This gives me some hope. My ex recurs in my dreams often. My hope is that this means there is a mutual connection. I fear that she is entering into a dark phase in life. I feel that one of the biggest reasons she turned away from me is through the influence of other people. She lives 1000 miles away and I couldn't afford (literally) to be there when we started having problems. I sense that people from her work and people in her family have been and are directing her away from me. Throughout our relationship it was always apparent the power other's opinion had over her. Then again, maybe this is just wishful thinking. Anyways, if my intuition is correct then I believe the only thing I can do is to be absent, to give her the space and time to see this. No one ever effected how I dealt with her. If I had listened to my family, my friends, we wouldn't have made it 3 months, much less 4 years.