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Seeing something dead in your dream suggests you are realising that some part of yourself, or your feelings, are no longer expressing fully. In fact you may have killed that part of you by denying it, repressing, or freezing it from normal life. The ‘death’ may even have been caused by a painful experience. But even so, it still means you have made a decision – perhaps unconscious – to shut out that part of your life. This can also relate to a lost opportunity or potential.

Some aspect of your outer or inner life is fading, or being superseded by a changed approach, so may be shown as dying. Your drive to achieve something might die, and be shown as a death in your dreams. Changing from adolescence to puberty, maturity to old age, are also shown as oneself dying. Lost opportunities or unexpressed potentials in oneself are frequently shown as dead bodies. All of us unconsciously learn attitudes or survival skills from parents and others. If these are unrecognised they may be shown as dead. Sometimes we have killed the child or teenager in us because of difficulties or trauma at those ages, and these may be seen as a dead person in one’s dream.

Some death dreams may show the awakening of new life in the dreamer. For instance, Sue worked on a dream in which she was told her baby had died. She woke shaking with grief and tears. The dream and emotions appeared to show her becoming alive enough to feel the grief of her past pain as it connected with the death of her hopes, love, and ideals. She had suppressed her pain for so long. In now coming alive enough to feel her emotions, she was feeling at last that something had died in her.

If the death is someone we know: Frequently, as in second example, desire to be free of the person; or unexpressed aggression; perhaps one’s love for that person has ‘died’. We often ‘kill’ our parents in dreams as we move toward independence. Or we may want someone ‘out of the way’ so we do not have to compete for attention and love.

Death of oneself: Exploration of feelings about death; retreat from the challenge of life; split between mind and body. The experience of leaving the body is frequently an expression of this schism between the ego and life processes. Also: Death of old patterns of living – one’s ‘old self’, the loss of the boundaries that limit your awareness to an identity connected only to the body. This latter is usually a willing surrender of self to the process.

The walking dead or rigor mortis: Aspects of the dreamer that are denied, perhaps through fear.

Dancing with or meeting death or dark figure: Facing up to death.

Example: ‘My son comes in and I see he is unwashed and seems preoccupied and as if he has not cared for himself for some days. I ask him what is wrong. He tells me his mother is dead. I then seem to know she has been dead for days, and my two sons have not told anyone. In fact my other son has not even accepted the fact.’ Anthony.

Anthony is a divorcee. Processing the dream he realised the two sons are ways he is relating to the death of his marriage – the children’s mother.

Example: ‘During my teens I was engaged to be married when I found a more attractive partner and was in considerable conflict. Consistently I dreamt I was at my fiancé’s funeral until it dawned on me the dream was telling me I wanted to be free of him. When I gave him up the dreams ceased.’ Mrs D.

Example: ‘I dream I have a weak heart which will be fatal. It is the practice of doctors in such cases to administer a tablet causing one painlessly to go to sleep – die. I am completely calm and accepting of my fate. I suddenly realise I must leave notes for my parents and children. I must let them know how much I love them, must do this quickly before my time runs out.’ Mrs M.

This is a frequent type of ‘death’ dream. It is a way of reminding ourselves to do now what we want to – especially regarding love.

Although the unconscious has a very real sense of its eternal nature and continuance after physical death, the ego seldom shares this. Unconsciously we realise that collective humanity carries living experience from the life of those now dead. The farmer today unconsciously uses the collective experience of humanity in farming. What innovation he does today his children or others will learn and carry into the future. But apart from that there is life after death. See: Life after Death By Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross.

Idioms: Dead and buried; dead from the neck up / or neck down; dead to the world; play dead.

Dreams about a dead person: Dreaming of someone who is dead, a relative or loved one, is quite common. After all, the person may have played a big part in your life, as for instance a husband or wife. Therefore the influence of their existence is still very much a live in you.

As an example of this, you will probably be able to realise that some of your traits, some of the ways that you think or respond to things, have arisen because of the way you related to the person you dreamt about. So in many cases the dead person indicates the feelings you have about the, the traits you still have alive in you from them. When someone close to you dies you go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in your memories and inner life.

Some dreams of dead people are expressive of attempts to deal with feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or your own feelings about death.

Dreams about a Dead husband or wife: Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband. It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband or wife at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the dream may become as in the third example. See: Death.

