Posts Tagged ‘dreaming’

Adore Adoration

Anything that we adored deeply influences or penetrates us.  Therefore we open ourselves to the influence of what is being adored.

If you are being adored:

Being loved is a very healing feeling. You might be experiencing this in your dream because you need it. Or perhaps you have achieved a greater ability to love and this is a result of that. There is of course a possibility you have an inflated sense of yourself.

What is it I adore, and what possible influence will it have on me?

If I am observing this in someone else, what is the object of love and how do I feel about it?

If this is an uplifting experience, can I observe this in my waking life at any time?

Worshipping:

Opening oneself to the influence of what is being worshipped – an idea, a person, an object.

Worshipped:

Inflated sense of self, unless you are meeting your own core self and feel it is holy.

Admit or Admitting

This might be showing something you have found difficult to recognise about yourself or another person, therefore it might be about arriving at new insight. Sometimes admitting something arises through a confrontation of some sort. It might be in connection with your need for someone. This might be difficult to accept because of dependence. In some dreams it shows new levels of self acceptance.

Useful questions:

What relevance does what is being admitted have on your waking life?

If there was difficulty in admitting, can you recognise what the difficulty was or is?

Can you consciously accept what was revealed?

It can help if you use Processing Dreams.

Admiration

As a child we need our parents admiration and praise in order to unfold our potential. Also, admiring qualities in others is one of the ways we shape our own direction and choices. So it is useful to take note of what is being admired in yourself or another person, and how that is reflected in your life.

Admiring someone else:

This may be a straight forward awareness of your feelings about that person or a recognition of those qualities in yourself. It might be a sign of personal success and confidence; probably indicating qualities in the person you either have yourself but may not be recognising, or else qualities you would like or need to have.

Being admired:

Feeling good about yourself; recognising things about yourself you may have overlooked; positive self-image; confidence. On the other hand it might be a compensatory dream expressing the need to be admired due to your low self esteem. If the dream stresses the situation making you a figure of great admiration, it may suggest an inflated opinion of yourself or a strong need for approval and acclaim from others. See: emotions and mood.

Idioms: Lost in admiration.

In some dreams, and in some fantasy work, a sense of enormous appreciation or admiration often arises. June Dunlap, in her book Exploring Inner Space, describes such a feeling of admiration – experienced while feeling herself to be a fly – in the following way – ‘At frequent intervals I would swoop down, alight, rub my graceful back legs together, and admire the opalescence of my delicate sunlit wings. Totally without egotism but with deep satisfaction, I stated repeatedly, ‘I’m beautiful. No one else thinks so, but I really am.’’ Such feelings of admiration and awareness of beauty about oneself are often more direct, and arise as a sense of enormous appreciation of what has been achieved or met in your life. The admiration often results in feelings of love for yourself, which is very healing.

Useful questions:

What is it that is being admired, and am I aware of those qualities in myself?

Can I allow the good feelings about myself or another person?

Am I feeling low at this time and needing appreciation?

Is this a recognition of an emerging quality, or am I compensating for not receiving enough attention?

Adjacent – Adjoining

This suggests a strong connection with the dreamer, or what is wanted or being worked toward. For instance in Japan, rocks or trees that are close together are sometimes seen as married or linked. Dreams use the same sort of symbology to suggest a more than surface connection with someone or some aspect of life. There could also be the suggestion of confrontation or discovery – being near something in this case meaning that we can no longer escape meeting it, or it is near at hand in the sense of being discovered or experienced. The example below shows adjacent as depicting difficult feelings near at hand that the dreamer meets.

