This is an important symbol to understand, because bed is one of the commonest symbols in dreams. The bedroom often shows exactly what you are doing in the subtle areas of relationship. So can link with your close relationships, intimacy – an intimacy in which the qualities of the other can become part of you and a blending take place. Such a blending is not only that of you and another, but your known and presently formed self with what you hold within and latent.
But a bedroom is the place you sleep, so in a spiritual sense might be depicting your sleeping self, the parts of you still unconscious and not awake to who you really are and the issues needing attention in your life.
The bedroom also obviously relates to sexual pleasure, rest; the holy place in which we meet oneself and or another person deeply and passionately. But it can also suggest desire to get away from the world, to withdraw into oneself, to be passive.
It can depict sensual rather than sexual contact; sickness; privacy, and the testing place of a relationship. Sometimes it represents sleep and meeting our unconscious – or torture – because in bed we may be tortured by insomnia, worries, physical pain. Countless numbers of people need a sleeping pill in order to sleep. Or else they face the tortures of fear, nightmares and formless anxiety. These arise because the bedroom is a doorway to meeting the unconscious with all its hidden and unmet traumas and their pain and fear. It is a meeting with Life and is not in itself a fearful thing, but because we have been raised to forget that we are the products of the universe, of Life, Life which we avoid meeting, kill out any animals within us and outside of us, we grow into diminished people. We forget that it was not us, our ego, which created us, even as mothers we did not create our children, it was the process of Life that formed and nurtured us. We forget also that we are dual creatures, our conscious self only a tiny part of what we are, the immense and huge part of us we have kept shut up in sleep, a mammoth part of us we avoid with enormous zest. See Reaction to the unconscious.
The bedroom is often a mirror of our life situation – made your bed, now lie on it.
Small bedroom: This might be telling you that you mate is not giving you enough space. Maybe you need time alone, or are unable to explore sexually with him or her.
In the example below the man is wrestling with his desire for pleasure and his sense of commitment; but also, whether he will keep his pleasure for himself, or share it with his wife. See: Example in contraceptive; bed wetting
Example: ‘I sit on a bed. Near me, looking at a book I am holding is a woman I know, Jane. I realise as we talk that her foot is touching mine. As my wife is on my left across the room I feel uncomfortable about this. Now Jane has her left hand on my penis. I have only underpants on. The contact is pleasant and undemanding, but I feel more and more ill at ease. I feel Jane is not having any respect for my relationship with my wife and start to tell her so.’ Mr B. S.
Useful Questions and Hints:
What feelings or associations do I have about going to bed?
Do I often experience fear in my dreams or in the dark?
How do you handle intimacy?