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Dream Understanding

An example will be used to show how to arrive at a dream’s meaning from use of the Dream Dictionary entries. It is important to first write the dream down as fully as possible. Don’t stint on the use of words. Be descriptive. Then take the very opening scene of the dream and look it up in the appropriate entry.

Example: I was standing in the back garden of a house – one of a row of terraced houses. Each garden was fenced and ran down to a large drainage ditch. It seemed to be raining and water was filling the drainage ditch. The water was backing up into the gardens because something was blocking the ditch. It started rising up my legs. It was quite hot. I realised this was because hot water was running out of the baths and sinks in the houses. I felt I must get out of the gardens. Not only because of the water, but because of how people might feel if they saw me in their garden. I managed to find a way into a farm yard where I felt relaxed.’ Ted F.

The first scene here is Garden. On a piece of paper separate to the dream, write Garden, with space for notes to be put beside it. The entry on Garden in the Dictionary says – Your garden dream often reveals what you are doing with your latent possibilities. It is pointing out whether you have cultivated your abilities, or buried them. A garden is sometimes a place of love in a dream. In which case it can denote what is growing or dying in your relationship. Another garden theme is connected with activities we do in the garden, like pets we keep, or work done.

The words Houses – Raining – Hot water – Fences – Farmyard need to be looked up and relevant comments written down next to each word. In doing this with his dream, Ted ended up with the following. But it is important for you to see what you feelings are and whether any of what is said applies to you. It doesn’t matter if the entry on garden doesn’t contain what is said in your dream. Instead you can say, ‘None of those things apply, but the entry has made me remember my dream garden is a place of pain where a terrible incident happened to me.’

But Ted had other associations and wrote:

GARDEN – The growth and changes occurring in my life at present.

ROW OF HOUSES – Other people.

RAINING – Depressed feelings or difficulties; emotions which take away enthusiasm and act as a barrier to action; tears and emotional release – an outpouring; other peoples emotions ‘raining’ on me.

HOT WATER – Emotions. In the Idioms is ‘hot water’ suggesting I have got myself in trouble.

FENCES – Social boundaries.

FARMYARD – Where my natural drives such as sexuality, parenthood, love or fellowship, are cared for or expressed.

When Ted added his own associations to this the dream became fully understandable to him and read like this:

I am going through a lot of changes at the moment – the garden. These are to do with allowing myself to have a warm but non sexual relationship with women. I have always been too dragged along by my sexuality in the past. Just a few days before the dream I was in a ‘growth’ group. I had made friends with a woman there, Susan, who I was warm with, but not sexually. The group work required some close physical contact, and I and another man worked with Susan. It seemed to me to go without complications. A while afterwards a woman in the group came to me and with evident emotion, said I had made love publicly to my lover, meaning Susan. I had certainly been physically close to her and had felt at ease, but the viewpoint and feelings of the woman’s accusations, coupled with her threat to expose me to the authority figure in the group, bowled me over. This is the hot water in the dream. The fences are the boundaries people erect between their personal life and what is socially acceptable. For some days, up until understanding the dream, I felt really blocked up emotionally – the blocked drainage ditch. I cut off any friendship toward Susan. When I realised that in the Farmyard – the acceptance of natural feelings without neat little boundaries – I could feel at peace, I was able to allow my natural warmth again.

After writing the comments next to each dream image or setting, add any personal memories, feelings or associations, as Ted has. Put down anything which amplifies what has been dreamt. For instance a car is said to be ones drive and motivation in the entry on car. But it is helpful to add what personal feelings one has about ones car. Try imagining what the absence in ones life of the car, or house, etc., would mean.

A friend recently told me the absence of her car would mean loss of independence. So this was her personal association.

See Techniques for Exploring your Dreams

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-akshada 2010-10-09 21:50:13

i often have dreams like i’m trying to talk even scream sometimes but there’s no voice coming out of my throat…and this gets me crazy…makes me freak out..i try screaming on top of my voice, but there’s no voice at all.. have had this point in dreams in variations..feels as if when i want someone to hear me out, i cant speak witha volume..

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    -Tony Crisp 2010-10-15 10:23:59

    Akshada – There could be two reasons for this – or maybe the two are linked.

