Elena – I guess you looked at the entry ‘Lightning’; so I will try to open it up for you.
The house is actually yours, but is about attitudes or views of life you fail to recognise as yours probably because you don’t want to face what they indicate. The people and your friend are also aspects of yourself - See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/characters-or-people-in-dreams/ - and read 1 and 2 of
http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ You are terrified of the intense emotions you are repressing, and these shows as lightening strikes: “Sometimes information leading to a realisation builds up over time, but in a flash is put together forming a new, perhaps life changing, insight. The build up toward a change in life style or direction might similarly occur, and so may be depicted by lightning. It is the build up of tension, whether of insight or emotion, and its sudden breakthrough into consciousness that lightning represents. It represents sudden and disturbing change or release of emotions or sexuality.”
The friend left her husband and took her kids back to her home. So you are feeling, usually unconsciously, that you are tempted to leave your husband. Her silver accessories may relate to gifts given by a husband, and of course attracts the lightening/the breakthrough to realising the new you.
The repulsion you feel for your husband is a sign of difficulties caused probably by feelings that have built up that only break through on occasion. They could be from childhood traumas or things that have built up between you. If you want to keep your marriage get help to talk and heal it. If not, then the lightening has already begun the huge change in your life.
“An Old Mans Thoughts
Love and attraction for a partner are full of strange feelings. These feeling are made weird largely by the ideas and feelings we have inherited from our culture – love for ever lasting; the Right one; Soul Mates – and other strange ideas.
From the view of Spirit that I have tried to look at life from, we are all whole and have no need of sexual partners or marriage.
“..for people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” Matthew 22:30
But life in the body is a different matter, and because the physical world is all split into dualism/opposites, and because we are mammalian animals who have only recently attained a measure of self awareness, we have millions of years of instinct in us to seek a partner.
That means we find self awareness very stressful for we are bombarded with our instincts to have sex, and at the same time have personal awareness built out of cultural beliefs which in many women are twisted into huge romantic dreams. WOW!!! It is the way it keeps us looking.
In human life our unbalanced life, caused by believing and feeling that we have to have a partner, makes us constantly search for a man/woman. That is fine and natural, but it is turned into a bloody mess by our amazing romantic fantasies, or by neurotic tendencies caused by the misplaced sexual urge. For as far as I understand from three or four partners, and several love affairs, and from looking at people’s dreams of love, the thing we are really seeking is our own wholeness. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-the-male-in-the-female or
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-anima-the-female-in-the-male/Of course traumas we received as a baby or child screws us up in relationships sometimes for a lifetime. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/trauma/#KicksSo we can make do with a decent partner because it takes the edge off the search for wholeness. If we get too deep into believing we have found it in marriage, it tears us apart when it ends. But if you adjust your feelings to see a partner as a good friend and sexual partner without getting yourself screw up by jealousy or feelings about cheating, or all the other things people even commit suicide over, you are onto a good thing.”
Tony