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Marriage and wedding

Feelings about being or getting married; uniting two different aspects of yourself such as intellect and feelings, practical and intuitive self; the ‘marriage’ between conscious and unconscious self – any children of the marriage would be flowering of new abilities or qualities. But children of married partners can often indicate the state of the marriage, its problems of wonders.

Sometimes it refers to what our energy or drive is uniting us with – such as a new business venture or creative scheme – any children of this type of marriage suggest our intuitive assessment of the likely outcome.

There are many urges in a woman or man other than getting a good partner. There is also the urge to find recognition in society, to move toward independence, to find a comfortable place in life – probably alone, to achieve financial independence, or to have children.

In some cultures dreaming of a wedding signifies a death in the family.

Dreaming of wedding if single: As in the example below, Mary could equally as well have dreamt she was the bride, but being in her thirties and unmarried it is easier for her to consider or experiment with the idea of marriage using the image of her friend. Should she marry whoever offers? When single one often dreams of marriage as a way of clarifying – what it would be like; could one succeed in it; is the present partner okay; how shall one achieve it?

Man dreaming of marriage: For a man marriage faces him with something quite different to a woman dreaming of marriage. It is a woman’s initiation, and a man may feel as if he has to give up his manhood. So he may be facing such fears in his dreams – although marriage is a meeting and often a merging with his feminine self. For a man it can also be intimating the uniting of his female characteristics. See hermaphrodite; archetype of the anima

Marriage: When a woman and man marry, something that often happens is that the woman interiorises the man and feels she is now complete. She has her man in her life and in her. The man can do the same thing. That is fine when it works by them staying together faithfully. But if the man leaves the woman, or the woman leaves the man, because they had taken their partner into them to become whole, the leaving feels like something has been ripped out of them. It is a terrible shock. 

Wedding dress: Feelings and hopes about relationship and wedding; in a negative dream it represents anxieties about ones relationship or the future.

Wedding dress given by mother: Qualities and strengths or problems absorbed from mother about relationship; letting go of external mother by expressing her qualities in the present. 

Example: I am at the wedding of my best friend. The groom doesn’t turn up and she decides to marry the first person who comes along. I wonder whether this is a good thing to do.’ Mary T.

Example: When I was engaged to my present husband I dreamt we were married and I looked down at my wedding ring. It was twisted and bent. In fact I now see it as a warning because we have not made a good marriage.’ S.W.

Example: I am a gay 20 year old woman. I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about four months now. Previously, she had been my best friend for six years.

Last night, I dreamt that we were married. I didn’t dream of a honeymoon, or announcing our marriage, or even proposing or anything of that nature. In the dream, I just…knew that we were married. My girlfriend’s hair was significantly longer than it normally is, if that means anything. In the dream, she insisted that she wanted to have a baby, and she wanted to do it by becoming pregnant through a sperm donor.
It was a little strange, because neither of us are really keen on the idea of having kids at all, much less actually becoming pregnant. We were both excited about it in the dream though.

Example: It was the realisation that in the little community I live in I am the only single male. I am feeling, or guessing, that the other males here are curious about that. This led me onto spontaneous speculations about what this meant in my life and whether it was a problem I was not looking at. I saw that some of the women in my life have wanted me to be more fully involved as their partner. I sometimes puzzle why I don’t have the same need, or I don’t feel the same need in reverse. As I explored this it felt as if I didn’t want to be contained within a woman’s needs. It reminds me of the proprietorial aspect of male female relationships.

See: Integrating the female in the male; Integrating the male in the female; bride; bridegroom.

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-jessica 2014-09-24 17:18:04

I got married just got married a few months ago, I had a dream that my husband had kids with another women, there was 5 kids and the age they had meant he had cheated on me . The women had left the kids and my husband had to take them in. I was very angry because he said he didn’t want to have kids with me, because he already had his kids. I asked for a divorce, I was so hurt. I am terrified of spiders and in this same dream we went into a room full of black spiders. Any help? I feel like my relationship is in trouble. My husband and I have been really distant and to the point where we don’t sleep together. Please help

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-09-29 7:45:58

    Jessica – The end of the dream seems to say what your dream is about – unconscious fear. Many women have dreams of their husband being unfaithful, although there is no evidence that they have.

