Hiya, Happy Christmas Tony, Anna and everyone!
I can't recall all of my dream but the bits I do recall I need help with as it contains my mother and my ex mainly. Back history...was with ex four years and we decided to have a baby, 18 yr gap for me for child bearing so big decision. He was not your ideal boyfriend by far but with his longing to have a child at 47 thought it would be making of him as well as I decided I would love one last child in my fertile years.
It changed nothing about him, he loves our son a lot but makes very little effort to see him apart from sundays and sitting here at my house, won't take him out etc, always excuses of ill health etc.
We maintain a good relationship per say, but I do not want him back yet he persists in trying to get me back, which he could do and knows it through effort with our son, he won't so I am not interested, there is no love lust or pining from me, he's a narcissist categorically.
My mother lives with me with my dad, my home, they moved in with me as only hope of living back in UK again. Love them both loads and they do I. My dad and me are more alike, mum and me, well it's like she shows emotions towards me of jealousy and has for a long time, resentment feelings. I have no idea why, I am not well off, life is a struggle etc. I don't have a relationship with the perfect man and so on. Other people have commented on signs of jealousy in the way she treats me at times. Yet we are very close mostly but she turns on me if she's fed up as dad would call her on it, so does it to me when he's out of the room.
The dream...my son and my ex's son had a chocolate bunny and I was keeping it for him, my mother and my ex took it out and unwrapped it and started breaking it into pieces to eat it. I was deeply offended that they would eat his chocolate, they had eaten some already. Took it from them and put it back in fridge and reprimanded them for taking a baby's chocolate. Neither had any shame at all.
The two of them seemed to be in hoodwinks together in the dream and I remember my ex getting out a small bottle of champagne(which he really has and has never opened as waiting on right time, go figure you had a son!) and he was opening this bottle to celebrate with my mother. In the moment I remember looking at it thinking oh so now he see's it as just cause to open it and wondering why.
It was like they were of similar mind but they are not in life, my mother is very much against him, she accepts him but disproves rightfully of his little effort with his son.
Is this to do with how 'I' view them towards me? For different reasons. Even if so why would I dream of my mother eating my babys chocolate when she cares for him so much more actively than my ex does? I don't see them in the same way in regards to my baby son at all.
The whole scene seemed to focus on them being in the same boat but they come from entirely different perspectives regards to my baby son. Was my son symbolic in this instance?
About them both 'taking' from me? Unfairly?
Guess I need clarification!
Many thanks for reading
All the best
Dawn
