Aristocrates – That sounds like a real step forward.
Something that came to me strongly recently while I explored my own dream was about relationships. What I wrote wasn’t directly for you, but I think it applies.
This is necessary because any relationship which you have been deeply involved in has not left you. You cannot escape it inside you. What you can do is to fully take her into you and feel the pain but realise it is now all inside you, and if you hold it out to the best in you it will gradually become a new and good part of you.
I see it as very similar to near death experiences, where a person lives there life and gradually only the best is left – and the best in them will be an asset that enlarges you as a person. This is why it says that you should honour your father and mother. It say this because they are so much a part of you, as this woman is, that if you do not sort it out until you find the best in them you will be left crippled. So it isn’t accepting their weakness but almost like digesting it, so what is healthy can be built into you, and what is not can be passed out.
I also wrote about digestion to today that links with it - When we digest, whether it is an idea, something we have read or learned, it has to be first surrendered to the life process. We can see this in our body – it is first chewed and swallowed, then broken down into parts and the useful stuff, the building stuff, can be taken into us and the rest is passed out. The important thing is that even if it is dead or living food, it is transformed into our own living being. If it has not been transformed it is like something dead inside us.
We transform it by giving it to the fire within us that burns as our life process. See
http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/lifes-little-secrets/Tony