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Christine

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Black Necklace
« on: August 09, 2011, 11:28:37 PM »
I see myself lying in my bedroom in my parents house.  My father walks up the stairs in the hallway..I know it is him although I can not clearly see him.  He has on white clothes, white hair...a tall abstract figure.

Lying in bed, I lift my head and bend it forward...he places necklace around my head...I see my bare shoulders and the black filagree necklace with a black teardrop on my chest.

I am naked, under the sheet.

(On a side note, in reality both of my parents have passed away...I have always had a conflicted relationship with my father).

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Re: Black Necklace
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2011, 09:44:19 AM »
Christine – Thank you for telling me the special features connected with your dream. It gives me so much more to build into what I can gather of your situation and dream.

In this dream you are back in the influences that are still active in you from your parenting. And your father coming to you dressed in white is a wonderful drama working out in you. For whatever your relationship may have been in your waking life, here in your dreams is something that is showing a great change.

Your father represents all the values, attitudes and emotional or social responses you have absorbed from him; the acceptance or tensions we feel in relationship with contact with him; the support or pain we feel. From our father we learn most of the positive and negative patterns of relationship and attitudes towards living and dealing with male relationships, which we then carry into daily events.

But in your dream you are not meeting your actual father but all the memories and habits of feeling you carry in you that are linked by the image of him – your inner father in fact. In fact a tall abstract figure, indistinct because we cannot easily see all of what we carry in us.

You lift your head to receive the gift being given, a sign that you accept what is coming from your inner father. We hear a lot about our inner child, but almost nothing about our inner parents.

The necklace is an acknowledgement of the qualities that can now be yours, but black because they are still unconscious and need to be consciously allowed into your life. You can do this by looking at yourself in the mirror and say something like, “Dad, I know we have had bad dealings, but I now accept all that you gave me. To do otherwise would be to deny all that is in me as myself, my memories, and all I learned. If I accept you I realise that there are very positive things to learn from even the hurts, but the positive only emerges as I accept.”

You had been holding back a major part of you that is now available to claim and live. You are naked because you are vulnerable and ready to be seen as you really are. And if you look at yourself in this way, with all the marks of life on you, you will see how beautiful you are.

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Re: Black Necklace
« Reply #2 on: August 13, 2011, 05:09:17 PM »
Tony,

I am simply stunned and need to take some time to absorb your interpretation.

Thank you...thank you....thank you.

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Re: Black Necklace
« Reply #3 on: August 13, 2011, 06:21:28 PM »
Christine, I hope you don't mind me eavesdropping on your dream - it is an amazing and moving dream and a powerful interpretation  which has resonnated with me in terms of some dreams where my mother has appeared and I've wondered what that was about because of the largely negative affects of her parenting during my younger years - but Tony's words have got me pondering about making more of her appearances when she does turn up!

Thanks both!!

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Re: Black Necklace
« Reply #4 on: August 13, 2011, 06:43:22 PM »
Hi Christine, I feel we are so fortunate to Have Tony share his response to the dreams we post in here. So much t/here to work with.

I have another response the the black necklace and the teardrop pearl. For me, black is the color of the Other Side, the Unseen and as such, to me, it is a place of great mystery, of origin and endings and the vast unknown, beyond time and space. I feel this gift from your father, seen in this light, may be an invitation to travel in that realm, knowing that you have the wisdom and protection of your father's, or perhaps the archetypal Great Father's Love, to protect and guide you on the journey.

What a beautiful and powerful dream, so elegantly complex in its simplicity....

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Re: Black Necklace
« Reply #5 on: August 14, 2011, 12:57:00 PM »

Thank you Christine for sharing your dream with me. For me I often feel I share another person's life in some degree when I enter  their dream, and that makes me bigger in some way. I suppose it is because I get a glimpse of the person behind the dream.

Tony