    Firstly, when we dream our voluntary muscles are paralysed. As you use voluntary muscles to speak it is probably the cause. But if you were deeply in the dream state you would not be using your muscles in your mouth and throat. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/sleep-paralysis/ for an explanation of this.

    However, it also suggests you are partly awake or lucid, and that is when the struggle begins. But it could also be that you have not developed the strength to stand before others and feel uncertain of yourself, your real passions. Here is the description a man said of his own struggle. Perhaps there is some truth in it for you.

    It seemed my heart, in hearing my song of life, realised I was surrounded by souls who were the shipwrecks of society. Alan, Leicester, Kevin, Bill, myself, were crippled by other human beings. Why didn’t I speak up for them – tell the story – accuse society of this carelessness and crime? Life, in the form of my friends and my body, cried to me to stand up. I felt ready to do that, but felt that if Life wanted me to say these things – to stand and represent it – to be an adult witness for the wider life – then I needed to be treated as an adult by life. I needed to be given the key to the door, so I could find certainty of my link with eternity, and not simply say – I believe. If I was going to tell people there was a wider life, then I needed to be able to move in it and know it as a certainty – not as a conjecture.

    When I asked about that, I felt as if energy was twisting and pulling deep in my being – showing and changing interior parts of me. Then I cried out in shock and my body twisted and struggled, because I felt as if a giant vista was opening before me. The vista was my last house in my eternal life – my previous life. I cried and struggled because I began to see myself as perhaps God sees me, a tiny, insignificant being, so full of his own importance and bragging. A person who hardly expressed anything of the qualities of the eternal life, yet thinks his life is so deserving of life’s preservation. I was humiliated and humbled by seeing myself as an Italian male – ready to shout and criticise anybody in authority; so full of his own opinions and feelings and being able to do things better, yet not daring ever to actually stand for anything, to take responsibility, to lead. I called him Brag.

    Tony

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-Greg B. 2010-10-11 22:54:03

Can you help me with a dream I had? I just can not make any since of it. I do not understand why it was so clear. Why it felt so real? I usually realize that I am dreaming but this felt real.

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    -Tony Crisp 2010-10-18 11:57:03

    Gregg – All I can say is that dreams can present themselves in many ways, and one way is to be very real.

    There are all sorts of options in this from sharing a dream with another person to out of body experiences. They are all real in their own way. But as you have not described your dream I cannot know.

    Tony

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-Brooke P. 2010-10-17 20:25:04

I was standing next to a tall building and I saw some guy I know walking in it. He had 50 people following after him wearing white robes. I followed them up the building to the top. We were told to kill ourself and we would come back to life different than normal humans. So I was wrapped up in a blanket and jumped head first off the building. I hit the ground and I could feel intense pain every where. I thought ” I love you Thomas ” (my boyfriend). Then i died and everything went black. I then remember standing over my friend who jumped off same building but wasnt fully dead yet. I felt bad that he was in pain and was looking in his eyes. I then smushed him like a bug with my foot so he would be out of his misery. ‘Brooke P

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    -Tony Crisp 2010-10-22 11:53:43

    Brooke – Thank you for sending this dream. As I tell people frequently – you cannot die in your dreams. I am intrigued by the White Robed figure. He sounds like your personal guru, talking a lot of sense – in dreams that is.

    So I am wondering whether you see this as just an interesting dream, or whether it has changed the way you feel about death?

    Tony

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-Jake 2011-05-18 4:11:30

The first thing I can remember is walking into a cave. It wasn’t dark or scary, and I actually like caves. I walked down a tunnel for a while, but it was well-lit. I came to a sharp corner and I could hear music playing. I turned the corner to see a huge, open room filled with flashing lights and music. It was still a cave, but there was a disco ball, a DJ, and strobe lights. In the middle of the room there was a large crowd of people, say around a hundred or so, dancing to the music. On the other side of the music I saw a staircase made of rock, as if it were part of the cave, and at the top was a door. I was not at all interested in the dancing and walked immediately to the steps. I climbed all the way to the top, which wasn’t very far, but the door was locked. Out of nowhere, a rather attractive girl from school appeared. She said that she had the key and that all I had to do was kiss her in order to get it. The strange thing is that she hates me in real life. So I did, and she opened the door. I walked in and she followed. We walked over to a window overlooking the dance floor. She tried to persuade me to turn around and go dance, but I refused. I was more curious to see what was further into the room. I walked a bit farther and came to a complete drop-off. It led into complete darkness, which is something I will admit to being afraid of. Leading off of the edge was a bridge made of unsteady boards, no more than a few inches wide. They were simply nailed together and about to fall apart. I had a mad obsession with going farther and farther into the cave, so I continued. I don’t know what got into me. I followed the bridge for a long while until it emptied into a trailer park. Most of the rest is shady, but I do remember running from some zombie-like creatures and making it back to the original cave room where everybody had left.
This dream was from a few years ago, and nobody has been able to interpret it. I admit it is very far-fetched, but I want to know if it symbolizes anything. Thanks.

