The Baby In Your Dream

Your dream baby is very special to you. It doesn’t matter that perhaps the baby in your dream is the child of another woman, it is still the baby of your dream. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? Or perhaps it is about vulnerability. Therefore the answers you give to the following questions are important in helping you discover the truth about your dream baby.

Example: I have had 2 dreams now where I am pregnant and there are 3 possibilities for the dad! 3. And usually its a pair of brothers (different each time) and another person (cant remember exactly who, once it was my ex bf I think). Weird right? Why would I have this dream? I am married and had a baby over a year ago.

Your dream baby is very special to you. Like any baby, it is something new and vulnerable that has come to life – come to your life. The important question is, what is it that is new and growing in your love, in your work, or in yourself? Such a baby is a new part of yourself that you have formed out of your life experiences and so is enlarging you. Take care of it and see what it adds to your life.

However, if you are pregnant or hoping for a baby at the time of the dream, your dream baby may be reflecting your hopes, fears or intuitions about pregnancy. Many pregnant women have very anxious or strange dreams about their baby. So do not feel that such dreams are predictions. They are often ways of releasing anxiety or of expressing hopes regarding your unborn child.

If you have given birth to a baby in a dream, it can represent a new phase of life; a new idea; new activity – as when we say someone has a new baby, meaning a new project or business. This ‘baby’ might be part of you that did not have a chance to be ‘born’ or express before. Or it may be things learned in a rich life that you could not put into practice because of circumstances. The baby in this aspect is the ‘you’ that could have been if you had been free from problems and past hurts.

How would you describe the condition or situation of the baby?

The baby in your dream might be hungry or ill. It might be wonderfully advanced and already able to speak. Whatever the condition, this is a description of what is happening with the newly emerging or vulnerable part of you. Therefore try to put into words what you see or feel the condition of the baby is.

As an example of this, here is a fragment from a man’s dream: ‘I am responsible for bringing up a baby boy. I feel very happy about it and feel committed to it.’ So in this case the condition of the baby is that of being loved and cared for.

What does it mean when I give birth to a dream baby without a father?

If you have given birth without any man involved, it suggests it is a virgin birth – i.e. no male partner was involved at the time.

So the dream baby born to you in this way a wonderful creative act between you and Life. It is a new part of you that if you let it gradually grow into your waking life as a new force, a new way of feeling about life and acting. Being pregnant like that is very important. Obviously you are not going to give birth to a physical baby, but dream babies are important too.

Many women dream of giving birth without any man involved. Virgin birth is normal part of dreaming. It means that the woman or young girl has conceived as a process of Life. Being a virgin represents the human soul or psyche and its possibility of dropping pre-conceptions, thus attaining an inner virginity and through that being receptive to the unseen or unconscious side of self. Joseph Campbell in his book “Myths To Live By” says – “There are myths and legends of the Virgin Birth, of Incarnations, Deaths and Resurrections; Second Comings, Judgements and the rest, in all the great traditions. And since such images stem from the psyche (from you and your dreams), they refer to the psyche. They tell us of its structure, its order, and its forces, in symbolic terms.”

For instance, the story and events surrounding the virgin birth, when looked as if a dream are not about a biological miracle, but about how as ordinary people, we can drop our preconceptions, our fixed ideas and beliefs and allow an entirely new and creative impulse into our life. This truth has been so venerated that we find virgin figures all over the world such as Maya the mother of Buddha born 500 BC; the virgin mother of Osiris, and of course the story told of Mary.

Being a virgin in this case is about having a mind free from previous ‘conceptions’ and so being open to Life itself fertilising you for a new and precious thing being born. If you are not a virgin because you have had children, that is not what virgin birth is about. It is about conceiving without any mental preconceptions, having an open and receptive mind or soul. it is about a wonderful human possibility.

