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NightOwl

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Symbolism & Messages from the Universe via an Artist
« on: August 21, 2012, 05:26:54 AM »
To try and summarize my situation: my mother has a personality disorder (NPD) and let's just say that I am extremely low contact with her. She still tries to administer her abuse whenever she can and my father is just her puppet. (My father is also a very talented artist who paints as a hobby).

For the last year I have been pulling away from them and it has not been easy but my emotions and life over all has been much better without that drama. I have always tried to find meaning in everything and anything that symbolically appears to me on a daily basis.

Randomly my father sends me paintings he has done of various things, as this week he sent me one of three dolphins in the water and another one of a beach with an umbrella with two towels out on the sand with footprints walking from them but no people. I can't help but think that there is meaning in these and that my helpless father caught in the middle and blind by my own and his situation is really just tapping into the infinite with his spontaneous paintings.

Before giving away too much info about it all - I am about to marry a man who is from a beach (as we might get married at the beach) but my family has no idea he even exists. And this man has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. He has helped me emotionally get out of the abusive chains my family has put me through all of my life. He understands me and has been my rock.

Any thoughts? I am open to hear what anyone thinks and if I might be on target with this. Perhaps the universe is sending me messages via my father....?


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Re: Symbolism & Messages from the Universe via an Artist
« Reply #1 on: August 21, 2012, 03:04:19 PM »
Nightowl,

Thank you for sharing your story and the content of your Dad's paintings.

When I dream of 3's sometimes it means mother, father and child.  Maybe the 3 swimming dolphins represent what he wished for the three of you on some level, as you did not mention any siblings.  My Dad, long since passed, also had a PD.  Words were often painful and I still tend to perceive communication from others in a very black or white way.  My Mom was a puppet and sometimes co-conspirator.  Lots of triangulation. The idea of a dolphin family, and how dolphins communicate...I do not think they commicate aggression... feels very soothing to me.  The painting might also show his acceptance if the current situation.

When I read your description of the beach painting...what came to mind was you and your fiance off swimming.  When I dream of swimming it is usually about navigating my feelings.  You have been learning to do that in a healthy way with your fiance.  That might also be what your Dad wished for you, someone to do that with as he could be of limited help because of your Mom's dysfunction.

The above is what I would read into for myself it if I were you.

Try not to get stuck on the meaning of the paintings as he painted them and they are more about him than you.  I would say that distancing yourself from them might have been painful for your Dad, but that he has accepted it.

Many blessings to you,

Christine

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« Reply #2 on: August 22, 2012, 06:25:55 PM »
Wow Christine that was a great description. Thank you!!

I don't have siblings and my mother has also done a fair share of triangulation and turning what I say into false things beyond belief. What is strange is that over the last 5 years my father seems to be turning into the same person as my mother and it's scary. Yeah, he'll send me photos of his paintings but with other guilt ridden lines of dissatisfaction with my behavior (which I haven't done anything wrong) as I haven't spoke to them in many months, so there is always mixed messages with them. I too have misperceived ideas of how to read others because of this instability they taught me since I was a child. Maybe he has accepted my distance or maybe not but that isn't my concern any longer.

One time he sent me a photo of a painting of three trees, one with yellow leaves standing alone and the other side across from it were two trees with bright red leaves. That was when they were extremely angry with me, funny huh…

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« Reply #3 on: August 22, 2012, 06:49:38 PM »
Hi Nightowl,

I realized something while I was reading your reply.  You might feel like your Dad is triangulating or involving you somehow by giving you the paintings.  i am wondering if you feel that way.  How do you feel when you get them?

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« Reply #4 on: August 23, 2012, 03:40:26 AM »
That's exactly how I feel when I get them! I feel the manipulation and the pain all in one when I see his paintings. I think what hurts most is the fact that I have lost my father too, as he seems to be caught up in my mothers brainwashing and can't see the light of day. He was a very nice man until her poison started to take him over. Plus my mother uses him as well as his email to talk to me, so basically he doesn't even have a voice. She knows that I have always had a stronger connection to my father and I can hear her telling him to send me photos of his paintings so that she can use that to try and get me to become "family" again, if that makes any sense to an outsider....?

I also forgot to mention that my mother has become a very intense religious fanatic and has seemed to influence his paintings. Two others came via email and one was of Jesus and the other of a small pathway into the forrest.

I just wish he would stop sending me these.

thanks for your input! You seem to be right on target! :)

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« Reply #5 on: August 23, 2012, 07:54:35 AM »
Just because he sends them does not mean you have to accept them.

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« Reply #6 on: September 22, 2012, 02:09:02 PM »
You both seems to be doing so well, so I pass on.

Tony