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    -Tony Crisp 2011-05-28 12:02:34

    Jake – I feel you have a curiosity that has led you to wonder about life and its meaning. A cave is a representation of you looking under the surface of life – but only a little.

    You went into what is called the dream world or unconscious, but only as far as it was brightly lit. In other words what you had already known. Then you come across the people dancing, which is a first level of what people think life is all about – having fun. But you pass by that to dig deeper – isn’t there anything else?

    The stairs represent you beginning to move toward a shift of awareness, a higher viewpoint and you need to kiss the girl, an acknowledgement of how the energy of love and sex can be a way to go deeper. That is a key to open one door. But then you want to go even deeper into the mystery of Life – and you find a huge blackness. You were scared enough to avoid it, and fear is the way Life keeps its secrets from us. To go on despite fear is another key.

    When Lewis Carrol wrote Alice in Wonderland he knew full well what it meant to fall down a hole – in this case a rabbit hole. Falling means losing your control – which is absolutely necessary if you are to explore the mysterious. You cannot hold on to your conscious control and go to sleep for instance. To remain awake in such depths takes courage and perseverance. So at some time I would suggest you drop into the dark space. You cannot ever be hurt, but you can feel fear.

    The last part you meet those who are lost in such worlds.

    Tony

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-Ishita 2011-06-14 6:52:49

this is a kind of a weird dream…or maybe a sequence of dreams..or lives of different births.first one was like my friend was a kid and i was his mother…he felt exactly the same as a kid would..the warmth,the protection,etc etc.but he didnt see his father anywhere in the dream.he told me that i was too protective for my child(ie.him)
what does this mean?

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    -Tony Crisp 2011-06-21 11:02:46

    Ishita – Get rid of the idea that you are dreaming about your friend. That is like saying that when you think about your friend he is there with you. A dream is like thoughts and feelings put into living imagery.

    So you have a little boy who looks like your friend – he is your little boy, a part of you that you are rearing; an inner psychological part of you. He doesn’t have a father because you created him from yourself, your own mind and feelings.

    He doesn’t need too much protection because it is a part of you that wants to incorporate the male side of you, and be a bit more outgoing and active.

    Tony

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-Ishita 2011-06-14 7:11:04

continuing further…second one that my friend saw was tht we both were kids.not siblings.but yes we were pretty close to each other. and he saw god and godess as our parents..all the heavenly world were saying like we kids are the purest form of luv.the ultimate form of luv(just like atom is the indivisible part of a particle).there is noone pure than us…he even saw someone blessing us.some almighty’s hand but couldnt see the face as it was illuminated…it all then vanished in a second

third one goes like this…he saw me and himself as waves.not the huge ones but the ones tht subside when it reaches the shore..he saw some children playing by the shore..jumping on us(the waves)..some ladies(probably their mothers) were keeping a watch on their kids..the children didnt want to leave us(the waves) and evn the fishes like very small ones didnt want to die on being seperated from us….but again everythng just disappeared…

fourth one is that he saw both of us as scorpions..both of us were protected by other scorpions in the group.we were just left alone in the group without knowing what to do with each other.but then all of a sudden he attacked me and with his sting tried to strangle me to death..i was about to die but then he let me free and then he himself went to a place where he knew he would die..something like you walk into a fire on your own…but in his last breaths say for 2 secs or more he was just visualising my face although i(the scorpion) wasnt around..but then he got the happiest death ever and thats what he felt.

and before all this i had a dream.it was like the same friend of mine had come to my place with his cousin in a car.and we had a talk with each other…later he kissed me..then all of a sudden my parents and my brother turned up at my place and so he preferred to leave.my bro started questioning him on general terms.since my bro had some work he agreed to drop my bro on the way.and i somehow didnt want that to happen.i tried contactin my friend and at that moment he himself called up to say i love you and then the call disconnected..later i heard that he had met with an accident and was no more…

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    -Tony Crisp 2011-06-21 11:37:42

    Ishita – I can only try to comment on part of this dream because of its length and it has so many sides to it.

