Hello Kris,
My opinion about your dream is it seems to me that in reality you recently started to developing the quality which are connected with female energy maybe some of them or all of them . This quality is of unconditional love, compassion, wisdom, beauty, gentleness, patience, accepting, forgiving, nurturing, welcoming, accessible, kind, intuitive and healing .
This female energy was represented as your daughter in dream .
Th kitchen
To dream of a kitchen represents a preparation to notice yourself experiencing something. (
http://www.dreambible.com/search.php?q=Kitchen+)
The dark figure it is your own fear and distrust of self. So the dream show you that you don't trust your self when you try to develop the qualities above.
because you was very afraid of something and as you know that is children are very sensitive , this explain why your daughter woke up at night .
My personal advice to you is trust your self and fallow your intuition.This will help you conquer fear and help you to find a balance.
Sorry for my English:)