SunChaser - Wow! A dream theme I haven’t heard before, and interesting
There are two possible ways of looking at this, and I will look at the most obvious first. I am not sure why it started in a youthful setting, unless you ere interested in the mind in your early years. But the rest is fairly clear.
The man running the house seems to be a powerful action in you that is interested in deepening your understanding and insight into your consciousness - into you. The interest may have started in your youth, but has now become more important. What you perceived was an action that brought the beginnings of awareness of your unconscious, and the action was shown as the man.
Such growing awareness is often felt as a foreign agent acting on you - your personality - because what we call ourselves/me/I is just a tiny part of us. So any interference with our self image can feel a threat. Please read
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/autonomous-complex/ and the next piece read on to where it mentions our reaction to the unconscious
http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/what-we-need-to-remember-about-us-3/#ImportantI feel that is what your dream is about, but there is a slight chance that someone put thoughts or feelings into you in a subtle way while you were young and you are becoming aware of them now. If that is so try being the guy in charge and see what you feel.
This might be understandable because some years ago I had an experiences that I feel might explain your dream. Once was while in Australia after meeting and talking with my wife to her brother in-laws brother; a little while after I felt as if something had poisoned my mind in some way. Because I can delve into my unconscious I investigated the cause and found that the man had subtly suggested things to put me down, and the reason was he wanted to sleep with my wife. When we saw him again he immediately started saying things in an attempt to make me appear stupid.
Another time I felt I was literally going mad and even though I never drink alcohol I wanted to get drunk. But instead I drove out onto the moors and once more dived into myself. I went through – figuratively – every room of myself, and it all looked healthy. So then I asked what was causing the fuss and immediately was shown that my mother in law, who was staying with us had been saying things behind my back, suggesting that my wife get rid of me and then she and my wife could run the place.
When I got home my wife was out and then came back, so I asked her whether her mother had said something, and my wife admitted that in fact her mother wanted me out and wanted to run the place.
Tony