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Dreams about Dead People

Dreams about People We Know who have DiedDreams about a Dead PersonDreams about a Dead Husband or WifeDreams about a Dead Mother - Dreams about a Dead ChildSummary of after death experienceComing back to earth

Dreams about People We Know who have Died

Dreams in which dead people appear are sometimes expressive of our attempts to deal with our feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or our own feelings about death. When someone close to us dies we go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in our memories and inner life.

But dead people can simply be people from our past. Considering that the major part of our learning and experience occur in relationship to other people, such learning and experience can be represented by characters from the past. For instance a first boyfriend in a dream would depict all the emotions and struggles we met in that relationship, and what we learned from it or took away from it that still influences present relationships. Therefore dreaming often of people we knew in the past would suggest that past experiences or lessons are very active at the moment, or we are reviewing those areas of our life. A woman who had emigrated to Britain from a very different cultural background frequently dreamt, even twenty years afterwards, of people she knew in her native country. This shows her still very much in contact with her own cultural values and experiences.

Example: ‘My husband’s mother, no longer alive, came and slid her arms carefully under me and lifted me up. I shouted ‘Put me down! Put me down! I don’t want to go yet.’ She carefully lowered me onto the bed and disappeared.’ E. H. – In this example the dreamer is feeling fear about being carried off by death.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr M.

Here the dreamer has not only come to terms with his mother’s and his own death, but also found this inner reality.

Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning toward him which I had done so often in his lifetime and saying ‘I thought you had died. Thank God you have not.’ Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken.’ Mrs I. – The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality.

A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort. Thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the women has within her such memories to replay. These are a reality. The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband. The ‘aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of the same person. What arises into their own lives from such memories, is the observable influence of the now dead person. But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. See: Dead Husband or Ex

Example: In a recent news program on television, a man who survived the Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know. The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name. The photograph was kept for forty odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not know how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph.

Dreams about a Dead Person – General Meaning:

This can represent some area of your life that has ‘died’. It can refer to death of feelings, such as hopelessness in connection with relationship and the loss of feelings about someone; the depression that follows big changes in your life such as loss of a loved partner, job, or child. It can also reflect the sense you have of your life in general, that it is without the stimulus of motivation and satisfaction, as when one feels oneself in a ‘going nowhere’ relationship or life situation. The dead person in the dream may link several of these feelings together, as symbols often represent huge areas of our experience. So the dead person my be a part of oneself you want to leave behind, to die out.

Some dreams are so clearly about the person who died. Here is an example of such a dream by a young child.

With his brothers and friends he went to bathe in a mill pool. He was only four or five at the time, and could not swim. In the recklessness of their-play, one of the children pushed him into deeper water. At that moment, the mill gates opened and water rushed through carrying him along. He was drowned – but some adults who were hastily called to the scene managed to pull him out and revive him.

As his father carried him home in his arms, the boy talked about his mother, who had died some years earlier and at first his father smiled at his story.

The boy said that as he went under the water he felt himself sinking down and down into darkness. Then there was a change and he felt himself rising up slowly until at last he rose to the surface.

He was in a huge sea. Around him, other people were also surfacing, and all were being gradually washed towards the nearby shore. There on the beach, people waited, and greeted those who were brought to them by the sea.

And as he himself drew near there on a small promontory were his grandparents waiting to welcome him – and in front – his mother, and she bent to draw him into her arms. She took hold of his hands and as she did so, a cross around her neck swung before his face. Sparkling in it were seven stones. But at that moment, something seemed to pull him away, and he sank into the sea and at last awoke on the riverbank.

The other half of the Story

At the conclusion of the story, his father’s condescending smile vanished. They were now at home and his father left the room, obviously deeply moved. Only years later did he tell his son the other half of the story.

The boy’s mother had died when her son was tiny and she had died on her birthday. For many weeks before, her husband had saved for a special present which he had kept secret. On her death, heart-broken, he had crept down to the coffin in the middle of the night, unscrewed the lid and given the present to his dead wife. It was a cross with seven stones, and the secret of it had been buried with her.

Putting together a picture of many such death experiences, we can begin to see a general view of what it might be like, what it certainly is for some, to die.

First of all comes a lessening and eventual disappearance of bodily sensations. Although all pain and physical awareness goes, most people are still conscious of their physical surroundings and of other people. In fact they often watch their own body breathe its last struggling breaths.

