CarolK – The lift is your ability to ‘lift’ up your feelings - probably in your case by your imagination heightened by emotion.
The magic is what you can do with your mind and emotions. Try to understand that if you actually believed that you were ugly, overweight, and would never be able to change; the outcome could be tragic, even leading to suicide. But if you believed that basically you were a queen and could dress beautifully, the outcome would be totally different.
Everyone has the magic – or black magic – of their beliefs as described above. But most people are not trained magicians and so cast awful spells upon themselves, because they have not trained their mind, and so their mind is out of control – most people believe that their emotions and thoughts are actually them and not the kaleidoscope of change they are. See
https://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/your-amazing-circle/Dear Carol, please be aware that the magic of your mind at the moment is being worked by feelings of inadequacy, and maybe that you are not the beauty you wish to be.
But if you want to learn how to really use the magic your dream demonstrated, you can slowly bring your thoughts and emotions under control by daily sitting for twenty minutes and stare at a blank wall.
I know this is so different to where people meditate on a beautiful light, or on a god or God, or spirit animals and many other such things. That is basically shifting your beliefs to something more positive, but if you doing such meditations you are still not in control of all the images you are subject to.
Staring at a blank wall one will meet many different distractions - the out of control kaleidoscope of your mind, emotions and beliefs. You may start to think that the practice is ridiculous, pointless (that's right, it doesn't have a fixed point and is meditation without seed - see Meditation With and Without Seed)
It faces you with everything that actually disappears as something new arises. As the forms drop away, what we are left with is life without its clothing. We meet the essence of what gives us life, what gives the people around us existence, what exists in animals and plants, what animates and informs the children and people we love. Then we know we have met Life in every moment - the Naked Beauty.
The man in your dream sound like your real soul mate - see
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-the-male-in-the-female Tony