    Carrying on from what I said last time, that this is your inner boy, this is an interesting dream because it deal with the feelings of your own divinity and twin souls.

    You have to realise that you, your personality, is like a flower that grows from a bulb in the earth. It pushes up and produces a flower, and that flower – you – blooms, ages and dies. And all it experienced is drawn back into the bulb to create another flower.

    That bulb is what we call our Spirit – the eternal part that doesn’t die and is all things – male and female. So your dream looks at the purest love, where the male and female that you are unites, as it does in the Spirit.

    I feel as if you are trying to get through to a true vision of the Spirit but it is still a bit cloudy because of your beliefs – that all dream characters are real and represent things outside you.

    As for the waves, I feel that they never break:

    I am a wave on a shoreless sea.
    From no beginning
    I travel to no goal,
    Making my movements stillness.
    Constantly I am arriving
    And departing,
    Being born and dying.
    I am always with you
    And yet have never been.

    Tony

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-Ishita 2011-06-22 12:04:05

evrything that u said makes complete sense..i respect your time constraints…but what about the other parts..i’d like to put them again for u if u dont mind….
fourth one is that he saw both of us as scorpions..both of us were protected by other scorpions in the group.we were just left alone in the group without knowing what to do with each other.but then all of a sudden he attacked me and with his sting tried to strangle me to death..i was about to die but then he let me free and then he himself went to a place where he knew he would die..something like you walk into a fire on your own…but in his last breaths say for 2 secs or more he was just visualising my face although i(the scorpion) wasnt around..but then he got the happiest death ever and thats what he felt.

and before all this i had a dream.it was like the same friend of mine had come to my place with his cousin in a car.and we had a talk with each other…later he kissed me..then all of a sudden my parents and my brother turned up at my place and so he preferred to leave.my bro started questioning him on general terms.since my bro had some work he agreed to drop my bro on the way.and i somehow didnt want that to happen.i tried contactin my friend and at that moment he himself called up to say i love you and then the call disconnected..later i heard that he had met with an accident and was no more…

all this is really bothering me and if u can get me out of this i’d be really thankful to u….

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    -Tony Crisp 2011-06-30 14:08:43

    Ishita – In both these dreams death is the end of friendship. It sounds like, considering you are dreaming, a nice way of dropping any friendship.

    The scorpions show a great circle of poisonous friends, who could with their inturned stingers, be very critical or hurtful. If that was happening, even if you were unaware of it, then such cortical or negative feelings it would be undermining you, shown as nearly being murdered.

    Your brother probably represent a strong helpful side, and so the friend is carefully got rid of – in a loving way. I assume from this that you do not like and nasty things happening.

    Tony

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-Olivia Skelton 2011-09-18 11:29:46

I had a dream that the guy that I like says I’m hot at school

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    -Tony Crisp 2011-10-25 5:28:12

    Olivia – Well, it is your dream, and all the characters in your dreams are created by you – so obviously you need to know you are a hot number. Be careful though as being so hot you can burn yourself – and may be some others as well.

