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Knowing the Baby Before it is Born

How I Stumbled Across A New Frontier

Elisabeth Hallett

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About a dozen years ago, I stumbled across a mystery. I was working on a book about the postpartum bonding time, gathering parents’ personal stories, when I was struck by an unexpected fact. Quite a few parents emphasized that their connection with their baby had begun long before the actual birth. They told of sensing contact and communication during pregnancy–and in some of the most spine-tingling accounts, even before conception itself.

I was hooked! I had to learn more about this unknown dimension of parenthood. (The fact that I was hoping to have a second child, despite fertility problems and miscarriages, added to my interest.) Delving into the mystery of pre-birth communication led to writing and publishing Soul Trek: Meeting Our Children on the Way to Birth. But it didn’t end there. Like the more familiar Near-Death Experience, this is a phenomenon that opens up whole new vistas of thought and speculation.

Can our unborn children communicate with us–even before conception? A surprising number of parents have experiences that suggest it. Their stories raise intriguing questions. Do children come to us from a spiritual dimension? Do they come randomly, or to a specific family? Do they have any choice in the circumstances of their birth? These questions and more will be explored in upcoming installments of this column, through the experiences of people like ourselves.

Some experiences are dramatic; some are subtle and fleeting. And some, like the story of Steven and Miriam, are life-changing.

Long before she met her husband, Miriam realized she had a strong aversion to motherhood. She was so determined to avoid pregnancy that at the age of twenty-three she underwent tubal ligation. Later, when she and Steven married, they agreed that children were not an option. “For the first three years of our marriage,” Steven says, “we didn’t give it another thought–it just felt right to be a couple. We worked with a series of counselors over the years to improve our communication and understanding of ourselves. Then we met Helen Bonnie, the creator of Guided Imagery Through Music, and her sister-in-law Rosalie Lindquist.” As Miriam and Steven explored this type of therapy in a series of individual sessions, their experiences were profound–and very different.

Miriam recalls: “My sessions centered on what seemed to me to be past life experiences, many horrible events surrounding pregnancy and childbirth, continual loss through dismal and/or violent means! After each session, the people acting as our guides had us draw a mandala or some other representation of the experience. My drawings were uniformly depressing.

“My final session was much different from all the others. A guide, obviously myself in fairy godmother garb, appeared to me and took me back to several of the key figures I had identified with in my past life experiences. She mediated for me and asked the people from the past to help me out by keeping their fears and sharing with me only their talents and positive aspects. It was incredibly healing, and it prepared me for my husband relating his experience.”

Steven picks up the story: “During one session, I saw a beautiful toddler with blond hair and blue eyes who held out a box which contained a lotus flower and was illuminated. I drew a picture of this child afterward. When I arrived home I showed Miriam the picture and told her that I had seen our baby. She was a bit taken aback, and suggested that a baby might be a metaphor for some new aspect in our lives. Besides, there hadn’t been anyone with blue eyes in my family for three generations. I told her that I thought it was the image of a real baby.

“From then on, we both had numerous dreams and images of this child, and eventually decided to be open to him joining us. We spent a year doing pre-conception preparation–our health, environment and relationship were reworked.”

This period of preparation included surgery to reverse Miriam’s tubal ligation. She adds, “I also made a commitment before our Rabbi, family and friends to raise our child(ren) as Jews. Interestingly, this was June tenth, and our son Langston was conceived on June eleventh.”

Says Steven, “We didn’t ‘hear’ much from him during the time between his conception and his birth. I guess he didn’t have much to say. As you might have guessed, he looked just like the picture I drew, blue eyes and all. Langston just had his Bar-mitzvah earlier this month and has always been highly motivated about participating in this religious path. He’s been an exceptional person since pre-conception and we cherish our relationship with him.”

I would like to point out some of the features of this wonderful story. It was Steven who felt the first connection–these experiences don’t happen just to mothers. After the first contact, there were many others until the baby was conceived. As Miriam describes it, “He seemed to be continually tapping us on our shoulders, reminding us of his presence.” Finally, and most moving, is the apparent purpose behind the couple’s visionary experiences. Without them, they probably would never have chosen to have a child. Did Langston initiate the contact that led to his birth? These are some of the threads we’ll pick up in future columns.

Please join me in exploring this remarkable frontier. If you feel you may have experienced contact or communication with a child before conception, please consider sharing your story. You can contact me by e-mail at soultrek@montana.com, or by snail-mail at Elisabeth Hallett, Box 705, Hamilton MT 59840.

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-roses 2012-09-30 17:25:03

thank you, i thought i was mad…

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    -Tony Crisp 2012-09-30 20:12:22

    Roses – I am glad it reached you. I had such a dream myself. The result is now 42 years old.

    Tony

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-Jennifer 2015-03-16 2:32:16

I never even considered other parents experiencing this as well. I knew my son was coming to us (also as noted in the story) with blue eyes and blonde hair. My husband and I blindly came up with the same name for him, all before he was conceived.

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-Belinda 2016-06-05 20:57:14

The day after conception I had a dream of an 8 year old boy standing in the a bright lite forest telling me he was to be my son and his name was demean. He called me mom and just wanted to say hello to me . He had dirty blond hair and blue eyes. I was told I would never have children but I did. The same child is now my son I named him Cole and he looks just like the child in my dream .

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