Love of self
The love of self does not mean the egoistic self love which drives people to preen and advertise themselves and hoping that everyone will see them and admire. The love of self as far as our inner being is concerned is the acceptance and integration of all aspects of oneself.
To do this we could start with our parents – not the outer parents who may have given us hell, but our inner parents. We often forget that we carry within us fantastic amounts of information about anyone we have lived with, loved or hated. Even an absent parent is a huge figure in our inner life. We have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with someone and they are what makes you the person you are. Read this wonderful example, it will show how much we take in from those we love or lived with.
In dreams we meet them again and again in ex’s, in lovers lost or in the figure of parents. For we are not dreaming about them but the memories, hurts, lessons and experiences stored within us. Everyone we have known are in fact figures of our inner world. To become whole, to love ourselves we must meet, acknowledge and integrate the people we carry within us.
You can only love others when you love all the aspects of self, everything from the lowest to the highest. That sort of love balances itself. You can only love others when you love in that way, because other people are so varied, from sinner to saint, and even the ordinary person is different to you, and so to love them you have to love all the differences in yourself otherwise you cannot love another person completely. See Love - Digest – Life’s Little Secrets – Dreaming of an ex - Beware of Love