    Tony

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-Ellen 2011-11-19 17:12:27

Sorry mine is long. I’m a female and 16 years old.
I was running with a friend through my school that was different. The school seemed like it had more money because we were on the second level. We were searching for another person for a long time. Then I remembered in my dream that I had this dream before and I remembered where the room we were searching for would be. We went to the side of the gym but didnt see the room. The gym was locked, but right were the room should have been was a gorgous olden-time gold elevator. The person we were looking for was in the elevator, but the doors closed too quickly for us to catch that person. There was another elevator next to it (it was grey and normal) and we pushed the button to go up. Then the gold elevator opened without the person inside. We both went in the elevator and then it took off upwards. The top was open. Then people in my painting class and my teacher in my painting class were in there and when it stopped mid-air everyone floated up and almost fell out of the elevator. All of us quickly started to hold on the the golden bars and the elevator went sideways (with the top still open) and rotated but no one fell out. We finally got to a pitstop then the elevator turned into a couple of tables and everyone was holding on for dear life when the tables started floating. The tables were flinging everywhere but no one fell off. The tables landed on a forest floor and we all got out. The painting teacher told us we could either leave or win a prize, then gave us books on how to make animals then left. I looked around for supplies but there were none. Someone found a box of toys and I started pulling off heads of the toys and put them on other toys. One was a black Darth Vader head that I put on a black Minnie the Mouse body and for the base was a black Nike shoe. These toys were all very vivid to me. I didn’t get a prize then I left. I was in a car talking with a funny guy with a beard. We were driving in a truck towards a beautiful forest and listening to the radio. We got out and started hiking towards the top of the hill. When we got halfway I saw a meditation spot and we stopped there and meditated. We looked out at the forest and I thought it was so beautiful that I had to take a picture. He didn’t want me to but I did it anyways. When we got back to the car I said “Well we have 10 hours of song to pass our time.” Then we drove away from the forest. Later, when I was home, I looked at the picture and the beautiful picture of the forest was actually a horrid picture of a gross, burnt forest. Then the guy was still at the forest and he was looking at the forest and knew it was horrible, gross and burnt.

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    -Tony Crisp 2011-12-22 13:46:33

    Ellen – Well, in the first instance you are in a place of learning. You were running because you had glimpsed something and then lost sight of it but were seeking it – the man – again. You went to the gymnasium, a place that was originally for religious and physical pursuits.

    The golden elevator is, in dreams, a means by which you can elevate your mind and awareness. And in there you see what you were seeking. But such things are tricky and can be lost sight of. The open top elevator can be a sign of losing a grip on reality; but in fact you had a hold of the ‘golden bars’ suggesting that you managed to keep true to the central truth of what you believe.

    The forest floor suggests a return to the natural basis of your being after such a trip almost out of reality. There is so much information in your dream it has to be condensed. For the painting teacher is instructing you in the use of imagination and creativity. Obviously you didn’t quite succeed as there was no prize. Imagination is a vital part of creating your life; even more than that I believe that Imagination coupled with belief can create a hell on earth or a heaven here and now. It is what we believe as truth that creates our inner world. This is so obvious in dreams when people run in terror form the creations of their own imagination. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/travelling-your-dreams-the-wonder-of-imagination/

    And the end of the dream is an example of that. What is real?

    Tony

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-alli 2011-11-25 15:55:44

Hi Tony,
I often dream my fiancé’s ex wife – and I am really scared of her in my dreams, usually she tries to jeopardise our wedding (we are getting married in Summer in reality) by trying to hide or ruin my wedding dress or by showing shocking videos about the intimity they used to have. Thanks to your site in the last dream instead of running away from her I asked her what she wanted from us and she disappeared and we got married. But I am very anxious in my dreams when she appears. I wonder if you can help me understand the meaning of her presence in my dreams.
in reality I am very scared to not be up to her even though my fiancé do not want to hear talking about her since she hurt him very bad on suddenly leaving him after a few months of marriage and he never wanted to see her again – I’m very happy with him but I am as well very scared of the situation of silence and I do not know how to deal with these dreams and feelings. Is it too much to ask you advise please?

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    -Tony Crisp 2012-01-04 10:08:15

    Alli – The dreams are all a sign of your anxiety about the other woman. Because he was married to her it is like you feel you have to live up to the image you have of her.

    It isn’t an easy thing to let go of those worries, but if you can, as soon as you start to feel them stoop what you are doing and say to them, “I know you will ruin my marriage if I keep letting you bothering me. So I am closing the door on you. I know from experience where these thoughts lead, and I know if I let them they will lead me to the same place over And over – despair – and I do not want to keep going there.”

    You will need to do this many times, but it will gradually ease and you will feel fine.