Only a ‘virgin birth’ can bring forth the birth of an intuition, a new response to oneself and ones environment, that transforms ones life. This is a living relationship with the mystery which underlies our life. If we generate a child in this way, we are not held prisoner by habits of thought, stereotypes of behaviour, then we can begin to allow into our waking life what was previously impossible to know. This open state of mind and feelings, acts as a link between the identity or personality, and the deep unconscious life processes. This link allows a birth of realisations and inner change that brings healing and a possibility of experiencing the aspect of oneself that is our core self. Here is an example of a man giving birth to the wonderful child.

“Was in a basement where my wife and a woman I loved was giving birth to a baby, but I was somehow the one who gave birth to it without a doctor being there. It was a lovely boy. Its lower face was covered by a tight caul, but I pulled this off and it began to breathe. It opened its eyes and looked about, fully conscious; then said something about Jesus, and, “It is gone!” I asked what had gone, and it replied, “The other ego; where has it gone?” I explained that the spirit self it knew before birth was now gone so it could live in the body. The baby was then taken upstairs, and I felt it was a holy and wonderful baby. I was going to rest from the rigours of the birth, but on looking around saw how dusty and dirty the basement was. I began to clean it, and felt I would go upstairs and rest afterwards.”

This was a dream marking a real change in the man’s life. The man did work at cleaning his basement/unconscious and then began to go upstairs to his wider awareness.

Example:  “I had a baby girl, but I had no idea who the father was. I’m dating someone now, so I figured it was his, but she didn’t look like him at all. I remember I started going through this list of men I’d been with recently”.

A way to understand this dream is that you have given birth to a new part of yourself and your inner male is the father. This is said because of your uncertainty about who the father was, and that your baby girl did not look like the present partner. /so this makes it more certain that your baby was a creation with you and the processes of life in you, your inner male – or animus – which is a synthesis of all your male contacts.

What are your feelings or thoughts about the baby as it appears in the dream?

What you feel and think about the baby gives an indication of how you are relating to the new or vulnerable part of yourself, or what worries you are discharging. Clarify them to recognise what may be helping or hindering this new experience in your life.

An example of this: I had a dream that I had a child and had to cancel a test because I had to take care of the baby. I was breast feeding the baby, because it is healthier to breast feed than to give formula from a bottle. The person that I had been seeing wanted to know what I thought I was doing. The question was in an accusatory manner, like I had no business breast feeding my own baby. Then I left the baby with my friends and left. When I came back, they were feeding the baby Tabasco sauce because they ran out of milk. This shocked me because I thought my friends were more responsible than that.

So there are two issues here. The first is the struggle and strength to oppose what is felt to be right in the face of other people’s opinions. The second is that other people can injure your vulnerable and growing self if you let them take over your decisions. In either case it is clear that you have the intuitive knowledge to see what is the best way to nurture your baby.

Is the dream baby my own child?

If we are parents we often dream about our own children. Occasionally such dreams express concerns we have about our own child. We have noticed something ‘out of the corner of our eye’, and the dream puts this into focus. But often such dreams use the child to illustrate a developing part of you. This is because your actual child has characteristics unique to itself. They may be adventurous, playful, thoughtful or highly verbal. To understand your dream you need to define how you see and feel about your child.

For instance a woman dreamt she was sitting on a window sill and was frightened of falling. So much so she couldn’t move. Then she reached out and took her small son’s hand and climbed into the building away from danger. In describing how she felt about her son, she said he was courageous and confident. So her dream was showing how, by reaching out for her own confidence and courage, however immature, she could overcome her anxiety about falling/failing. Her child calls out her inner strength to meet the situation and overcome the danger.

Can I help the baby in any way?

This is an important question to answer because your dreams often present you with opportunities to change or to grow. If the dream is dealing with an emerging part of your nature, or a new love or project, protecting and helping this new dimension of your life is important. So, for instance, if your baby needs feeding or affection, sit quietly and imagine yourself feeding the baby, or giving it affection. Do whatever you feel is needed to help it. See Secrets of Power Dreaming

Is this an intuition about a baby’s or my baby’s situation?