    But the awful truth is that the feelings are about your own fear of being deserted – probably childhood feelings. Unfortunately such feeling can cause you to no longer extend love to you man, and that can actually produce the thing you are scared of – him deserting you.

    Tony

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-michelle 2014-10-05 21:51:10

I had a dream I was getting ready to marry my husband but my Vail wasn’t staying on my head. Can u please tell me why I wild dream this when we are already married and have been for 17years. And what does it mean

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-Sapphire 2014-10-28 12:28:09

I had a weird dream that my aunt who is very religious in real life is marrying my 1st boy friend who is young enough to be her son. Actually it was my boyfriend who insisted on the marriage despite the age gap saying he really loved her and want her to be a part of his life at any cost.
The wedding ceremony again is very weird. His mother and sister who are very well off brought their gold ornaments for me to keep for them. But i refused saying that I’m already keeping my mothers ornaments safe for her.
My aunt announces that she is not interested in sleeping with the guy she only married because he insisted. I remember my uncle in real life.

My exboy friend stops me in a hidden room and was telling me about my aunt when she sneaks up on us and says her not sleeping with him does not mean that he isn’t her husband

And i woke up at this turn,
PlZ tell me what it could mean

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-Mariah 2014-11-21 9:00:25

Before my dream my boyfriend and I got Into a fight. we’ve been quite distant lately and been arguing which seems to be a lot more than usual. I took a nap and dreamt of our wedding. The only thing that stood out to me was we basically left the party to be away from everyone and just hung out with eachother. I woke up feeling really confused and conflicted with what the dream was trying to tell me.

please help

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-11-21 9:49:01

    Mariah – The idea of getting married is something that girls and women dream about, but marriage can be the source of a lot of stress. Your dream seems to say to me that it would be easier for you both to ‘hang out with each other’.

    Tony

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      -Anne 2014-12-07 8:57:36

      Hello,
      My husband woke me up 3:30am to tell me he dreamt of marrying another woman. He said he can see the face but not somebody he knew. Then the next scenario is that family relatives of the bride are chasing him with a big bolo because he married their relative when he is still married. Atleast, in his dream he still acknowledges being married to me huh? Lol… Any idea what could this mean ;) This is the first time he remembered and shared a dream. Thank you! :)

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-Anne 2014-12-07 8:58:56

Hello,
My husband woke me up 3:30am to tell me he dreamt of marrying another woman. He said he can see the face but not somebody he knew. Then the next scenario is that family relatives of the bride are chasing him with a big bolo because he married their relative when he is still married. Atleast, in his dream he still acknowledges being married to me huh? Lol… Any idea what could this mean ;) This is the first time he remembered and shared a dream. Thank you! :)

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-Diana 2015-01-17 16:19:55

Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years and have a child together. I have had two dreams on separate occasions where Im about to marry him and I just can’t go on with it and right before the ceremony I decide I just cannot get married. I know people in my family always asking me when we are gonna get married.

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-Marissa 2015-01-19 14:43:24

I had a dream that i married my friend who is a girl and the wedding went fine but it skipped over the actual ceremony and i couldn’t remember saying my vows or anything i was then saying goodbye to my family who came and my uncle was there and i’ve heard that a dream about a wedding could mean death and im worried that it could mean that my uncle is going to die because he has a great deal of medical problems

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-Shah 2015-01-28 0:46:12

I had a dream that I was at a wedding. And the girl that was in my dream getting married is divorced. The wedding was happening very close to my house. And the girl was sitting very close to my house. I am engaged at the moment but the guy doesn’t live in the same country yet. Does anyone know what this dream could mean?

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-Lu 2015-03-12 22:50:40

I had a dream the other night that I was preparing for my wedding Day. I couldnt find my dress, Ibhad no clue who I was marrying, and I felt pressured to Get ready quickly. When I found a dress to wear I was crying in my dream and felt that I was being forced to get married. I woke up short after that in a cold sweat.

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-Ray 2015-03-13 8:15:02

I really like my friend and I’ve fallen for her but she’s engaged and she is due to get married. The other night I had dream in this dream we were hanging out and as we said our goodbyes i followed her and told her how I felt and she ended up kissing me. Is my mind just telling me what I want to believe or is there a reason to my dream ?

