SearchingCro - Because this is the first dream posted with us I need to explain how we see your dream images. I hope it will make what we say more understandable.
To start with, whenever we dream its images are not like real life, because a dream is nothing like outer life where things could hurt you, but is an image like on a cinema screen, so that even if a gun is pointed at you and fired it can do no damage – except if you run in fear; so all the things that scare you are simply your own fears projected onto the screen of your sleeping mind.
Also a dream is a communication between what has no recognised form as far as our personality or reasoning mind is concerned. So to do this it uses images of people, things and animals, as well as scenes that we might understand if we explore what we associate with the dream images. For instance a man dreamt of a tarot card reader. But in understanding how dreams work the tarot card reader represented his own intuition, because that is what he associates with being psychic.
Also we have an inner and outer world with marked differences. It is important because of your dream that you realise you are the creator. You are doing it right now – creating an inner world. For instance what do you believe, fear, hope for or are driven toward? We are all the time creating an inner world, it is the world of our mind, emotions, fears, personal likes and dislikes, our personal sexual behaviour and our habits. We tend often to be unaware of the tremendous power of our inner world and simply think of it as ‘Me’ without recognising that we are creating it all the time.
Also we often can’t see that our inner world is unique to us, and as its creator we can make it into a place of wonder, a hell to live in, or an experience of great fear.
It is out of what you believe and are convinced of that you create a unique – for you – world, and then you live in it, or are trapped in it. Millions of people are in the grip of a belief system that controls them, imprisons them, and denies them their full potential. It is generally called the paradigm of the western mind. It could also be called the worldview or even the religion of most western people – religion because actually it is a belief system. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/the-magical-dream-machine/Okay, now to your dream - Your mother plays a huge part on your dream and you are deeply influenced in a painful and destructive way by you mother's influence in your life. But in a dream she is your inner mother - Many people do not realise that they have an inner mother equally as powerful as an external mother. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with your mother, and they are what makes you the person you are. This is true even if your mother was never there for you – you still have all the memories of her not being there for you filed under ‘Mother’. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner mother can appear in dreams because you are still deeply influenced by what you hold within you.
This inner mother seems to be a mixture of your actual mother's influence and something probably from you ancestral heritage in way. To realise how this can happen read
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/the-conjuring-trick/I believe that what the overall influence has do to you, symbolised by your adopted daughter, is to stifle the emergence or growth of an important and creative pat of you9 that will link you with a part of you nature you feel incomplete without.
It is difficult for me to untangle the enormous amount of information locked in the plot of the dream, but maybe you can delve into the wonderful missing part of you by using
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dream-interpretation-2/ Please write again if you need any further help.
Tony