Quite often we dream about awful events in connection with our baby or child. Because these can be incredibly disturbing it is important to understand their meaning. As a first step there are at least two types of dreams that deal with disturbing events. The first type of dream is called ‘representative’. And the following is an example of it.

I am on a country walk with my wife and small son. I look back to see my son fall down a deep hole. I rush back to see him drowning, and wonder whether I should jump down to help him. Then suddenly he is okay and with me again.

The father was incredibly worried that it showed a bad situation for his son. But as we explored it we realised that the son represented his marriage. He had a terrible row with his wife the day before, and he was frightened that it was the end of their life together. The son in this dream was the result of their marriage, what they had created together. So if the son had died it would have shown the father feeling their marriage had no hope of a future. But the dream showed the son fully recovered, showing that even when he was feeling bad, his dream showed him a different outcome. So it represented the father’s intense feelings and the possible outcome.

The other type of dream can be called direct insight or prophetic. Such dreams are usually not in any way symbolic and are highly uncommon. They do not include such things as are in the above dream which quickly switches from danger to ease. The following dream is an example.

One morning my wife woke and told me she had dreamt about the baby of two of our friends. The friends, a man and wife, were living about 200 miles from us. We knew the wife was pregnant, and about a week or so before the dream we had received a short letter saying their baby, a boy, had been born. We were not on the telephone at the time, so the letter was our only means of communication.

In the dream my wife saw the baby and a voice from behind her told her the child was ill. Its illness, she was given to understand, was serious, and would need to be treated with a drug taken every day of the child’s life. The reason for this illness and the drug use, she was told, was because in a past life the person now born as the baby had committed suicide using a drug.

In this dream very definite information was given that could be checked. I didn’t take the dream seriously, thinking it was some sort of personally symbolic dream. The dream was sent to the couple, and about a week later a letter from them said that the letter and dream had crystallised their already existing anxiety about the baby. It had not been feeding well and was fretful. On taking it to the doctor nothing definite could be found but special tests were made in hospital. From these it was discovered the baby was dying. It lacked an enzyme which was needed to digest calcium. To compensate it was given a drug, which it has had to take every day of its life to make up for the lacking enzyme.

The dream did not represent a situation, it described it clearly. Also it could easily be checked. So if you are uncertain, always go for the representative dream, as prophetic dreams are extremely rare.

So the questions to ask are: Is this dream making a direct statement? If so can I check it for accuracy? If it is a representative dream, ask yourself what it represents symbolically, and go through the questions above.

Summing Up

From the answers you have given to the questions see if you can recognise what new thing has come into, or is emerging, in your life. What do you feel vulnerable about? Is it to do with someone you love? Is it a new attitude you have to the way you express yourself? Or perhaps it is a new project you have undertaken.

When you can connect the dream with your everyday experience, consider what the dream is depicting in its drama. Is it saying the baby is healthy and strong? Does your baby need support? Is it nourished? Whatever you have discovered from looking at your dream baby, try to use the insights in your everyday life. Build them into the way you feel and think, and watch your baby grow.

See Being the Person or Thing;  Inner Baby and Child; also baby babies.


-n weir 2015-04-03 12:22:21

I dreamt I was floating with a baby in my right arm n a grown woman in my left arm n the baby was speaking to her. It was not my baby I just picked up the baby hut the woman I know. Can u please explain?

the woman I know.
Can u tell me what it means.


    -Anna 2015-04-05 7:47:24

    n weir – Floating in a dream can be an experience of awareness expanding beyond the usual boundaries of your beliefs or of your physical senses, which does happen to you in your dream as well.
    Not knowing anything about you I have to guess and so I wonder if this woman you know is older than you are, and/or if she is like a role model to you; someone you have chosen to learn from.
    I ask because the baby – this new part that you “picked up” (absorbed from her?) and that is growing in you – connects with this woman.
    Since the baby is speaking, perhaps you can explore “talking as” to become more aware what you “picked up”?
    Anna 🙂

