MagicMika – Your dream seems to be about exploring or experimenting with different relationships. In dreams we can do this because unlike waking life we can do
almost anything, because you exist in a virtual reality world. Whenever we dream its images are not like real life, because a dream is nothing like outer life where things could hurt you, but is an image like on a cinema screen that even if a gun is pointed at you and fired it can do no damage – except if you run in fear.
So all the men you dream about are creations of your own mind drawn from memories and your fears, desires, likes and dislikes. So of course some things do not make sense to your waking mind.
It is difficult for me to say a lot about your first dream because each character would need what you feel or associate with them. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/characters-or-people-in-dreams/But you could ask yourself why in your dream world you refused to kiss one and spent the night sitting holding another.
Most of us interiorise our morals or beliefs into our dream life. In other words, we take as a truth that what is important outwardly is as important inwardly. So people are as upset by a dream as if it had actually happened in waking life. Such mistakes make us feel things that are ridiculous. This happens with the morals we live with, by and may be necessary in waking life, we try to make them fit to our much bigger and freer dream/inner life and that causes conflict because the two worlds are completely different.
So in dreams about sex we do not have to live by the same small moral world often necessary in waking life. In dreams we experiment emotionally and sexually, so dreams often stand in place of actual experience. In doing so we expand our mental and emotional life without any danger or consequences. Through dreams we may experiment with new experience or practice things we have not yet done externally, such as having sex with a brother or sister, or even an animal. In doing so we are not having sex with the waking life person, but are taking in new levels of experience – for dream animals are actually part of our larger self. Also, many young women dream in detail of giving birth. This function of what might be called ‘imagination’ is tremendously undervalued, but is a foundation upon which human survival is built.
The surgery dream is easier to understand once you realise that in the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form of the people, objects and places of our dream. Therefore, our sexual drive may be shown as a person and how we relate to them; or given shape and colour as an object; or given mood as a scene. Our feeling of ambition might thus be portrayed as a business person in our dream – our changing emotions as the sea or a river; while the present relationship we have with our ambition or emotions is expressed in the events or plot of the dream.
Every image and person in your dreams is an expression of your own life process. As such it is alive and intelligent and is something sent to help you. A dream is like a projection from a movie projector, except that you are the projector.
So in the dream you are operating on part of your own male nature, but what changes did you make successfully and then unsuccessfully. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson to find out.
Lava is the basic life force or energy of your life which comes from your core self, so they were exposing themselves gently to its healing power. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/core/ Tony