Example: I had a dream in which my best friend, her 4-year-old daughter, and myself were staying in this huge old, Victorian style house. My friend put her daughter to bed in another room, and we went in the adjoining room to watch a movie. My friend fell asleep and then all of the sudden, her daughter came screaming into the room, covered in blood. I didn’t actually see what happened, but I knew instantly that a crocodile had attacked her and bitten her legs off. I tried waking up her mother and I was holding her (the child) in my arms and crying. Then I woke up. The dream was so realistic, and when I awoke I was covered in sweat and shaking really bad. The dream upset me so much that I didn’t tell anyone about it. A week later, I found out two other friends had dreams in which this little girl was also attacked by a crocodile. What could this possibly mean? A.R.E. dream.

The dream suggests a close and perhaps psychic connection with the girl and her mother.

Useful questions:

What or who am I feeling connected to or near at this time?

What is the influence of this connection?

Adhesive

See Glue

Address

This represents your present life situation and all it links to. It also may depict the way you live and what you feel about your way of life, your living area, and the locality of it. It therefore indicates feelings about your present style of life.

Another person’s address: The condition or life situation of the person as it applies to you. You will need to look for clues as to what your dream is telling you about this. It might be suggesting contact.

New address: A change; – or hopes for or fear of a change.

Past address: The person you were, the traits you developed, what you faced in life at that time.

To forget or lose your address: To lose sight of your goals or standards in life, or who you are. This suggests a loss of connection with, or a break down of, the feelings and motivations that usually give you purpose and drive. Thus one would experience a sort of confusion about ‘where you live’ i.e. your place in life and connection with others. See: house; home.

Useful questions:

What address is this…home, work…someone else’s address?

Does the situation or quality of the address describe something in my own life?

If I said I was going home, what situation would I be going home to – happiness; loneliness?

What is the quality of the locality in which I live, and what do I feel about it?

Adder

Is not usually a dangerous snake, thought it can poison you. So like any snake it can represent danger, and often your own poisonous emotions. See Snake

Serpent

See Snake.

Actions

The energy of your life is an expression of life itself. It is the stuff of creation or destruction. So it can be a way you move toward satisfaction and well being, or toward self destruction and illness. therefore it is incredibly important to know how to use your energy in a way that brings happiness to yourself and others. This is not always easy, because some self-destructive urges or dispositions have been deeply etched into us by early childhood events and examples.

But as you lie sleeping, your dream actions reveal whether you are using your potential toward self-destructive behaviour, toward illness, or toward unfolding your possibilities and connection with others.

As an extreme example of this, a man dreamt he was watching a man who insisted on living in a small stable like room that was foul with his own faeces and urine. He wouldn’t go out or clean the room, and his clothes too were filthy. He wouldn’t be helped, but blamed his condition on anything and anyone but himself.

This dream was a turning point for the dreamer because it showed so clearly how he was making excuses for the attitudes of despair, of helplessness, of being disadvantaged, that he had lived in all the time. Realising this he had a big internal clean-up of the feelings and thoughts he had accepted as true.

Other common actions such as standing, running sitting, can have profound meaning in your dreams. For instance are you really standing in your life and expressing the positive and confident potential that you have? Are you running away from yourself in some way? Are you sitting waiting for life to happen, or are you up on the stage of your life expressing what is in you? And remember that there is always creative action. If you fought the establishment head on you might get knocked down – but a singer can do the same and be acclaimed.

The meaning depends entirely on what the action is, so it is helpful to get at the root of the action. For instance are you active or passive; are you creative or destructive; are you going somewhere or coming from somewhere? After defining the action go to the entry describing this. Suggestions are: active/passive; movements; positions; postures movements and body language; running; struggle.

Useful Questions and Hints:

What am I trying to achieve through my action?

Am I involved with someone else in this, and in what way?

What does this action express?

How does this involve me with anybody else?

Am I active or passive?

What feelings are involved in this?

Is there a theme I am expressing.

Try Processing Dreams; Dream Visualisation and What do You bring to Your Dreams?

Black Person

Depends which skin colour the dreamer has.