-Kate 2015-04-02 15:57:33

I had a dream I was pregnant & the baby tried to climb out of my stomach, next to my belly button on the left hand side. I don’t recall being particularly fat with it. Later in the dream I had a baby boy. I can’t remember the birth or whether he climbed out from my stomach successfully! The baby boy had a name which I can’t recall & I remember being mortified at changing his nappy. This is the second vivid pregnancy dream/nightmare I’ve had, please explain! Thanks x

    -Anna 2015-04-05 7:29:17

    Dear Kate – It is all about beliefs and so about perception in (our dreaming) life. There are more ways of approaching Life and growth than the one you have used so far.
    I hope it will be helpful to you, when I share my way.
    Where you perceive your dreams about giving birth as a nightmare, I welcome every dream in which I give birth to a new aspect of myself.
    And where you perceive the process of digesting and releasing (poop or urine) and cleaning the parts that are no longer useful to you as “being mortified at changing his nappy. “, I perceive them as the freeing feeling of letting go of what no longer serves me in my life.
    So why not change your mind about “growth”?
    Please also read
    Anna 🙂

-shakinnah 2015-04-01 19:50:17

Last night i had a dream i was pregnant. When i looked down at my stomach there was two holes in it. A big one and a little one. I looked down and i could see the baby looking up at me through the big hole. The baby was growing so fast that every time it moved another hole will come. When i was going into labor the baby stretched out and my whole stomach fell off. My insides fell out. What does this mean? My cycle is on now, did that play apart in the dream?

    -Anna 2015-04-02 6:13:40

    Shakinnah – Being pregnant is usually about a new area of your potential or personality developing; a deepening relationship with your potential is producing a new area of experience, a new talent or facet of your personality. If it is still unborn – i.e. not yet expressed outwardly – it is developing. It can also be shown in the drama of the dream, how you are bringing to birth a new scheme or creative idea is ‘hatching’.
    Could it be that you are interfering too much with your own growth process; forcing it too much?
    In the widest sense nearly all dreams act as a process of growth or a move toward maturing. Some dreams are very obviously presenting internal forces or dimensions of experience that might lead the conscious personality toward a greater balance and inclusiveness.
    I perceive your dream as not leading toward a greater balance: while “growing more whole”, you are “growing holes”.
    To move through internal changes and growth in a balanced way, we must be able to let things happen in the psyche. For us, this becomes a real art of which few people know anything. Consciousness is forever interfering, helping, correcting, and negating, and never leaving the simple growth of the psychic processes in peace. It would be a simple enough thing to do if only simplicity were not the most difficult of all things.
    I advise you to explore this dream for yourself too using any, or all, of these techniques:
    Anna 🙂

-Beth 2015-04-01 0:05:05

The past two nights I have had dreams about pritectig a female baby. The first night it was my own daughter (I’m single and have never had a child) and she was a part of some important prophecy and lots of awful people wanted to kill her so I needed to keep her safe.
The second night it was my 15 month old sister. We were in a restaurant with my boyfriend’s family waiting for my family to show up. The restaurant was very crowded and I was irritated because this was an important event and nothing was going right, and I was stressed and my boyfriend was ignoring me while I played with my sister and searched for a high chair for her to use. We got attacked by a large bug and I curled around her to protect her and screamed and eventually my boyfriend showed up and saved us.
I have no idea what these mean.

-summer 2015-03-24 6:21:13

I have no children, but last night I had a dream about a war torn today, which isn’t too unusual for me but in this dream there were obstacles, like walking through spiders webs (I have never had much fear of spiders) and figuring my way out of certain places. I managed to get out of all of them and then came out of a building to an open lot with destroyed buildings. I saw a lump of clothing and blankets and saw something move with in. Inside the lump I found a baby, couldn’t have been more than a few weeks old. Without thinking I started breast feeding it. I was completely shocked when I took the baby from my breast to see there was milk.
I’m starting to try and read the dream but can’t make much sense…