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-chaa 2015-03-18 5:07:20

i dreamt as my bf n his family cane at my place wd marriage proposal. and i was in d othr room. n news came that my father n family accepted the proposal.
next part of dream was that my bfs mother,sister , he himself and some few more came to see me. gave me gifts
my mother in law hugged me
so did i
n hugg was soo pure
i felt to stay tat way for long n we did.
then we got busy to give gifts to them as well
its a kind of ceremony thing to fix marriage between two ppl.

in reality ,real life, bf n i r struggling to stay in a relationship n get married

please tell what is d meaning

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    -Anna 2015-03-21 10:08:07

    Chaa – Your IP address shows that you live in India and so I reckon this dream reflects your feelings about your arranged marriage in your outer life. ( I hope I understood that right from this part of your comment: “it’s a kind of ceremony thing to fix marriage between two ppl. in reality ,real life”)
    I feel the dream reflects that you are closer and more able to open up towards the love you receive from your future mother-in-law.
    So perhaps it will be helpful to ask yourself what it is you are looking for in a future husband.
    Another question could be if you are at this stage of your life merely looking for a mother, who can give you what you were not able to receive from your own mother.

    It is clear from your dream that his family has enriched your life in wonderful ways – all the gifts you have received from them – and I wonder if you have ever felt that way about your partner too.
    Please read this article as well Chaa, for it will help you to explore what your needs are at this stage of your life:
    http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/growing-up-to-love/
    Anna :-)

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-mohit 2015-03-20 12:18:48

I have dream last night that i m crying soo loudly bcz i love someone in real life and she got marride bt she did’t responce me may be she is not incondktion of giving rply of my crying. I saw her as a bride bt not her face. In the end she sit behind me bt not talk to me and i still crying. Pls rply me

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-Priyanka 2015-03-22 5:43:10

I have been having this dream lately that I’m getting married to my husband.

I’m already married and in the dream I don’t know that I’m married already and I’m just preparing for the wedding.

Does this mean anything?

Pls help.

Thanks!

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    -Anna 2015-03-22 19:23:25

    Priyanka – you have confused your dream life with your waking life. There is no need to remember in your dream life that you are married already in your waking life, for in this inner world Life expresses itself in a totally different way.
    As you have probably a marriage in a dream can reflect uniting two different aspects of yourself such as intellect and feelings, practical and intuitive self; the ‘marriage’ between conscious and unconscious self.
    Obviously there are so many aspects to unit in our inner life, that it is not uncommon to have recurring dreams about marriage, for it is a process.
    Another reason for a recurring dream is that you are not aware enough (yet) that a more “joined approach” will be more helpful in your (inner) life.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/recurring-dreams/
    Since awareness is the key, maybe you can practice self-observation, for it is a helpful tool.
    http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/self-observation/
    Good Luck!
    Anna :-)

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-octavia 2015-03-23 10:21:54

I dreamt I was getting married to my current husband of 14 years. I was short on time and had a lot left to do. My family, classmates and some friends were there. In the dream I didn’t get the chance to do my hair, but as I was putting on my vail, my hair was curled. I was placing film in my film camera getting ready to walk down the aisle. Strangest thing about my wedding was it was a double wedding….a classmate of a different race was also sharing the same date and time. She was getting married first and I was next.

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-Souad Jallad 2015-03-24 23:41:28

I am in love with a guy from a different religion. Well we both love each other but his family are totally against the idea of us getting married. Yesterday i dreamt that it was my engagement day and i’m busy with the arrangements and I daw myself and my lover that we are trying to convince his parents to accept. I saw his father trying to be easy but his mom was totally refusing amd in reality both his parents are against. I woke up without knowing if we got engaged or no. I am asking the Lord to give me a sign. Hope someone can help me.

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    -Anna 2015-03-26 12:04:47

    Souad Jallad – I feel the dream is merely showing how you are rather forceful using “convincing” as a way. I also feel it is more kind to give his parents time to “grow into the idea” of their son marrying a woman from a different religion.

    I do not know how long you have been in an intimate relationship with each other and/or if getting married is important to you in this NOW.
    Often we tend to run ahead in such a process because we want to be certain that we “can have what we want”.
    See http://dreamhawk.com/relationship-sex/ages-of-love-2/
    I merely feel that if you continue to enjoy your relationship together in this moment, without being too busy with planning the future – we call that “Let go and Let God” – that things will fall naturally into place.

    Anna :-)

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