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Dreams about Dead People

Dreams about People We Know who have DiedDreams about a Dead PersonDreams about a Dead Husband or WifeDreams about a Dead Mother - Dreams about a Dead ChildSummary of after death experienceComing back to earth

Dreams about People We Know who have Died

Dreams in which dead people appear are sometimes expressive of our attempts to deal with our feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or our own feelings about death. When someone close to us dies we go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in our memories and inner life.

But dead people can simply be people from our past. Considering that the major part of our learning and experience occur in relationship to other people, such learning and experience can be represented by characters from the past. For instance a first boyfriend in a dream would depict all the emotions and struggles we met in that relationship, and what we learned from it or took away from it that still influences present relationships. Therefore dreaming often of people we knew in the past would suggest that past experiences or lessons are very active at the moment, or we are reviewing those areas of our life. A woman who had emigrated to Britain from a very different cultural background frequently dreamt, even twenty years afterwards, of people she knew in her native country. This shows her still very much in contact with her own cultural values and experiences.

Example: ‘My husband’s mother, no longer alive, came and slid her arms carefully under me and lifted me up. I shouted ‘Put me down! Put me down! I don’t want to go yet.’ She carefully lowered me onto the bed and disappeared.’ E. H. – In this example the dreamer is feeling fear about being carried off by death.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr M.

Here the dreamer has not only come to terms with his mother’s and his own death, but also found this inner reality.

Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning toward him which I had done so often in his lifetime and saying ‘I thought you had died. Thank God you have not.’ Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken.’ Mrs I. – The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality.

A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort. Thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the women has within her such memories to replay. These are a reality. The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband. The ‘aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of the same person. What arises into their own lives from such memories, is the observable influence of the now dead person. But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. See: Dead Husband or Ex

Example: In a recent news program on television, a man who survived the Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know. The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name. The photograph was kept for forty odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not know how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph.

Dreams about a Dead Person – General Meaning:

This can represent some area of your life that has ‘died’. It can refer to death of feelings, such as hopelessness in connection with relationship and the loss of feelings about someone; the depression that follows big changes in your life such as loss of a loved partner, job, or child. It can also reflect the sense you have of your life in general, that it is without the stimulus of motivation and satisfaction, as when one feels oneself in a ‘going nowhere’ relationship or life situation. The dead person in the dream may link several of these feelings together, as symbols often represent huge areas of our experience. So the dead person my be a part of oneself you want to leave behind, to die out.

Some dreams are so clearly about the person who died. Here is an example of such a dream by a young child.

With his brothers and friends he went to bathe in a mill pool. He was only four or five at the time, and could not swim. In the recklessness of their-play, one of the children pushed him into deeper water. At that moment, the mill gates opened and water rushed through carrying him along. He was drowned – but some adults who were hastily called to the scene managed to pull him out and revive him.

As his father carried him home in his arms, the boy talked about his mother, who had died some years earlier and at first his father smiled at his story.

The boy said that as he went under the water he felt himself sinking down and down into darkness. Then there was a change and he felt himself rising up slowly until at last he rose to the surface.

He was in a huge sea. Around him, other people were also surfacing, and all were being gradually washed towards the nearby shore. There on the beach, people waited, and greeted those who were brought to them by the sea.

And as he himself drew near there on a small promontory were his grandparents waiting to welcome him – and in front – his mother, and she bent to draw him into her arms. She took hold of his hands and as she did so, a cross around her neck swung before his face. Sparkling in it were seven stones. But at that moment, something seemed to pull him away, and he sank into the sea and at last awoke on the riverbank.

The other half of the Story

At the conclusion of the story, his father’s condescending smile vanished. They were now at home and his father left the room, obviously deeply moved. Only years later did he tell his son the other half of the story.

The boy’s mother had died when her son was tiny and she had died on her birthday. For many weeks before, her husband had saved for a special present which he had kept secret. On her death, heart-broken, he had crept down to the coffin in the middle of the night, unscrewed the lid and given the present to his dead wife. It was a cross with seven stones, and the secret of it had been buried with her.

Putting together a picture of many such death experiences, we can begin to see a general view of what it might be like, what it certainly is for some, to die.

First of all comes a lessening and eventual disappearance of bodily sensations. Although all pain and physical awareness goes, most people are still conscious of their physical surroundings and of other people. In fact they often watch their own body breathe its last struggling breaths.

Usually people see themselves in a body, but it’s sometimes more perfect than the body they have just left. Their perceptions are nearly always enormously heightened in many ways. There seems to be no sensation of gravity or weight – the whole room or area can be seen instantaneously, as if with circular vision, and there is an awareness of the thoughts and emotions of those present.

