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Lisa

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Lovingly dismissed
« on: December 12, 2011, 04:37:47 PM »
Hi Tony,  What a fantastic website! Thanks for all your continued dedicated work since last we were in touch. I had a dream a few nights ago and would love your commentary (any anyone else's) on it. I am condensing it as it is long.

I am in a bedroom of a couple. He has blonde hair, she dark, both about 30 or 40 years old. I am enamored of the stained glass windows inserted in their regular windows, and spend time gazing out of them to the countryside. The woman, an artist, paints in watercolors and shows me a book of her work. She really doesn't like them, but I think they are lovely. I tell her she could perhaps  use the paintings in a collage, or cut them into strips and weave them together, or cut out a figure and incorporate it in a different painting of hers. She likes this last idea.

I keep losing cigarettes. I have a craving to smoke, but I can't find any, or the filters drop off if I am holding one, or someone gives me one and it's "not right". Then her husband with whom I am lying in bed with (clothed) hands me a sort of lit cigar and I take a puff of it. As he and I are sitting on the bed, his wife, the above-mentioned artist, sits in a darkened corner by one of the windows. I can only see the top of her head. He tells me about his wife, telling me that she's a mystic. He also says that once, when she was in the hospital, and she cleansed herself using sage, by lighting sage and blessing herself with its smoke. I understand what he's saying as I've been cleansed by sage as well prior to a painting or dream workshop.

Then I realize her husband is sitting at the edge of the bed, naked, with an erected penis. I want to make love to him, but I know I'm in a situation I am not supposed to be in, especially with his wife in the room. I try to distract myself or hide from his wife by playing with the sheets, puffing them up and down. The next thing I'm aware of, his wife has her arm around me, leading me out of the room, softly saying, almost whispering, " You can never come back here again.". She says it so lovingly I am stunned. How can I be so lovingly dismissed?

Then, in the same house, the wife is leading people into a small dining area. She is encouraging me to go in and eat. I am confused as she told me I could never come here again, yet she is inviting me to dine with her and others in the house. I wake up.

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Re: Lovingly dismissed
« Reply #1 on: December 15, 2011, 02:02:44 PM »
Lisa – I see this as a play with three main characters – you the watcher, the artistic woman and wife, and the man.

Considering that you are all three characters it produces and interesting result. You are deeply immersed in your creative side and together with you the witnessing objective side you come to some creative solutions. Then the cigarette episode which is about cravings and using a mind altering drug, it can therefore sometimes represent sexual relatedness. This is especially obvious when you are on bed together and handed a lit cigar. You are clothed, saying that you are being careful not to get too close to having new man and expressing your sexual desires. The wife – you and your feelings about marriage and faithfulness are in the background – and only the top of her head is visible, suggesting that it is your thinking that is troubling you.

Then you admit that you want a sexual relationship with a new partner – but your thoughts are ‘I am in a situation I am not supposed to be in, especially with his wife in the room.” This leads to your artistic/wife side, who actually understands your needs and you longing, leading you gently away.

It is confusing to be a human being, and have so many contradictory sides to us. Difficult to balance the artist in you with the values you have absorbed and also your desires as a woman. The art is to see a way that  does not deny any aspect of you and yet do so in a way that is considerate.

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Re: Lovingly dismissed
« Reply #2 on: December 16, 2011, 08:05:59 PM »
Thanks, Tony.  Your comments are always helpful. I want to add that perhaps the urge to be creative is as deep as the urge of addiction. I am calmed by the presence of the sage, which the female character used for her healing in hospital, and the burning end of what looked like a cigar, but perhaps the male version of sage, which the male character offered. Yes, it is an art to live out the inner artist.