If white: I you dream of a black person it suggests one’s natural drives, urges, longings and emotions uncluttered by intricate social taboos; whatever feelings you have about coloured or black people; or if person is known, what you feel about them. It could also represent your unexpressed or repressed self – a ‘shadow’ figure – therefore it sometimes depicts a depressed or unaccepted area of oneself; feeling downtrodden or underhanded. But often it is the joy of expressing a part of you usually buried under social conditioning.

If black or brown: Your own cultural feelings; same as any ‘person’ dream. See: people; archetype of the outsider.

Black man: Strength; masculinity; wisdom about the unconscious or about meeting the contents of ones unconscious. In many dreams it is often felt as threatening. See Nothing Can Hurt You in Your Dreams.

Black woman: Femininity; womanhood and motherhood; wisdom about relationships, sexuality and birth.

Example: ‘ I was in a cubicle or small toilet with a very black woman. She told me there was something wrong with her vagina. She was undressed. I rubbed her vagina and we both felt enormous passion. I then awoke but couldn’t at first remember the dream. I have refrained from sexual intercourse for some weeks, as I always feel shattered/tired after ejaculation. Anyway I awoke very wet yet couldn’t remember any orgasm. I could remember some question of sex as I awoke. Then I remembered the dream and continued it in fantasy. I experienced powerful urges to find a woman to have a non committed sexual relationship with. But in the end I wanted to share my feelings with my wife, but she seemed deep asleep and unresponsive. When I slept again I dreamt I was in London, had got off one bus, but was not at my destination. I was standing about not making a move to find my direction. Then I began to look.’ Fred C.

To understand the above dream in some depth it is helpful to think of the sexual and emotional drives as a flow, like a river. As such they can be blocked, in which case they will seek an alternative route. The dream is not simply about sexual sensation, but also passion. The flow of passion and sexual energy are not simply mechanical things, they are also deeply feeling in their connection with the most profound sides of human life such as parenthood and the caring and providing for young, and our social contact with the people around us. In the history of white people a great deal of frustration has arisen out of the ideas of sin and guilt in their religion. A view arose for the white race that the black races had an easier and less frustrating relationship with the NATURAL. So when Fred dreams of the black woman, he is meeting what is natural and flowing in himself, but which he has blocked by his will because of his struggle with his feelings and sexuality. This is why the black woman has a problem with her vagina. The part about the bus shows Fred trying to find a direction in which his sexual feelings could move satisfyingly in connection with other people. The conflict he has is also shown in waking by his desire to find a woman to have uncomplicated sex with – thus his unsuccessful attempt to share his sexual flow with his wife.

Example: Dream references were made to a black man, a black-tie tuxedo, and a black light. The group was puzzled over what to make of this reference to “blackness.” Jean revealed that during her early adolescent years she was referred to as “Blacky” by her family and that this name was always uttered in a context of extremely negative evaluation regarding her. Further consideration of how extensively the negative “Blacky” self-image had been incorporated by Jean caused her to re-examine how some of her own inputs may have been contributing to the marital tension. Extract from The Dream Journey by Marie Fay, a feature which appeared in Sundance magazine, Summer 1979.

Unfortunately, as Jung points out in Man and His Symbols, people in modern society, whether black, yellow, brown or white, have lost their sense of nature and the cosmos as being anything other than processes without consciousness or living feeling. Jung says, ‘No river contains a spirit, no tree is the life principle of a man, no snake the embodiment of wisdom…No voice now speaks to man from stones, plants, and animals, nor does he speak to them believing they can hear.’

The importance of dreams such as Fred’s is that it shows the passionate relationship between his personality and the primitive and natural. A black person born and bred in a modern setting, would most likely dream of a black bushman to depict their own natural drives. See: identity and dreams; Africa; sex in dreams.

Useful Questions and Hints:

What are my feelings about and impressions of this black man/woman? For help doing this see Talking As.

Are sexual feelings in the dream, and if so what do they suggest about the way I relate to sex?

How am I relating to the black person and can this be improved?

Try using Easy Dream Interpretation.