See Talking with those who have passed on

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife:

Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband. It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband or wife at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the meeting become easier.

But as with the example above, there are many cases where people meet their dead in dreams and have tremendous assurance.

Dreams about a Dead Mother:

As with other ‘dead person’ dreams they usually show how we are working out or unfolding our relationship with them. They can be wonderfully confirming of continued existence.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr. M.

Dreams about a Dead Child:

When our child dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this.

The example below shows how this can be possible.

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’

Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.

When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.

After her conversation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Summary of after death experience

Because after death we are still in a dream like existence, we tend to create around us those things we expect to see or experience. So someone who has no previous information about death may wander around for awhile confused. A Christian may see Christ welcoming them, so the beginnings are very varied, and a Buddhist might meet Buddha, or a Muslim might see Muhammad. But there is some sort of life review. This is about harvesting all of value from the life experience. Not only do we gathered the lessons we learned from our life, but we also relive it moment by moment, feeling and reviewing our own feelings, but also the feelings we engendered in others. But because we are no longer living a life in three dimensions and time, it will be an all at once experience, not stretched over time.

This can be quite a trial considering the life we have lived. But it is not a judgement from outside us, but a self judgement of the quality of our life. We need to pass through this because after death we have left the physical world and moving toward the spiritual. We can see this as the Big Self; the Self with Enormous Love. But there is an enormous transition taking place at death. We lived within a body, and now without it we have to be ready for life without it in what is called the spirit world. That is why the life review is necessary. All our earthly experience has to be put through a transformation to make it fit for a wider life. The wider life works through universal connections, and the less we personally can connect with the universal the less fit we are for the universal life.

Something that I have noticed is that some people believe, and therefore experience, that ‘heaven’ is exactly like life on earth except better. They see it as having houses and living much the same way. But that is not really the whole truth, because just as our body grows and changes, so do we in the after death state.

It seems as if there is a great difference between existing in a body and surviving in the grand world of the spirit. For in the spirit world there has to be found something that will link the life with giving and receiving from others, and of course the integration with a greater purpose.

Many people say they go along a tunnel toward a great light, and then a great spirit leads them through life review. Others go through a door to the light, and others go up a flight of grand stairs.

Having lost their body and its appetites there may be a period of adaptation to a life in a world without boundaries. Also because the spirit world is similar to the world of dreams, you create around you an environment made up of your own inner state. So if you are full of hate, murderous impulses and selfishness, you create a world like that; usually called hell. We are not ‘cast into hell’ we create it ourselves.

The same with heaven, it is created out of all the attitudes and ideas and feelings that are in harmony with the way the universe works or is. As a friend told me after his death, “I cannot escape myself. This is because everywhere I look is like a mirror. Every direction I find a reflection of me. It is  three-dimensional. It doesn’t matter if I look up or down, left or right, all I see are expressions of who I am.”

At first one will look much as you did at death, except if you are old or ill, then you have quickly gained a more youthful and healthy appearance.  But of course that is only your physical shape, and you will create that because that is who you think you are. But a great and probably slow swing over will occur. Because your body is gone, and you are moving toward the spiritual being that has always stood behind your life and witnessed it and given it impulses to try to live out, so gradually you may lose any sense of being male or female.

It is possible some people will not make it that far, but will go into a sleep state until their next life in the body. But if they can maintain consciousness as they meet these changes they will slowly become a greater being, and have an awareness that could be seen as super human, touching all around them. This is why some dead relatives come back to us in dreams and visions and tell us things they would never have normally been capable of knowing.

Another conversation with a dead friend stated some of this:

I seems to me that things are different for me now. I feel something that is difficult to understand. I seem to be getting  less and less of the me I knew; yet at the same time more of who I am. More of me is being lost, but at the same time more of me is was being gained. A strange paradox.

Then there is the going beyond even more barriers toward what can be called real spiritual awareness.

In the next region, one sees how the person’s life has accorded not only with their own Self, but with the ‘true being of the world’. We see ourselves as we exist, in or out of harmony with that world consciousness, that essence of all beings, sometimes called the Christ, or Krishna, or Buddha. Here is the judging, the self judging, of the ‘quick and the dead.’

