Horizen – I see you are in the midst of a huge conflict, in which no side is willing to budge – in fact a dream world conflict.
Whether it is a dream or a waking life conflict, human life exists on very high building, and it depends on its existence for the basement, ground floor and floors in between. Take any of them away and human life has finished. It isn’t a case of what we like or do not like, of human greed and ignorance, but of simple observation. We humans often depict our evolution as a sea animal coming onto land and the rest is shown as a tour de force. But before that the land animal could only exist after massive effort and time had to pass as the land plants established themselves, then the insects and slowly small creature. But even that is forgetting the basement and ground floor – i.e. the single celled bacteria, viruses and the slow scaffolding of life we all need – the bacteria in our gut; the way that very different cells work together, for life is not just tooth and claw fighting, but a level of sharing we as humans cannot understand.
The tremendous exchange of gases, fluids, bacteria – along with the social, verbal, sexual and sensual signals and interactions going on around us and is influencing our own existence. Even bacteria share information with each other? They share what they have learned even with species of bacteria that are different. They give each other building blocks of what they have learned. If they have learned how to deal with a particular substance that is poisonous to them, then they will pass that information on to other bacteria. They give what they have learned. That is so fundamental to life even bacteria do it; genetic studies in bacteria have revealed that extensive gene exchange is the norm between different bacteria even though they do not have formal sexual reproduction. See
https://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/lifes-basic-functions/ But as a dream is an internal event, the conflict seems to be about different parts of your own inner world. I have found that such struggles are a waste of precious emotional energy. You dream showed you that neither if you were winning, so try a different approach – become them. In doing so you have all their force and ability, but you have your own purpose.
Your dreams take place in a very real virtual reality, like a computer game. You are actually alone in your dream, so anybody you dream about is a creation from your memories, desires or fears. There is nothing else but you and your feelings, hopes or fears in your dreams. Nothing can hurt you or kill you while you dream. So in the world of dreams your most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form people, objects and places of our dream.
They are not actual people in your dreams but a very real virtual reality. So I would suggest you integrate all the good and bad things from your relationship with them; because in your dreams about them you are meeting your feelings. And if you do not do this the negative memories or feelings about them will keep coming back.
So try doing this by taking the dream images and pulling them back into your body. Yes, literally making them one with you. Do this slowly and allow any feelings that arise. This may sound strange but all the images in our dreams are projections from us onto the screen of our sleeping mind; so taking them back into you is like owning them and integrating them. It is called honouring what we feel.
Think of it like digesting something. In a relationship, whether a feeling relationship or one in which you are learning something, you often absorb things from the situation. You might take in such things unconsciously, as you did many things from parents and from the culture you were raised in. So the process of absorption in a dream may refer to such influences you are taking in. Obviously you need to feel the good and the bad emotions linked with them. That is not necessarily easy.
There is a double signification. It is to “consume” and to “con¬summate.” It means – both in a literal and a figurative sense – to take something into ourselves and make it part of ourselves, either for our substance or satisfaction, or for our completion or perfecting in some way.
When we digest, whether it is an idea, something we have read or learned, it has to be first surrendered to the life process. We can see this in our body – it is first chewed and swallowed, then broken down into parts and the useful stuff, the building stuff, can be taken into us and the rest is passed out. The important thing is that even if it is dead or living food, it is transformed into our own living being – in other words our living understanding. If it has not been transformed through digestion it is like something dead inside us. But to be capable of such digestion we must swallow the experience and allow our unknown self to do its work
We transform it by giving it to the fire within us that burns as our life process. So if you are troubled by dreams such as experiences, the best way to deal with them is to work on integrating the influence left in you from it. You can do this by thinking about the dreams about your experience and drawing on all you got from it. So I would suggest you integrate all the good and bad things. Give them a good chew and then swallow.
Tony