Usually people see themselves in a body, but it’s sometimes more perfect than the body they have just left. Their perceptions are nearly always enormously heightened in many ways. There seems to be no sensation of gravity or weight – the whole room or area can be seen instantaneously, as if with circular vision, and there is an awareness of the thoughts and emotions of those present.

See Talking with those who have passed on

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife:

Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband. It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband or wife at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the meeting become easier.

But as with the example above, there are many cases where people meet their dead in dreams and have tremendous assurance.

Dreams about a Dead Mother:

As with other ‘dead person’ dreams they usually show how we are working out or unfolding our relationship with them. They can be wonderfully confirming of continued existence.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr. M.

Dreams about a Dead Child:

When our child dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this.

The example below shows how this can be possible.

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’

Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.

When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.

After her conversation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Summary of after death experience

Because after death we are still in a dream like existence, we tend to create around us those things we expect to see or experience. So someone who has no previous information about death may wander around for awhile confused. A Christian may see Christ welcoming them, so the beginnings are very varied, and a Buddhist might meet Buddha, or a Muslim might see Muhammad. But there is some sort of life review. This is about harvesting all of value from the life experience. Not only do we gathered the lessons we learned from our life, but we also relive it moment by moment, feeling and reviewing our own feelings, but also the feelings we engendered in others. But because we are no longer living a life in three dimensions and time, it will be an all at once experience, not stretched over time.

This can be quite a trial considering the life we have lived. But it is not a judgement from outside us, but a self judgement of the quality of our life. We need to pass through this because after death we have left the physical world and moving toward the spiritual. We can see this as the Big Self; the Self with Enormous Love. But there is an enormous transition taking place at death. We lived within a body, and now without it we have to be ready for life without it in what is called the spirit world. That is why the life review is necessary. All our earthly experience has to be put through a transformation to make it fit for a wider life. The wider life works through universal connections, and the less we personally can connect with the universal the less fit we are for the universal life.

Something that I have noticed is that some people believe, and therefore experience, that ‘heaven’ is exactly like life on earth except better. They see it as having houses and living much the same way. But that is not really the whole truth, because just as our body grows and changes, so do we in the after death state.

It seems as if there is a great difference between existing in a body and surviving in the grand world of the spirit. For in the spirit world there has to be found something that will link the life with giving and receiving from others, and of course the integration with a greater purpose.

Many people say they go along a tunnel toward a great light, and then a great spirit leads them through life review. Others go through a door to the light, and others go up a flight of grand stairs.

Having lost their body and its appetites there may be a period of adaptation to a life in a world without boundaries. Also because the spirit world is similar to the world of dreams, you create around you an environment made up of your own inner state. So if you are full of hate, murderous impulses and selfishness, you create a world like that; usually called hell. We are not ‘cast into hell’ we create it ourselves.

The same with heaven, it is created out of all the attitudes and ideas and feelings that are in harmony with the way the universe works or is. As a friend told me after his death, “I cannot escape myself. This is because everywhere I look is like a mirror. Every direction I find a reflection of me. It is  three-dimensional. It doesn’t matter if I look up or down, left or right, all I see are expressions of who I am.”

At first one will look much as you did at death, except if you are old or ill, then you have quickly gained a more youthful and healthy appearance.  But of course that is only your physical shape, and you will create that because that is who you think you are. But a great and probably slow swing over will occur. Because your body is gone, and you are moving toward the spiritual being that has always stood behind your life and witnessed it and given it impulses to try to live out, so gradually you may lose any sense of being male or female.

It is possible some people will not make it that far, but will go into a sleep state until their next life in the body. But if they can maintain consciousness as they meet these changes they will slowly become a greater being, and have an awareness that could be seen as super human, touching all around them. This is why some dead relatives come back to us in dreams and visions and tell us things they would never have normally been capable of knowing.

Another conversation with a dead friend stated some of this:

I seems to me that things are different for me now. I feel something that is difficult to understand. I seem to be getting  less and less of the me I knew; yet at the same time more of who I am. More of me is being lost, but at the same time more of me is was being gained. A strange paradox.

Then there is the going beyond even more barriers toward what can be called real spiritual awareness.

In the next region, one sees how the person’s life has accorded not only with their own Self, but with the ‘true being of the world’. We see ourselves as we exist, in or out of harmony with that world consciousness, that essence of all beings, sometimes called the Christ, or Krishna, or Buddha. Here is the judging, the self judging, of the ‘quick and the dead.’