    -Anna 2015-03-24 8:01:26

    Summer – In your dream you go through a growth process in a very fast way. This inner process may take longer in your waking life, and so this dream is merely “like a seed”.
    Please read
    Such a growth process is often expressed in your dreams as a journey in which you have to deal with and overcome obstacles.
    For instance spider’s webs, as in a dusty house, show you dealing with something you have not used, or not lived for a long time. Possibly it also suggests a need to spring-clean or deal with old memories or the past.
    Figuring your way out of certain places is like a finding your way out of a maze.
    The maze is an ancient symbol often used in mythology. It can depict the difficulties of finding your way out of the entanglement of dependence upon your mother and cultural norms.
    Destroyed buildings are a symbol of something that is passing away or has passed. This can refer to a way of life or a particular personality style. For instance one may be very moral and rigid at one stage of one’s life and then a major change happen and one may be more mobile and adaptable.
    The child you find is this new change, recently born inside you. It does not matter that you did not give birth to it in your dream, it is still yours.
    You are surprised that there is milk, mainly because you have not adapted yet to this “new you”, who is very capable of nourishing and taking care of this new born part.
    I have always perceived these dreams like an encouragement. Often when we are in the middle of a maze, we can lose trust in our inner recourses, believing we will never find the way out. This dream shows that whatever it is you have to deal with on this part of your inner journey, you CAN do it.
    Anna 🙂

      -Summer 2015-03-24 16:44:17

      Your so spot on, I didn’t quite see it from that perspective but it makes alot of sense. I’m currently moving from my home on the east coast to las vegas. That gives me lots of encouragement, I have been more nervous about this than I care to admit. There has been so much that is appearing in my path, unexpected things. Crazy. How spot on and encouraging this was. Thank you.

        -Anna 2015-03-25 7:20:23

        Summer – Please do not forget that what is always spot on are your own dreams and do continue to have trust in yourself.
        I wish you a happy time in Las Vegas.
        Anna 🙂

-Phynix 2015-03-19 0:16:41

I had a dream that I had a child, maybe around the age of 10 and and the dream happened to be in my school. I believe I was dreaming that I was a teen mom and I knew who the father of this child was. I brought the child with me to call the father out of class and begged to help father the child and he said he’ll think about it. Then later on , I was walking back with the child with me and the father was blocking the way as if he was waiting for someone and he told me he would help we with the kid for something I couldn’t remember.

-jasmine 2015-03-10 18:36:53

I had a dream that I got a letter in the mail that said congratulations your 5 weeks pregnant. Come make your appointment to get your prenatal vitamins. But like a week before I got a letter saying time to my birth control appointment so could it have something to do with that?

-vanessa 2015-03-09 12:53:48

I am actually 9 weeks pregnant right now. I dont know if there’s a connection. So my dream starts out with me having a son but my fiance isnt in the picture. My family and i are living in a huge cave but they disagree and try to kill me and my son for not having a husband. The next scenario me and my 7yr old son( which i dont really have) escape and live in a tent with white men on an island that help us. Then a train comes to rescue children&women. So we hop onto my relatives in Korea. Im finally in my home in ny and my son is nowhere to be found.

    -Anna 2015-03-11 12:43:33

    Congratulations Vanessa 🙂

    Your being pregnant has transformed your inner world and to me that is what your dream shows: your open and protective feelings towards this new life growing in you, symbolized by you having a son in your dream and taking care of him.
    I am not sure if you confused your inner world – where there is no father needed to give birth to a child – with your outer world?
    Please see
    Or perhaps you are confronted in your dream with your own inner conflict (and/or expected outer conflict) about being pregnant and not being married (yet)?
    In the dream you escape from this conflict by using inner recourses – your older son and the white man – to get to a place where you feel safe again.
    You did not describe what happened when you “hopped onto your relatives in Korea”; what did you feel when you were there?
    Because of you returning to your home in NY afterwards, I think your visiting your relatives, is a symbol of returning to your own roots and so to your own inner values and beliefs in life.
    When you had integrated YOUR OWN root feelings about your pregnancy – which shows by your son being a part of your inner life again, reason why he was nowhere to be found outside of you – you are able to pick up your daily life again.
    I wish you all the best Vanessa:
    Anna 🙂

-Diane 2015-02-23 19:24:55

I had a very vivid dream about my son that I already have. He’s a toddler but I dreamnt that I gave birth to him again. He had teeth and could talk. He specifically said that he didn’t like the breastmilk that I was trying to feed him. I was attempting to nurse him…with teeth but he didn’t like it.

