Game

[GINAH2013]

Hire there Tony. Its surely been a while since we last spoke. Hope you well.
I had a dream this morning and am hoping you can assist me. I dreamt   I was playing a game similar to spin the bottle. The people I could clearly remember was my ex boyfriend from 12 yrs ago (he is now married and have a friendly relationship eg. in the past month we've been praying about some issue he had to deal with and we got a break thru. So it really is a simple friendship - no bad air). The other person is my ex best friend who I was friends with at the time I was dating my ex.we stopped being friends about 3 yes ago. The 3rd person was my church mate and we're in the same youth group but he's about 10 yrs younger than me.

So it looks like its a church social night and we're mingling well andy ex seems to be quite close in his interactions with me. Then we all sat in a circle to play this game. At first it seemed innocent where someone would say your number and you had to touch the same body part with the person sitting next to you. I was sitting next to my church mate who is younger than me and is a guy. So the trick is to call out numbers fast enough to confuse you and your number could be called out a number of times in succession and each time having to touch the same body part. So I had to touch this young guy sitting next to me. Then they kept calling my number then I realised we had to touch each other's butts and I immediately backed off and said if that's how this game is played I totally refuse. My ex was sitting a few chairs down from me on my left. I saw him looking bored hands folded and his one hand closing his eyes legs spread . it seemed like I had spoiled the party eith y comment and I felt a little bad but I silently defended myself in my thoughts that my ex would not allow his wife to be a part of such a game so y should I allow someone to toych y butt in a game. I felt it was unprincipled to be a part of such. Personally I don't like spin the bottle coz you end up doing all these sexual things in public.

After I passed my comment no one seemed to want to play the game anymore coz they felt I was a party pooper. I tried to interact with my ex but he seemed disinterested . I was a tad bit hurt...please Tony I'd like to hear your thots on this one. Tk you kindly
 

[Tony Crisp]

Ginah2013 - I too have been involved in such games and have always backed out, sometimes as your dream suggests, to the detriment of the other players.

Mine were not in dreams but were real life situations, and for years I found that although I felt I was right there is another side to it. I remember one time I pulled away and years later I realised that the young woman had felt love for me and my pulling away had caused her pain. But I see that your dream was about sexual game playing, a different scene.

So I wonder why you had this dream, because dreams have a real point to make, and as you were creating your dream and did not feel right about it perhaps there is another way to feel okay. For instance if I had more feeling of caring for that young woman my life would have been enriched by sharing something of another person's life; a very important thing to have missed.

So I wonder if you enter into your dream, not with the feeling of it being unprincipled, but with understanding, and experiment with ways of changing the dream until you find something that feels right for you and satisfying.

I am not suggesting playing sexual games but of finding or changing what you met in the dream into something that you feel good about. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/secrets-power-dreaming/

Tony

[GINAH2013]

Its so interesting you'd pause the question y I had this dream. I'm 33 and single and and just been thru yet another break up with a guy I was dating. I've been asking myself and praying for answes with anything regarding my love life n how I can move forward to finding love.....n real love for that matter. The feeling I get from this dream is prolly how I relate to men and sex. At my age I'm still a vurgin and quite by choice and there has been a general feeling of disappointment in the way I've got my message thru to not wanting to be sexually involved especially with these two guys and MIT allowing them to sort of be the man in the relationship. They both did say at some point that I always want to do things my way and made them feel uninvolved.

About 3wks ago I dreamt I was in a takeaway shop like a MacDonald's. I saw my sister n niece and we were waiting to be seated to have something to eat. I sat on this white expensive looking couch with a beautiful wood trimming. I looked on my side and saw an even more expensive looking room with expensive couch n navy blue carpet and saw people being served there. I wished we had that kind money to be in that room. Then there was a man who wanted to make an annoyncement that 10 yrs ago he bought a pair of sshorts and they got torn and he had to replace them and tjat 10 yrs ago they cost $100 and now he was going to buy them for $100.  Somehow i dont remember myself eating. Then i was sitting in a room where there were benches in rows and I someone was addressing us and seemed I kinda lost interest ...prolly I felt it wasn't relevant to me. The last part of the dream was really interesting to me. I got up and went to the door where my recent ex was waiting for me...it seemed he'd been waiting for me all this time. So I told him we could go as I had finished what I was doing. I saw him wearing a brand new suit and shirt and shoes. I'd never seen him in a new attire from head to toe. Then when we were about to leave I told him I forgot my hand bag n I was about to go and get it. He insisted he'd do it but I didn't want to embarrass him by showing people he was with me. He firmly insisted...then he turned to go back to the room to get my bag then I got up. In real life we didn't make our dating public....which is y in the dream I didn't want him to worry.

So I wonder from this dream if the same message was not being conveyed ....allowing men in my space. Not sure if my interpretation relates. This morning too my sister says she dreamt of me wearing a basketball T-shirt n my recent ex 's best friend was touching some design marveling at it. Then my sister says I snapped at him thinking he was touching my breasts. She says I hurt him deeply. Same message again about my relation to men in general. Its a real transition I'm going thru and really painful and can't wait to get the results I'm looking for. This morning I dreamt an egg crack in half the other half had the egg yolk safely cupped in it...the yolk looked alive beautiful n a very nice yellow. Somehow I was fearful when the egg cracked in half and was trying to wake myself up then the dream continued to show the yolk being safe in the other half. I wonder to if its not pointing to the turnout about my love life. I'm not sure if my train of thought is in line with what messages my dreams are conveying.

[GINAH2013]

Sorry for the typo error there... I meant to say the man was saying the shorts cost $10 and now they cost $100. My question is wouldyou tthink my train of that is correct...please let me know. Tks.

[Tony Crisp]

Dear Ginah2013 - You are certainly reviewing you attitudes about relating to men. Some of this shows in what you said about "Then when we were about to leave I told him I forgot my hand bag and I was about to go and get it. He insisted he'd do it but I didn't want to embarrass him by showing people he was with me. He firmly insisted...then he turned to go back to the room to get my bag then I got up. In real life we didn't make our dating public....which is y in the dream I didn't want him to worry."

The important part is - In real life we didn't make our dating public - which is a sign you are not at ease with a natural feeling to be with your date.

We often pass on traits to our children, and I wonder if this attitude of being reserved was passed onto you. If so it would be helpful to see what was behind it. Usually some powerful thing is imprinted on parents - but often it was events of the past that were felt as great threats but may not apply to you today. Knowing them you can defuse them. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/the-conjuring-trick/

Tony

[GINAH2013]

Tks Tony for confirmation. One more question tho.....the dream about the egg yolk...would you think maybe it's got to do with my love life?

[Tony Crisp]

Ginah2013 - The yolk is the central living part and probably indicates a part of you that is alive and can give life in a new way.

It might relate to your own eggs or egg that was open and ready, but it is up to you to find out. Use - http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson to see if you can find the connection.

Your love life is such a huge field which includes your own urges to mate. to choose a mate, to feel the urge to find a mate and so you are in a place where you are open to experience the new and discover new ways of finding love.

So of course the cracked egg could indicate your love life, for the protective shell has been broken and your sensitivity increased. The broken shell has opened you to new experience, wonderful or difficult.

Tony

[GINAH2013]

Thanks for your enlightenment. Really appreciate it!