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-Bianca 2016-11-27 18:30:46

I dreamed my boyfriend who died in 2014 was alive and happy with another woman , I was scrolling on fb and found pictures of him another woman and a baby . I was mad in my dream I tried so desperately to get in contact with him but I could never reach him . When I woke up I almost wanted to cry , I can’t stop thinking about this dream

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-Faye 2016-12-13 4:59:25

I had this dream where my husband whom is deceased, keeps coming back and every time he comes back with a different woman. When he lived he loved me very much,

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-Zara 2017-01-26 15:46:58

I dreamt my ex husband killed 3 people and they started to smell so he told me to help him get rid of the bodies. They where tightly wrapped in black bags taped with duct tape. I took the smallest body and as I was carrying it the black bag tore away bit by bit and when I looked down I was swinging a doll by the leg. The doll had long blonde hair and bright blue eyes. This dream really rattled me.

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-Holly Copeland 2017-02-06 14:07:23

I keep having the same types of dreams. My boyfriend passed away march 12 2016 he died early in the morning around 2 we had been arguing a few hours before and said some really hateful things to one another the one thing i said that sticks with me is “you’re dead to me.” its been almost a year since it happened and i keep having recurring dreams where he comes back and accuses me of cheating on him i keep telling him that i thought he was dead and he constantly tells me he has never died. He becomes furious at me and looks in the mirror and says im not dead holly im right here. I call him on his cell phone and he answers and says see im not dead. Its so hard waking up from these dreams. I feel like he is trying to tell me something. If im not dreaming this dream im dreaming of my car being pulled into the ocean with me in it. Both types of dreams happen multiple times a week they just have different settings or people.

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-Maria Costello 2017-05-22 11:38:17

Mr Crisp my best friend of 35 years passed away about a month ago I keep dreaming she comes back alive and all I can feel is overwhelming joy and tell everyone she is alive I tell her things that happened after she died and at times she is not surprised other times I ask about certain friends and relatives who have passed away and she tells me about them last night it was me being hypnotized and telling her about a graph of different shades of purple, my dog Sam passed away 2 weeks later he was like my child him and Mare were so close her Knickname we gave her for him was Aunt Yum Yum is there a meaningful purpose for me to carry out? I am only learning of you now but I would love to study some of your work, can you please help me….Many thanks….Maria

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-05-23 12:19:25

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Maria – Your ‘dead’ friend has indeed introduced you to the life after the end of our body. You are in a learning relationship with her, and she is an excellent teacher.

    Many modern physicists, working with the information arising in experiments with quantum theory, tell us that our view of the world is based upon our blindness, and is very limited, and through its limitation, unreal. The implications of the theorem are enormous. Something can be in two places at once, in fact everywhere at the same moment. Apparently distant objects, or people, are intricately linked in an immediate way. There is no separate existence as we previously thought. Our view of the world is not one supported by the facts of physics. Time and space are transcended. People’s experiences of this dimension:

    So her communicating such things as, “after she died and at times she is not surprised.” Not surprised because she too is in a condition where there is ‘no separate existence – in fact everywhere at the same moment.”

    Here is a woman’s description of her experience:

    Example: Unlike any dream environments she’s known, her mind feels clear, alert, and free. Is she awake, asleep, or somewhere in between, in this place that’s more vivid than previous reality? Her surrounding is cylindrical, vibrant, and vast; white light emanates with a strength that almost hurts. The only route is up the helter skelter stairs of this lightening bright, snow blindness light-house. Tentatively, so unsure she starts to ascend; round and round she coils windowless walls forlorn, until she reaches the top and its sacred platform.

    Relief from the piercing light is achieved where windows open on to darkest space. Her anxiety easing, she approaches the central display: an exceptional, universal camera obscura. Far from static it reveals the whole world and with just one thought from the viewer’s mind, a place and a loved one instantly appear presented real time for one to observe. Standing mystified, a presence then joins her and informs her with seemingly no external voice at all: “This is the place where people come after death’s fall.”

    With instant recognition of her self-mortification, she spontaneously utters: “Oh, so I’m dead!” The presence inwardly sighs: “No, you’ve misunderstood my intention: I’ve brought you here to show that each of the dead choose someone to guide and watch over on earth. And that you have a someone still loving you. Your self-destruction is unnecessary; you just need to give life a reasonable chance. Please think on this experience and what I have said; your duty is still to life, it’s not yet to death.”

    As far as your statement that you would love to study some of my work, I first suggest you read http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/going-beyond/ followed by http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dimensions-of-human-experience/http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/lifes-little-secrets/

    And one you can explore is http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/

    Come back for more instruction any time.