    -Anna 2015-02-25 15:41:47

    Diane 🙂

    The dream shows that whatever you gave birth to, you still have to find a way to nourish it “properly”.
    Often we learn first what is not a helpful nourishment, as you experienced in your dream.
    So why not ask yourself this question:
    Can I help the baby in any way?

    This is an important question to answer because your dreams often present you with opportunities to change or to grow. If the dream is dealing with an emerging part of your nature, or a new love or project, protecting and helping this new dimension of your life is important. So, for instance, if your baby needs feeding or affection, sit quietly and imagine yourself feeding the baby, or giving it affection. Do whatever you feel is needed to help it. See Secrets of Power Dreaming

    Good Luck!

    Anna 🙂

-Rayanna 2015-02-15 19:56:41

I had a dream I was holding or hiding my son, and someone was talking to me I was in a corner away from everybody, then all a sudden I realized he wasnt there anymore. This lady was trying to talk to me, then I look over far away and see him, I run to him and hes sitting playing underneath a car, and I have to reach for him, bit its hard cause he goofs around just like in real life, then I was told it was the lady I was speaking to and her family who took him, that is all I remember.

-Easygirl:) 2015-02-04 10:43:23

Last night I dreamed that I gave birth to a baby and his father was my first love and we all were very happy .now I Can’t understand the meaning of this dream.

-sela 2014-12-28 15:51:39

I am 18 when I was 15 I had a miscarriage when I was 2 1/2 months pregnant. I had a dream the other day about me being pregnant with a big belly then going to the hospital it was a boy and then the other night I had another dream and I saw the baby’s face he looked like me and my ex boyfriend. Could this be what my unborn child would of looked like ?

-sara 2014-12-27 17:10:53

I’m 16. I dreamt that I was riding on a motorized scooter with someone. I look back and there’s a kid my age riding with me. He looks like me with golden blonde hair but he has crystal blue eyes. Whereas mine are light brown. I’m automatically assuming that he is my non-existent child

-Hensey 2014-12-25 11:58:34

I can’t really remember everything that happened in my dream do it will be a little difficult to explain. First thing that happened is that I went to the bathroom and boom! I had a baby but I didn’t even know I was pregnant. i cleaned up the baby whipped him down and my mom came in..surprisingly she was not mad, she was happy and hugged the baby and me.. I took a look at te baby and noticed he was not a new born. He was big, tanned and beautiful. But I didn’t time was not proving that my ex boyfriend was the father. So I didn’t know who the father was. The baby was very tanned..I’m not. But I was so in love. The baby was kissing me already. But I felt struggle like I didn’t even have the clothing to dress him..I had him wrapped around a black fury blanket. In my mind I just knew that I Had to do something. I had to provide my child with food and clothing no matter what! And I was going to do it! But at the same time I was worried about it not having a father. There was two black men in my dream my ex boyfriend and an old acquaintance..for some reason I felt like it was one of them. But I found out later in my dream by looking in my sons face that it was my ex boyfriend but I never told him because I was afraid he might reject him…by the way my feelings towards my ex were always really strong. I truly loved him but I think this dream had a greater not so much about my ex but about my baby, my beautiful mixed baby that loved me and hugged me tight

-yvette 2014-12-03 13:12:47

I had a dream that I had a baby girl who was at least 5-6 months old. My son was rinsing her off in a sink. I never saw her face but saw she had on a black t shirt and a diaper standing with his help in the sink. I asked why he had her in the sink and he said something spilled on her. I have two boys and no girls. What does this mean?? Please help me.

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