And finally, in this withdrawal, the seventh region is reached, ‘quick or dead’, asleep or awake to the highest in us. ‘The man stands here’ says Steiner, ‘in the presence of the “Life-kernels”, which have been transplanted from higher worlds, in order that in them they may fulfil their tasks.’ These ‘tasks’, expressing through the self, mediated by the soul, and materialised by the body, usually motivate us unconsciously. In this region, if consciousness remains, we know ourselves as the whole cosmos of sun, moon, planets, and stars; as all beings, creatures and kingdoms. When we look at these through our physical eyes, we are looking at our own wholeness. The ‘Life kernel’ is the doorway to other ‘cosmic beings’. ‘The life between death and a new birth, and is really a living through the world of stars: but this means, through the spirit of the world of stars,’ not the physical stars.

Coming back to earth

Having made this ascent to the innermost of our nature, the essence of the whole cosmos, there now comes for most of us, a return to a fresh physical experience.

There awakens a ‘desire’ or direction, to perfect one’s own being and that of the earth. ‘Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven,’ is an impulse from this region. Depending upon what fruits were brought to each region, this descent enables certain things, qualities or strengths to be ‘claimed’ from each level of our being. A new spiritual ‘seed’ or ‘germ’ is fashioned which will play its part in fashioning our body. The essence of the future personality chooses the hereditary line and its parents. Steiner says the parents provide a seed bed of physical substance, impregnated with their own characteristics of body and psyche. At conception, the material substance is broken down into the germinal level of chaos, in which all physical form is dissolved. The spirit ‘germ’ of the new being takes hold of this.

At birth the ‘germ’ of the future personality and body, is clothed with physical substance drawn from the parents, along with inherited temperamental qualities. Working with these as materials is the essence of the past life and death experience. This spiritual impulse, takes the ‘model’ given by the parents, and works into it the pattern it brings from its central experience. So there comes into being, through life and death, another life upon the earth.

Just as there was a reliving of life at death, so just prior to birth there is a reliving of death. ‘He sees a tableau which this time displays all the hindrances he must remove, if his evolution is to make further progress. And what he sees becomes the starting point of forces that he must carry with him into a new life.  See Life and Death; Steiner Life after death

Another conversation with a dead friend provided the following information.

I am in process of creating a new life. But this is something like a work of art, not however, as we think of it with brush and paint. I felt it like a constant rise and fall of possibilities and forms that I, the Spirit I, was giving birth to. As one rose it expressed a certain quality, and this was in some way compared, or its harmonic compared, with all that existed in the changing spiritual and physical world. There was as yet no total interface between what was being created in this way, and what was expressed by the changing worlds. So I was gradually sifting the emphasis of all it contained from life experience and its possible future connections with physical life, moving toward a harmonic unity. It was explained to me that the unity would be a real connection with time, place, parents and the life that would emerge from them. When that harmonic unity was made the new life would begin.

Useful Questions and Hints:

Have I dreamt of any dead person?

How did I react to the dream?

Can I accept that we have an inner world?

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-Emily 2013-11-04 3:27:13

Hi, i came across your article on dream meaning and was hoping you could shed some light on my dream.

I dreamt of my brother who died when i was young, i dont remember him as much today as he had left us for more than 10 years now, but we were considerably close at the time. In my dreams, it appeared that he was with me all the time, bit at night it seems like he was hunting me, watching me sleep from a corner. This is the perception i get from the dream and i dislike the fact that i actually thought of my brother hunting me. I hope you can help me on the meaning of this dream.
Thank you

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-mary 2013-11-15 6:47:14

Why would a dead person bring a hankerchief to my home!g

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-LATOSIA TAYLOR 2013-11-30 16:16:33

My grandmother came to my daughter in her dream and the main thing that stuck in her head is, she told her you live, learn and forget then she disappeared. My daughter then said she closed her eyes and a black presence came out of her head. She said she was afraid but did not fight it just let it happen I don’t know what it means but I have had dreams of her and she never says anything to me. Her or my grandfather My grandfather just smiles at me and goes along in the dream my grandmother on the other hand has a very different disposition she is not as nice or caring as she was in this life she is very different.I have 6 kids and not a lot of money in fact none. Can you help?