And finally, in this withdrawal, the seventh region is reached, ‘quick or dead’, asleep or awake to the highest in us. ‘The man stands here’ says Steiner, ‘in the presence of the “Life-kernels”, which have been transplanted from higher worlds, in order that in them they may fulfil their tasks.’ These ‘tasks’, expressing through the self, mediated by the soul, and materialised by the body, usually motivate us unconsciously. In this region, if consciousness remains, we know ourselves as the whole cosmos of sun, moon, planets, and stars; as all beings, creatures and kingdoms. When we look at these through our physical eyes, we are looking at our own wholeness. The ‘Life kernel’ is the doorway to other ‘cosmic beings’. ‘The life between death and a new birth, and is really a living through the world of stars: but this means, through the spirit of the world of stars,’ not the physical stars.

Coming back to earth

Having made this ascent to the innermost of our nature, the essence of the whole cosmos, there now comes for most of us, a return to a fresh physical experience.

There awakens a ‘desire’ or direction, to perfect one’s own being and that of the earth. ‘Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven,’ is an impulse from this region. Depending upon what fruits were brought to each region, this descent enables certain things, qualities or strengths to be ‘claimed’ from each level of our being. A new spiritual ‘seed’ or ‘germ’ is fashioned which will play its part in fashioning our body. The essence of the future personality chooses the hereditary line and its parents. Steiner says the parents provide a seed bed of physical substance, impregnated with their own characteristics of body and psyche. At conception, the material substance is broken down into the germinal level of chaos, in which all physical form is dissolved. The spirit ‘germ’ of the new being takes hold of this.

At birth the ‘germ’ of the future personality and body, is clothed with physical substance drawn from the parents, along with inherited temperamental qualities. Working with these as materials is the essence of the past life and death experience. This spiritual impulse, takes the ‘model’ given by the parents, and works into it the pattern it brings from its central experience. So there comes into being, through life and death, another life upon the earth.

Just as there was a reliving of life at death, so just prior to birth there is a reliving of death. ‘He sees a tableau which this time displays all the hindrances he must remove, if his evolution is to make further progress. And what he sees becomes the starting point of forces that he must carry with him into a new life.  See Life and Death; Steiner Life after death

Another conversation with a dead friend provided the following information.

I am in process of creating a new life. But this is something like a work of art, not however, as we think of it with brush and paint. I felt it like a constant rise and fall of possibilities and forms that I, the Spirit I, was giving birth to. As one rose it expressed a certain quality, and this was in some way compared, or its harmonic compared, with all that existed in the changing spiritual and physical world. There was as yet no total interface between what was being created in this way, and what was expressed by the changing worlds. So I was gradually sifting the emphasis of all it contained from life experience and its possible future connections with physical life, moving toward a harmonic unity. It was explained to me that the unity would be a real connection with time, place, parents and the life that would emerge from them. When that harmonic unity was made the new life would begin.

Useful Questions and Hints:

Have I dreamt of any dead person?

How did I react to the dream?

Can I accept that we have an inner world?

See Inner World - Techniques for Exploring your DreamsQuestions

 

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-Aliyah 2015-12-29 0:35:38

About a month ago I lost a dear friend of mine who was 15 years old due to a car accident. I’ve been really down about it remembering all of out memories together. The other night a had a dream about him. He was walking down the street and I saw him. I said I missed you so much. I hugged him for a long time and gave him kisses on the cheek. It felt so real and I remember it so clearly. I aswell had a dream yesterday but this one I’m not sure what really happened but I just remember talking to him. I just wanna know what do these dreams mean. I’m really hurt and confused. I just miss him so much. Is this him trying to communicate with me or is it just a dream?

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-Carol 2016-01-02 0:11:27

Hi Tony
I found your website while looking for an answer to my dream. I hope you can help me. On the day of my dream I had spoke with my brother to wish him a happy birthday. We had a very good visit and after the call I went to bed. Early the next morning I had a dream that I had forgotten to wish my other brother a happy birthday. (this brother I share a birthday with, not twins just born on the same day.) We were very close so I was VERY upset and awoke crying and grabbed my phone to call him at that moment. I was sobbing so that I could not find his number in my phone. He had passed 20 yrs before. That was 2 nights ago and I am still shaken and cry at the thought of not being able to call him. What could this dream mean?

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-Zainab Baig 2016-01-07 6:59:06

I saw a dream last night. Someone hold my jacket back and pushed me back. I was so scare and I make make so shriks in my house hall. And I question her who are you and what do you want from me. Then 6 am I say prayers and then sleep, my grand mother come into my dream. And she want to told me that she is live in our old house. But my grand mother was dead with cancer

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-karen kelly 2016-01-22 14:40:45

I had a dream my dead mother wanted to buy me a cross? What does that mean?