    Tony

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-Shenai Murray 2012-03-06 23:23:22

I am a 22 yo Female and my partner is a 24 yo Male, we have a 7.5 month old son together.
The dream started as I recall with me and my partner at his very close friends house who I will refer to as ‘K’.The mother of K’s son who I will call ‘N’ was there with me and my partner as we stood in the hall way outside K’s room. N was wearing nothing but a towel which started to slip down but she made no effort to pick it up so it fell to the floor leaving her fully exposed. I stepped infront of my partner so he couldn’t see and I confronted her about which turned into an argument.
A few of K’s friends (males) came over and were all in his room then his sister came with her friends (girls) and they went in a separate room.
I remember going into K’s room lookin for my partner but he wasn’t there so I went into the room where N was with all the girls. When I looked in my partner was there with one of the girls on her knees taking his trousers down. I asked him what do you think you’re doing and his reply was ‘ I want to have sex babe’ obviously with all those girls. That’s when I woke up

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-Deborah Gordon 2012-06-04 4:28:06

In this dream I was standing in a dim light hallway of a nursing home. I stood looking a my ex-man friend sitting in a recliner chair,however the chair was in a upright position. The chair with him in it was sitting outside of the room but blocking the doorway to the room. He was asleep with his chin resting on his chest and he had a oxygen nasal tube in his nose. I could not see if the oxygen extension was connected to a oxygen tank. His chair was position where he would be facing down the hall and at the end of the hall was a room with a dim light and the wall was a unpleasant yellow. Lying on the floor was the woman he is now with. She is lying on a palate or some type of thin air mattress. She has a royal type attitude of herself. She has two other women in the room sitting with her talking and one women standing in her doorway. She says something to the woman in the doorway and the woman looks down the hall at my ex than back to his woman friend and say something regarding him. His woman friend makes a gesture and face expression showing contour of him. To my self I am asking him, “How did you let this happen to you?” Next, I am in a dark hospital room and there is a commotion of people with a woman on a bed. One of the workers says to me that they can not get her to keep her C-pap mask on. I walk over to pull the mask on her and change my mind, saying her only needs to wear the oxygen c-pap mask at night when she is asleep. Next, I am in a well lit emergency waiting room. My ex is there smiling and sitting on a bench talking with my oldest sister. She say to him, “Come on and go with us.” He continue to smile and say, “No, I think I better wait here.” I felt sad for him, but also detached . The dream ends there. Reply

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    -Tony Crisp 2012-06-07 8:39:18

    Deborah – Considering you are not dreaming about your ex but the feelings you have about him, the dream theme is about the difficult feelings you have about the woman he was with.

    In the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form of the people, objects and places of our dream. Therefore our sexual drive may be shown as a person and how we relate to them; or given shape and colour as an object; or given mood as a scene. Our feeling of ambition might thus be portrayed as a business person in our dream – our changing emotions as the sea or a river; while the present relationship we have with our ambition or emotions is expressed in the events or plot of the dream.

    So the important things in your dream are the dim lighting and his illness. But that all disappears at the end of the dream when he is by himself with you and your sister, then the lighting changes showing a big change of mood. And at the end you felt sad and detached, suggesting the dream was a way of working out your feelings for him. Through years of being with him you carry part of his life and he is part of you – through memories and living experiences. It is probably through that you dream of him.

    Tony

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-Emily 2012-07-10 22:41:57

I had a dream that my ex-boyfriend was being held prisoner in this huge fort/castle type building, and I managed to break in and get to him. But then once i got him out of the cell he was in, someone grabbed me and pulled me back in and started burning my arm with cigarettes. My ex was pulling my legs trying to get me out. And I wasnt screaming but it hurt. I was totally aware of what was going on but had no control over it. Then I woke up.

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    -tehreen 2012-08-14 21:40:49

    i liked a guy who lives in my
    neighbour hood for 3 and half
    years! It was a very strong crush!
    I have even cried out many a
    times to forget him nd finally
    managed to do so with the help
    of my friends & cousins! I never
    talked to that guy face to face,
    we had a couple of chats but that
    were just fights about he
    spreading rumors about me! I
    did not ever tell him abt my crush
    on him bt i came to know thru
    sm of my mutual frnds dat he
    also lykd me! As far as i know
    him hez not a nyc person as in
    nature wise,
    hes actually an asshole bt i dnt
    know inspite of knowing
    everythng i still lykd him!
    Now i dnt like him
    anymore ,neither do i think abt
    him, bt since 1 past year i dream
    abt him every mnth nd dat makes
    me sick! I dream abt all the
    situations that hav already
    happened btw us nd abt i talking
    to him fr the frst txm, nd dat we
    are now good friends nd while
    dreaming i feel that its a dream
    nd i slap my self or pinch my self
    in the dream it self to assure
    myslf its not a dream! I literally
    cry when i get up nt bcz i want
    that prsn in my lyf bt b cz m fed
    up with these thoughts. These
    dreams are lyk nightmares ,i dnt
    want them nd want to get rid of
    them! I once wrote a poem to
    get out the feelings within me or
    to stop the dreams n all bt it ddnt
    help!
    I want internal peace, plz vell me
    the meaning of these dreams nd
    the sol to it infact now i lyk some
    one else nd dnt want any such
    dreams