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-fg 2013-12-01 3:59:14

someone dreamt about me and in the dream they saw dead people they knew around me but I did not know them

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-carly 2013-12-05 5:15:07

my boyfriend of 10 year passed away 9 years ago i constantly dream of him and fell his appearance sometimes i feel happy that i have dreamt about him other times brings the reality back of such a tragic loss also wake uo not knowing if real or not can u give me any reason for this

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-Amy 2013-12-11 19:24:39

My step son (Levi) passed away Sept 5th of this year. Since then I have had three very realistic dreams about him. First I need to tell you how he passed. He loves water and we have a decent sized pool out back. He crawled out the doggy door without anyone knowing and he drowned. We were able to bring him back but only for 36 hours. He was brain dead, we spent the last 36 hours of his life watching over him while his body slowly shut down. He passed at 1:05 am. So here are my dreams of him.
First:
We were in a home that I did not know, we were all getting ready for bed. Levi was there, but much like at the hospital he was already in bed on life support. But I was thankful he was still with us.
Second:
We were back at our old house, and we were in the pickup and Levi was in a car seat on the floor board still not awake from his drowning accident. His dad had gone back into the house for something and Levi woke up! The first words out of his mouth was DA! Which is what he called his dad. I ran to find his dad to let him know Levi was awake, he didn’t believe me and said it wasn’t possible. When he finally came to the truck I was holding Levi and he was wide awake, his dad broke down in tears while Levi reached out and said Da over and over.
Third:
Levis dad and I were at my friends house, he was in the back bedroom I was in the living room. I glanced back towards the bedroom where his dad was and before my eyes got to the bedroom; there in front of a rocking chair was Levi with a huge smile on his face. I started to cry I held my arms wide open and he ran to me. I held him and kissed him. My friend was looking at me like I was crazy so I knew she couldn’t see him, she had no idea what I was doing. I didn’t care I was holding what I lost and I knew he would go and couldn’t stay. I held him longer and felt him pat my back over and over like he always did. Once he was gone, I went to his dad to tell him of my encounter, who still was uneasy about talking about the loss of his son. While he believed what I was saying he still didn’t care to hear it.

When I woke up from this dream I felt better. Knowing I got to hold him, hear his laugh, kiss his cheek, and tell him how much I love him.

It seems that my dreams were slowly preparing me for his final goodbye, But I want to know what it really means.

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    -Tony Crisp 2013-12-16 13:07:45

    Amy – Thank you for taking the trouble to type out the three dreams. They seem to spell out to me a record of his after death experience. The first one was of his pre-waking experience. This often happens after a child has tragically died so young. It shows him still feeling a connection with his life/death.

    Then the second dream shows him waking and communicating his love for you.

    The third dream is very beautiful. It shows you so aware that Levi was in fact not ‘dead’ that it didn’t matter that other people would think you are crazy. He couldn’t stay in that condition, but it doesn’t mean he will not be with you again as he grows. We all create an inner world, and that world only lets us see what we believe. Your husband grief and beliefs stood in the way of his experiencing in the same way as you did. What a blessing.

    See http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/ and http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/questions-2/#Summing

    Tony

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-THERESA 2014-01-01 15:18:17

Hello Mr. Crisp

Maybe you can shed some lught on my dreams, first of all I am a female with a few chronic illnesses. From time to time I dream of 2 close individuals from my past whom are deceased. The male individual came tio me in dreams at the times when I wasnt feeling welll. In ine of my dreams he came t at this beautiful house, gliowing with the suns rays.. Everytime I tried to aporoach him, he would smile, and then disapoaer into another room of this house, it was like we were playing a cat and mouse game. Well eventually I ended up outsude of the house on the doirsteo. He had locked me out.The next dream i had of him, he and 3 individuals were dressed in black, with a beautiful glow surrounding them. He was smiling at me, the weird thing about it is that he was the tyoe that would rarely smile when he was alive. I told his sister about the dream, she gasp and said to me, Im not trying to scare you, but the description of what he was wearing in your dream, is exactly what he was wearing when he tragically died 19 years ago, my heart dropped! It seems as though when Im ill or going through a rough patch in my life , people from my past that are deceased, aopear in my dreams. Some of them are asking me why am I there, youre not suppose to be here?