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-Lucy 2016-01-30 10:03:52

Hi there, today I did read your web. Last night I had a dream that I met with my a partner who passed away 7 months ago. We had been lived for 7 years. He was only 30 years old. My dream was like he came back at home and he did not show his face just like trying to hide from me. But I said to him that thank you very much to come back home and did kiss on the his hand and gave a big hug for him. Finally I saw his eyes that he was crying. By the time I did kiss on his chest but could not ask him why crying. I felt that trying to keep him next to myself. Then he has gone. Please, could you read my dream why he came and cried? Could you please an advice to me ? Thanks Lucy

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-02-02 10:16:34

    Dear Lucy – I feel you do not need any advice, because you approached your (inner) husband with so much love and care and there is nothing I can add to that.
    Your approach made that he did not have to hide his face anymore – feel uncertain about how you might deal with his physical death – and your love made that he was in the end able to express his feelings. Your kissing him on his chest shows that you are willing to accept whatever feeling is stored “in there”.
    Holding him close in your dream reflects that you have given him a place in your heart and in your inner world and I trust that is all he needed to know/experience.
    You have given him a beautiful gift Lucy!
    Whenever you feel like crying, it might help to use the same approach; accept all your feelings without asking yourself “why” and just release your tears.
    It will be helpful to understand that you are also going through a period of change from relating to your husband as an external reality, to meeting and accepting him as alive in your memories and inner life.
    Your dream shows that you are well on your way with this part of your process too.
    Anna :-)

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-Katelyn 2016-02-02 9:08:25

Can someone please help me understand. In the past 7 months I’ve lost two people in my life and have had a very bad dream about both of them. The first dream was my godmother. I wasn’t able to make it to her funeral because I’m away at college.
I felt guilty which is why I believe I had it but I don’t understand why it was so bad. In the dream there was a body lying on the floor and her kids around it crying. I found out it was her because she turned her head grabbed my ankles dropped me to the floor and crawled up my body. The second was my very dear teacher whom I came to love like a mother. She killed herself and I semiunderstood why. She was raised horribly often beaten and abused but she came to be the average persons “robin Williams” so eager to find everyone’s motivation. My dream tonight was about her dragging me on the floor and crying it cut my back a little but I couldn’t understand why I had that dream. Please help me understand

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-Jaya mohnani 2016-02-09 22:33:05

Hi, I lost my husband last dec,he was only 31 and he passed away due to sudden cardiac arrest.
From the day he is gone I often get dreams about his coming back from a foreign tour, sometimes telling me that he got lost and now he is back…..sometimes just a regular day…please explain me about my dream meanings.

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-02-12 12:02:56

    Dear Jaya Mohnani – You do not share what you think and feel in these dreams when you see your husband coming back from a foreign tour or from a regular day at work. Are you aware in your dreams that your husband has died? Are you confused in your dreams that he is still alive in your inner world? How do you feel you are you coping with his sudden death in your waking life?
    Could it be that you are in denial?
    QUOTE from Wikipedia:
    “The Kübler-Ross model postulates a series of emotional stages experienced by survivors of an intimate’s death, wherein the five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.”
    Could it be that you are actually very resilient?
    QUOTE from Wikipedia:
    “Resilience is generally thought of as a “positive adaptation” after a stressful or adverse situation. It is important to note that resilience is not only about overcoming a deeply stressful situation, but also coming out of the said situation with “competent functioning”. Resiliency allows a person to rebound from adversity as a strengthened and more resourceful person.”
    You will have to explore your thoughts and feelings in your dream for instance by using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson and/or http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/peer-dream-group/ to understand what your dreams are expressing.
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-jungs-view-of-the-male-in-the-female/
    Anna :-)

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-Nan 2016-02-15 3:17:45

Ihave for the last 2 nights dreamt thatt I am moving with my mother, to a condo but when we are looking at them inside the cupboards are not large enough so I say no… my mom passed away almost a year ago, I do not remember dreaming of her at all until the last 2 nights.

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-02-18 9:49:46

    Dear Nan – Dreaming that you are moving may reflect a need or desire for change. Your conclusion that the cupboards are not large enough suggests that you want to take lots of things with you when you move.
    Because your inner mother is moving with you, I believe it serves a purpose to explore what beliefs and habits you have absorbed from your mother and if there is a real need to take these all with you; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/self-observation/
    Many people do not realise that they have an inner mother equally as powerful as an external mother. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with your mother.
    The memories and experience you have gathered unconsciously change you and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. An inner mother can appear in dreams because you are still deeply influenced by what you hold within you; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/individuation/
    Anna :-)

