Hi there! I decided to get help- at 42 years old- this past weekend with my tiredness after sex. I found Tony's wonderful article and wanted to find out a way to contact Tony (you) directly. Perhaps you can recommend a good therapist to start exploring my negative associations with sex or perhaps you yourself are a therapist. I do have insurance or would pay out of pocket- as I am alone, never married, and am realizing the ties between this reaction to sex and my solitaire. I really appreciate your kind way of writing and exploration into this issue. I hope you can assist me or perhaps offer a referral I am in the Los Angeles area. Thanks and best, Karen