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-Renee 2014-01-01 21:38:26

good friend died in July of 2013. He was shot (wrong place wrong time) i never made it to the funeral which ate away at me. I cried for weeks and still Sometimes go into a daze she I think of him. I’ve talked to him in my sleep before but this was different I was sitting in the back seat and he was sitting in both the driver and passenger side. We were (I have NO idea why) kissing. I told him I missed him and hugged his neck from behind he laughed and said “yea” it’s something he would do when he was alive. I clearly knew he was dead in my dream is what’s crazy and that’s why I kept repeating I miss you. He climbed in the back seat from the drivers side while still sitting on the passenger side and began to kiss me again. Suddenly he stopped and stared at me deeply and asked me where was I when he was dying saying he called on me he began to cry so I burst into tears but covering my eyes. When I removed my hands his face began to decay and he was still saying where we’re you! I’m still crying about this I have literally had full blown conversations with two people that passed away before him but nothing that extreme?

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-nichole 2014-01-31 1:36:24

Can some one explain to me why I keep haven these dreams I lost my son tragicly in 2/2010. I he was 4 moths old I keep haven the same dream about how I found him its so real when I wake up I can still smell all the smells an im cryen an cnt breath. I dnt want to go into to much detail on the comm. Bt if someone can help me I will. Everything is so real I can even feel his skin n my dream someone please help me.

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-02-06 9:32:04

    Nichole – Dreams are a magic mirror which reflects our inner world. So your inner world is so full of grief and it is reflected in your dream and so you cry and your breathing is affected. But darling woman it is all self created and you are doing it to yourself by keeping feeling it.

    But honestly you are locked in a belief system – you believe your baby is dead – so naturally you are tearing yourself apart. So please read Closer to the Light by Dr. Morse. It shows – not as a ‘new age’ crazy writer, but as a doctor who was faced by facts about children dying and had the courage to write about it.

    Tony

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-Lyn portet 2014-02-18 8:44:20

I dreamt of my mother living with me and then her saying there is bread in freezer, what dies thus all mean

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-Maricela 2014-02-22 16:04:52

My son Joshua passed away in a freak accident almost 8 years ago. He was only 3 and half years old. I keep dreaming of him sometimes at 3 years old or others as a few months old. I don’t understand my dreams but in some I am holding my son smiling and laughing. It feels so realistic as if he was really here with me. What does it mean?

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-Shauna 2014-02-28 5:56:10

I have more of a question. My dad died on August 1, 2013 of a massive heart attack. My question is why do I keep having dreams of my dad and what does it mean? I enjoy the dreams but I would like to know what it means please and thank you

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-Treasure 2014-03-06 17:45:02

Can someone please help me. I think something is very wrong. I have these dreams where I just know things. I just know certain things . I really need someone to tell me what this is please help

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    -Tony Crisp 2014-03-07 8:58:31

    Dear Treasure – You are like someone born in a world where everyone is born blind, and because you can see you feel it must mean you are in some way ill or even evil.

    But it is normal to be able to see and know what you know, because most people have been brain washed to lose their sight. Please see http://dreamhawk.com/interesting-people/edgar-cayce-and-the-cosmic-mind-superminds/ and if possible read There is a River – the story of his life.

    Tony

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-rezashi 2014-03-12 8:59:39

I am really scared of my dreams from sometime. Every time i meet dead bodies and they were lieng in a straight line covered with black sheet and only their feets are visible and i also see some very unpleasant person sitting close to them. They tell me ive got to burn them and sometime they say i have to give my loved ones to burn. It was strange today i saw the same dream again and man told me tthat first dead body will be of your baby i am just a student. i dont know why such dreams are haunting me from some months. they are same hekp me i am really scared.

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-jane 2014-03-31 12:46:36

I have known my boyfriend for over 4 years but we have only been dating for just over a year. He is 26 years old and his father died 10 years ago by committing suicide. Having only known my boyfriend for 4 years I’ve never met his father. He has shown me a photo of him when we first started dating so the memory of his appearance is very vague. I recently had a dream that I met his father. We talked and he was kind to me though I don’t remember what we spoke of. I cannot remember the details of the dream but I recall having this fear knowing what *will* happen to him in *the future*. So, I felt like I was in the past as though I had traveled through time and just bumped into him. Even if you can’t shed any light as to what this means it feels good to get it out there. At the moment, I’m uncomfortable telling my boyfriend about it even though he was very strong when it had all happened, being the backbone for his mother and sister. Thank you.

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