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-Michelle 2016-02-18 9:08:53

last night i dreamt of sailing on a ship and fell down to the sea and a celebrity guy rescued me… in the picture it seems like his my lover but when we reach the port my lover or my romantic partner was changed and become my high school batch mate and a friend who died already years ago… I am plain single no bf and no family yet and im already 33 yrs old.. why is this happening in my dreams having a romantic relationship with someone who died already? thanks

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-C 2016-02-21 1:41:31

I had a dream about my nan who passed away 8 years ago. Since she past away I have not had any signs or dreams and a few weeks ago I dreamt of her for the first time but she was unwell in my dream (not how I wanted to remember her) and I tried to hold her and she pushed me away. I woke up straight away. Can anyone tell me anything about this, need some closure

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-B 2016-02-23 3:50:20

I have lost many people, uncles (4) aunt (1) grandmother (1) daughter (1) ex-boyfriend, brother in law’s (2) mother in law, father in law and I often dream of the ex and in law’s and these dreams are not nice. They are angry with me, fighting and yelling, vivid dreams that I wish would stop, I’ve read that if these are spirits they would be floating but they are not floating in my dreams, I can see their feet on the ground. Any suggestions on what these mean?

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-Jc 2016-02-29 5:41:09

I have a very real dream in which I’m aware the entire time my friend is dead. She shows me er body in the accident she was in which is horrifying
We stand in the middle of the highway attempting to discuss the accident but I get little information from her. She redundantly says “this is where the Sparks were” pointing to a portion on the road in which I’m assuming is where her accident began.
Any help understanding this would be nice as it is killing me.

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-Pallavi 2016-03-03 18:59:37

Hi Tony, I came to your website looking for some source to understand what my dream last night meant. I had a boyfriend in college (undergrad) and we were very serious except when I started to get over him then, while he got jealous possessive kind, I was so frustrated I started to appear closer to the other guy in front of my bf so that he’d break up with me. However he just got angry, I could see, and then never contacted me ever again. This was back in 2009, in 2012 I got he news of his death.
Now after 4 years I had a dream where he was the same guy except he gave me a different name and we totally hit off while I kept feeling that spark between us, but he was a little distant still. Accidental closeness, sitting closer (than usual friends do) but still no holding hands. In my dream, I was supposed to drop-out of a course but as I was supposed to I went out on the road and saw him sitting in the car (that I have never seen before, since he owned a motorcycle), I told him I’ve a habit of breaking the front lights accidentally and then, I saw that look on his face like I did do it in the past (I once accidentally broke the front-side blinker on his bike).
I feel guilty because we didn’t even had a conversation while ending things up. I don’t know what this dream means, but I’m desperately looking for answers. I’m married for 6 years and now trying to conceive. Is that something relative to the dream??
I’ll appreciate your reply on my situation.
Thanks!

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-Nina 2016-03-18 7:48:30

Hi, maybe you could help me explain a bit my dream. I was dreaming about my sister, who passed away couple of years ago. In the dream we wetter sending time together. At the end of the dream, we went to bed, we were supposed to sleep in the same bed. She tried to push me out of bed (we often did that as kids) and said we’re even. Than I realized, she’s dead. I started to cry, I’ve grabbed her hand and looked into her eyes and said to her, that she’s dead. She also started to crying. I woke up with tetras in my eyes.
Every once I a time I hence a dream with my sister, or late grandmother. In those dreams I’m never aware that they are dead, neither they. Only in the end i sometimes realise, that they don’t live any more…

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    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-03-23 11:08:58

    Dear Nina – Your dream may reflect your playful and sometimes painful struggle about which place you want to give your INNER sister in your INNER world.
    To understand what your sister symbolises you could explore what qualities you associate with her by using for her dream figure http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson and/or by using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/dialogue-with-a-dream-character-or-object/
    Please also write down in detail the part of the dream that you did not share with us – “In the dream we were spending time together” – and explore your thoughts and feelings about it.
    What did you do together? How did you feel and how did your sister feel?
    Did you try to push her (qualities) away too at some moment; “She tried to push me out of bed (we often did that as kids) AND SAID WE’RE EVEN.”
    Dreams in which dead people appear are also sometimes expressive of our attempts to deal with our feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or our own feelings about death. When someone close to us dies we go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in our memories and inner life.
    Anna :-)

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-Leanne 2016-03-31 14:47:02

I keep having dreams about my dad who passed 6 months ago, I’ve had about 6 dreams so far and they have all been very similar. I dream that he is still alive but I know he is going to die. The most recent one which I had last night was that he came to kiss our family dog goodbye, then came over to me to give me a cuddle and I was heartbroken saying how much I was going to miss him. I know it’s probably part of the grieving process, just wondered if there was any other meaning because they have all been very similar.

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