we all die so dreaming of losing your husband is a way of preparing for and practising when we actually lose them.

Tony



 

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Dream Interpretation / Re: My Dream
« on: November 10, 2011, 01:16:49 PM »
Very shrewd.

Tony

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General Discussion / Re: One crazy dream
« on: November 10, 2011, 01:14:07 PM »
Eva – If you apply the ground rules to your dream – that every character, animal and thing in your dreams are usually yourself in some way, then it begins to make sense. Considering that you as a person have many, many parts to you, starting with your body, your awareness, you memories, the many shades of emotion, the instinctive drives, the mental factors, the unconscious functions, the spirit, and if you put them together in a drama, and each had a different image attached to it, you can get a feel for your dream.

So you are surrounded by natural growth supported by manmade structures. Even so it is limiting because you can see a door - a boundary; a barrier to change or growth; the passing from inside oneself to exterior life or vice versa.

Then the snake, an embodiment of your instinctive self, the poisonous or creative emotions that can drive or rule us. You have to kill it before you can get to something better/bigger. But as it gets nearer it transforms into a woman’s face. Pity you didn’t let it get right up to you – ground rule 12 In the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own. 13 You cannot be killed in a dream. All you can experience is the anguish and perhaps fear of dying, but in dreams you cannot die. 14 In dreams, what ever moves away from you in our dreams is going out of your life; and whatever moves toward you is emerging into consciousness. – it would have then become fully known as yourself; the poisonous emotions you were fighting.

So it seems you have had a long struggle with yourself and have gained the strength maybe through the control of yoga to kill the beast that you are. We will have to wait and see whether this will free you and allow a wider sense of yourself. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dream-yoga/

Blessing on your journey.

Tony

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General Discussion / Re: Titles and Fragments
« on: November 10, 2011, 11:52:26 AM »
Excellent advice and well put.

I find that having put all my dreams in a computer file, I find searching for ideas and dreams always brings me back again to see the incredible insights I have recorded. I add to the search by using dtSearch, a remarkable and inexpensive program. It can search a whole library of files in seconds. Not just one word, but context and different words together.

Tony

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Dream Interpretation / Re: Sucked down the stairs and a phone call
« on: November 09, 2011, 11:47:13 AM »
Rain_Dancer – Obviously you are moving, and yet when you get there you don’t know where you have got to in yourself. It is very common when people to enter lucidity to actually stay in the dream world and not tackle it as a dream. What I mean is that a dream is an attempt by a very interior part of your whole to express something. But it comes from a part of you that is not the three dimensional world of the body, so a dream is a half way to self awareness. To make sense we have to take it up to the next level.

Van Rhijn has defined the levels of consciousness says there are four stages:-
1] A plant for instance might have some sort of bacterial illness, but would not be able to bring that to awareness. In a sense many things which occur to us, although they are very real and definite, never become a part of our conscious life, but always remain in the ‘plant’ level. If they are to move from ‘deeply unconscious physiological process’ to becoming known consciously, there are stages such events go through.
2] As the physiological process moves nearer consciousness, its next level of expression is postural or gestural. Thus we may express our deepest hidden feelings in an unconscious body posture or movement. Not only our feelings express in this way, but also our physical tone or health shows in our gestures and movements. Even the plant droops if it needs water.
3] Next, when something moves from the gestural to the next stage of expression it becomes a dream or a symbol, which although it may not be understood, is now entering the arena of awareness.
4] At this stage, what had been deeply unconscious, then symbolised, now becomes known enough to be verbalised or thought about and analysed. If one had attempted to verbalise something in level two it would have been so far outside of consciousness as to defy description. Also, when looking at these levels or stages, they suggest that the dream process is a means by which deeper stages can be portrayed to awareness in order to make them known. Therefore, by working with the dream process we can tap deeper levels of awareness and make them known.

Something I have found helpful in lucid dreams or waking lucid dreams is to ask, “What is this about? I need to understand it, so help me see.” One of the first examples of this occurred during a WLD (waking lucid dream). I had a very clear image of a baby elephant head. I quote from my journal, “Slowly a fantasy (dream perhaps) began to build up. First of all it was an image of a brown clay like substance. Then the bas relief image of a baby elephant could be seen on it - a mobile image. Now the trunk reached out, but there was some problem attached to that.”

That was the fantasy, now a spontaneous attempt at understanding it. The unconscious had released something that the rational self sought to understand. What does it mean that it has trouble with is trunk? It is something to do with reaching out for its needs. It is a baby elephant so this must be a problem over reaching out for its mother’s milk.

Hold on though, a baby elephant doesn’t suckled through is trunk but directly in its mouth. Of course, it only uses is trunk when it reaches out for its needs as it is weaned. It is its individual ability to exist by its own efforts. What an amazing symbol! How does that apply to me? No, it’s not directly about me, but about being a parent, and helping children to wean from support and reaching out for their needs outside of parents and the home. How does one teach them that? Ah, I see now, there isn’t any needs to teach it them as a lesson, all one has to do is to demonstrate it by ones own life. I also see how I was in fact injured in this area, and found it difficult to have an individual life outside of the home environment and wife and family. But lately I have begun to develop the ability to leave home, work away from family, plan new endeavors outside of my family environment, such as groups away, and then come back with warmth and contact into our family life, bringing my outside gains or experience with me. Because of this example my children will be able to do the same more easily, more confidently than if no parent had previously done it.

I feel that the dream and fantasy life always link with everyday situations, although they usually add a great depth when understood. So it is always good to ask for real insight.

Tony

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