Teenage Girl’s Love Dreams

Sexual maturity

If you are a teenage girl, you will be experiencing the changes brought about by puberty. Looking at your dreams can help you understand these changes as you develop from a child into a woman. The physical and emotional issues which are part of adolescence will often emerge in your dreams.

There are three major themes you may notice in your dreams. One of the most important is the emergence of your sexual abilities as a woman. In all warm blooded animals sex is not just the urge to join two bodies genitally. It also involves desires to attract and bond to a mate; the urge to have a child, and the strength to care for and protect your children. Your dreams are a safe place where you practice or unfold these emerging facets of yourself. Dreams allow you to work out any difficulties in letting these qualities flower. It is quite normal to worry that you may not be attractive enough to attract a partner, or that if you do you may not know what to do. So you will probably dream of a boy you find attractive, and enjoy the pleasure of touching and loving. You will also encounter the fears or pains standing in the way of such a meeting.

Your dreams can guide you as you flower into the unique woman you potentially already are. No matter what you look like, no matter what your skin colour, you have an innate beauty. As you look around you, you may recognise the beauty in everyone, and realise that no one is too fat or thin, too ugly or too beautiful, too white or too dark, too wrinkly or too spotty to love and be loved. As the secret processes of life are transforming you into a woman, you may realise that being female is something you share with women of every race throughout history – yet YOU are unique.

Being pregnant

In some dreams you may also experience being pregnant, and even having a baby. These are very positive signs that you are meeting your physical and emotional changes well.

I’m 14 and had a dream of having a baby boy. I don’t know who my husband was. I am sitting in a house with no roof and all my family come to see my baby and said it was special. It was night time. When I looked into the sky there were 3 moons. Two of them were shaped like a lady with a baby in her arms. Sam – Teletext.

Sam’s dream shows a great sense of beauty and ease about her ability to have a baby.

The struggle for independence

The third major theme you may meet in your dreams relates to your growing independence and the process of separations from your parents or guardians. You are moving toward becoming physically, emotionally and financially independent of whoever parents you. This will show in dreams such as feeling trapped by your Mum or Dad, perhaps fighting them, or even seeing them die. Meeting your parent’s death in a dream is a way of saying you can survive alone, that you are no longer dependent on them. Sometimes these dreams of independence centre around what clothes you wear. You might be wearing other people’s clothes, or arguing with your mother about what you can wear. Other people’s clothes represent how you might be modelling yourself on someone else, or feeling pressured to do so. In your teenage years there are commonly issues around peer pressure to conform and belong to your social group while also trying to establish your own individual identity.

I have this recurring nightmare. I see my mother standing by my bedroom door, blocking it as if I am being trapped and stopped from getting out. I often call to her “Let me out Mum” but she just stands there staring with no expression on her face at all. I end up getting out of bed and switching my bedroom light on and then she disappears. Sometimes I will see her standing by my wardrobe. It seems as if she is always standing by a door and trying to trap me. Natalie

In the above dream Natalie is struggling with her own feelings of being trapped by what she feels about her mother, she is probably struggling to become more independent.

Your unique treasure

One of the things you will meet in your dreams if you allow them to develop is a wonderful sense of having an inner treasure, a unique inner quality. Every woman has such a treasure, and each is unique and special. This may well be a difficult thing to deal with, because there is often a deep hope that somebody else, a boy or man usually, will recognise this special quality inherent in you. This treasure is derived from the generations of heritage you carry in you from your forebears. You have in you the seeds of the future, and those seeds are your treasures. It hurts if this is not recognised and cared for by your partner and loved ones.

Usually we think of this uniqueness as our DNA, but in fact it is your eggs you carry with you that are far more about your uniqueness that your genes. You are the survivor of ten million generations of ancestors, struggling, developing new strategies, on the heroic journey from the earliest mammals to your life today.  All of that is held in the mystery of your eggs. And every young woman knows she has something very special, but may confuse this with her external appearance.

Your dreams link you with this deepest mystery and gifts of life. Unfolding your womanhood means receiving many new powers and abilities. The power and pleasure of full physical sex – the power of emotional strength and gentleness – the power of creativity – the feeling of being a part of life and the world. Be daring enough to meet any difficulties and fears necessary to claim these powers. Use them – don’t be used by them. They are yours to claim. These may seem like daunting tasks and enormous challenges, but you will find that your dreams will help you find your way if you are able to open to them and allow them to guide you.