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-Desiree 2017-05-26 4:48:56

My husband had passed away in 2010, almost every night I dreamt of him, I was so happy that he was there and alive with me but when I looked at his face I would feel hurt and pain and tear and he would just disappear and I would then get up from my sleep realizing its just a dream.Every dream of him would end that way.

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-05-26 12:04:53

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#Summing and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Desiree – It is not just a dream, but is feedback about the pain you are giving to your husband.

    Many modern physicists, working with the information arising in experiments with quantum theory, tell us that our view of the world is based upon our blindness, and is very limited, and through its limitation, unreal. Yet this view we take to be the REAL universe. See http://dreamhawk.com/news/there-is-a-huge-change-happening/

    The implications of the theorem are enormous. Something can be in two places at once. Apparently distant objects, or people, are intricately linked in an immediate way. There is no separate existence as we previously thought. Our view of the world is not one supported by the facts of physics. Time and space are transcended. David Bohm, an eminent physicist, goes as far as to say that all things in our observable universe are inextricable linked. Nothing has separate existence.

    Because after death ones awareness is much expanded, so your husband can share every thought and feeling you experience, so your feeling hurt, pain and crying would be very painful for him, causing him to disappear, because you are reacting as if he has actually died.

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-Cissy 2017-08-08 15:24:07

My husband passed away in 1997 and I keep having dreams that he is alive and we are so happy and so much in love.
Why do I keep having these dreams. During the day, I do not think of him.

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-08-10 12:01:53

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Cissy – The first reason is that death of the body is not death of the person. See http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/near-death-experiences/

    Obviously love does not end when one person dies. So he is keeping in touch and watching over you. See http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/journeying-beyond-dreams-and-death/#WHappens

    Another reason is that many people do not realise that they have an inner husband equally as powerful as an external husband. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences, along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with your husband, and they are what makes you the person you are. This is true even if your husband was never there for you – you still have all the memories of him not being there for you filed under ‘husband’. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. Such an inner husband can appear in dreams because you are deeply influenced by what you hold within you.

    You are much more than you realised. You are capable of a great deal more than you have ever been able to live. Your dreams link you with that limitless potential. In your dreams you leap beyond the limitations that usually bind and restrict you. Without effort you can fly; or you can be a visionary, looking back into past ages, or gazing into the unlimited possibilities of your future. Dreams allow you to solve intricate problems that evade you while awake – explore the complexities of a relationship by actually taking part in its drama in a full surround virtual reality – you can explore back through the strata of your lifetime to uncover past pains that still create present discomfort.

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-Fay 2017-08-19 21:03:41

I sometimes have a dream which includes my husband long dead (29 yrs) but follow him but never see his face. I just have a knowledge that it is him.

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-08-22 12:24:41

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Fay – When he has been dead that long he has probably developed beyond seeing himself with the body he had in life.

    Here is a person description of life at that level – “I had no sense of having a body. Thoughts had ceased, except for a murmur apparently a thousand miles away. Yet in blackness, in immensity, in absence of thought I existed vitally as bodiless awareness. We think that we are our body because we have no other experience of our existence. So, we identify with our body and so are terrified of dying – which in a sense is what we do every time we go to sleep and leave our sense of a body behind.”

    A description of the world the dead enter – “It is a life without boundaries.”

    So your following your husband without a face is showing you a part of the life he is experiencing now.

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-Kelley 2017-08-19 23:24:58

My husband of 32 years just passed away two weeks ago. I had a dream 4 nights ago where he is standing in his favorite room in front of his favorite chair. His ashes are there too. A rather plain woman is sitting in chair looking at him and I ask what he is doing. He says, “I have to go with her” and I ask why and he says “just have to go”. What could that mean?

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    -Tony Crisp 2017-08-22 12:39:11

    Hi – It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – http://dreamhawk.com/news/summing-up/ and also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/features-found-on-site/ which has so much information in.

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practising what is described in – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/getting-at-your-dreams-meaning/

    Tony

    Kelley – When we have died we are in a completely different environment than while in the body. Because we then have no body we do not need to eat, to drink, to have sex – but we are in a place where we sometimes evolve and need to learn.

    In the bible it says, “In that age to come and in the resurrection from the dead we will neither marry nor be given in marriage.” So it is not that he has found another woman, it might even mean that he is finding his own wholeness in incorporating his female self.

    “When you make the two into one, and when you make the inner as the outer, and the upper as the lower, and when you make male and female into a single one, so that the male shall not be male, and the female shall not be female: . . . then you will enter [the kingdom].” Quoted from ‘The Gnostic Apostle Thomas’

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