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      -Tony Crisp 2012-08-19 10:55:11

      Tehreen – You are not dreaming about him but you create an image of him out of all the feelings and memories you carry in you. So in a way it is not your ex you are dealing with but yourself. We cannot have a mass of experience with someone and move away without it influencing us. Life is, in a very real way, a learning experience, and every new experience has to be fitted into what we are learning.

      In the world of dreams our most intimate fears and longings are given an exterior life of their own in the form of the people, objects and places of our dream. Therefore our sexual drive may be shown as a person and how we relate to them; or given shape and colour as an object; or given mood as a scene. Our feeling of ambition might thus be portrayed as a business person in our dream – our changing emotions as the sea or a river; while the present relationship we have with our ambition or emotions is expressed in the events or plot of the dream.

      So your dreams are showing you your inner feelings about the past relationship. The best way to deal with them is to work on integrating the influence left in you from the relationship. You can do this by thinking about the dreams about your ex are about drawing on all you got form him. So I would suggest you integrate all those good things. Try doing this by taking the dream images of your ex and pulling them back into your body. Yes, literally making him one with you. Do this slowly and allow any feelings that arise. This may sound strange but all the images in our dreams are projections from us onto the screen of our sleeping mind; so taking them back into you is like owning them and integrating them. It is called honouring what we learned, bad or good, from the relationship. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions/#AnEx

      Tony

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        -tehreen 2012-08-26 21:59:26

        thnkew so much sir for ur suggestion! I am really gratefull to u !! As u said ‘ work on integrating the influence left in you from the relationship ‘ ,can you please explain it a bit more clearly and tell me wat do u actually mean! One of my frnds said that if u dream of talking to him face to face , u should do that in reality as well as u have never faced him nd talked to him! She said i think at some point u wantd to talk to him ,since dat thing never happened nd something within u was left incomplete so u should talk to him,every1 say dat hez still there in my sub consious mind dat iz y i dream abt him! since class 9th i liked him till the mid of class 12th! He dosnot know anythng abt it! In mid 12th there came a guy in my lyf who iz really nyc nd loves me,cares abt me a loott, since then my crush strarting fading on my ex-crush, nd gradually i strd feeling for the guy ,this had never happened earlier , earlier i couldnot think abt any1 xcpt my x-crush ! Nw Those sudden dreams disturb me mentally nd when i tell abt them to any1 , ppl feel irritatd nd fail to understand why do i get such dreamz nw when i dnt lyk him nd do not even think abt him! Nd besides dreams,once in a mnth i am reminded of him nd i cry nd i really dnt know the reason! I dnw want him back! Today also i cried thinking abt him bt why ? I dnt know? Now its over 4 nd half yrs, why cant i forget him? It makes me feel sick now! I even fail to understand why did i ever lyk him ?i hav nvr talked to him, its jst dt we usd to c each odr almst everyday fr 3 yrs? Then Why were my feelings so strng dat even aftr 4 yrs i still dream abt him!! & hez a kind of person from whom a girl wants to stay away frm!btw should i send that poem to u??i wrote it in mid 12th !
        Pleaze suggest smthng as soon as possible! Thank u

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-JaidaBee 2012-10-25 10:24:45

I had a dream I just cannot understand. I was at a salon getting a body wrap and there was so much waste coming out of me. I went to a room and saw two children watching their mom taking a sand bath but she wouldn’t stop eating the sand. I thought it was so gross so I left them. Then I saw my great figure after the body wrap but a few hours after that I was back in line at the McDonalds and I had to make a point to order a salad.

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-bridgette 2013-05-31 6:21:07

I dreamed a man was standing in front of my mirror naked. At first glance it looks like an ex lover. Then it looks like the cop that was at my house. Then I was standing in front of the mirror naked. I dreamed I was standing in front of a mirror. I was naked. I look sexy. I had a potbelly that looked sexy and healthy. What does this mean?

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