Peaceluv – Thanks for writing your experiences so clearly. You are describing something that says you are much more than you usually see yourself as. I will ask you to red some links that hopefully will explain what is taking place.
In life and sleep we have two powerful actions working in us. The first is our waking experience based on having a body, its limitations, vulnerabilities and a particular gender. Our second is the power that gave us life and continues to express as spontaneous movement in dreams, in our breathing and heartbeat – our life. This I have given the description as the Life Will.
While we sleep our conscious self is largely or totally unconscious, and while we sleep and dream our voluntary muscles are paralysed – therefore another will or motivating force moves our body. So we have a Conscious Will, and what I will call a Life Will. The first one we have experience of as we can move our arm or speak in everyday activities; but the second will takes over when we sleep.
This Life will can move us to speak, to move our body, and in fact do things that we cannot do with our Conscious Will, all that while we sleep and dream. As Freud pointed out this inner will has full access to our memories. It can do so many other things that are described else where – See
http://dreamhawk.com/interesting-people/edgar-cayce-and-the-cosmic-mind-superminds/ For simplicity I have called this experience, of what is actually waking lucid dreaming, ‘LifeStream’. It would take us too far out of looking at dreams to explore it. See
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/the-waking-lucid-dream/ and
http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/peoples-experiences-of-lifestream/ I hope in reading the above you can put the pieces together and maybe realise that you are stuck between the conscious Will and the Life Will. We are led to believe that we are or should be in control of our life. That is only partly true, because at base we are Life Itself expressing through us, and unless we can give it freedom to really express we suffer all manner of neuroses – depression, sleep problems, movements we are not in control of, crushed by our emotions, etc, etc. See
http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/lifes-little-secrets/ and
http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/peoples-experiences-of-lifestream/In other words, the Life Will (LW) has partly made you aware of its workings by causing sleep paralysis, then you “started moving out of my control”, which is the LW trying to express fully. But you ask, “How do I get more control of the dreams?” That is what causes the problem. You need less control see
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/control-controlled-not-controlling/ Perhaps it would help by exploring
http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/opening-to-life/ Tony