Dreams about Dead People

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Dreams about People We Know who have Died

Dreams about a Dead Person

How can We Talk to the Dead and They can Talk With Us?

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife

Dreams about a Dead Mother

Dreams about a Dead Child 

Summary of after death experience

What Happens When Our Body Dies?

Coming back to earth 

The Journey Through Death and Back

Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death

Dreams about People We Know who have Died

Dreams in which dead people appear are sometimes expressive of our attempts to deal with our feelings, guilt or anger in connection with the person who died; or our own feelings about death. When someone close to us dies we go through a period of change from relating to them as an external reality, to meeting and accepting them as alive in our memories and inner life.

It is wise to understand something before you read what else has been said. For instance, a single cell, which is a seed from which all life forms evolved from, doesn’t become old or die because it is immortal, for it keeps dividing and doesn’t die. In dividing it constantly creates copies of itself, but as it does  so it gathers new experience, it changes what is copied, so becomes the ‘seed’ for multi-cellular organism. We all started from the original one cell, and we, you and I,  are the result of gathered experience.

As adults we believe we are complete and whole. A seed is a return to the source of life and it/our beginnings under the sun. Consciousness on our planet started in the slime of creation, the slime we return to, to procreate. And from that slime which is a vehicle for our seed to exist in, our awareness goes through the whole process of evolution as we develop in mother’s womb, the dividing of cells, the forming of structure and organs, the creation of a creature with gills, and on to a human type form ready to breathe air, carrying your seed onwards.

As one textbook states, “A human is not constructed like a modern office building, as cheaply and efficiently as possible. . . but rather like an ancient historic edifice to which wings and sections were added at different times and which was not modernised until it was almost completed.” See Levels of the Brain

In doing so it uses many of the things that Life or Nature learnt from past life-forms that it  uses in dealing with human life. As an example plants use very clever system with bulbs and other root systems. A bulb can grow a new flower each year and each flower is a totally new and unique thing. The the flower dies and its essense or experience is drawn back into the bulb, and next season another unique flower emerges. This hold true for humans too.

Our present personality has never existed before. It lives with a new brain that doesn’t carry old memories. Searching within its own experience and memories it could never find memory of any past lives because our present brain has no connection with the past seeds, yet our seed is the collection of man, many lives lived. Tendencies, unaccountable fears or talents, give the clue to these past selves.  See Mushrooms

These past lives are not remembered easily because the new soul that developed in the new body had no past connections because it has a new brain. The soul or personality is built from the local memories stored in the new brain. So, memories of the past can only be attained by a deep awareness of our core awareness.

So, dead people can simply be people from our past. Considering that the major part of our learning and experience occur in relationship to other people, such learning and experience can be represented by characters from the past. For instance a first boyfriend in a dream would depict all the emotions and struggles we met in that relationship, and what we learned from it or took away from it that still influences present relationships. Therefore dreaming often of people we knew in the past would suggest that past experiences or lessons are very active at the moment, or we are reviewing those areas of our life. A woman who had emigrated to Britain from a very different cultural background frequently dreamt, even twenty years afterwards, of people she knew in her native country. This shows her still very much in contact with her own cultural values and experiences.

Example: ‘My husband’s mother, no longer alive, came and slid her arms carefully under me and lifted me up. I shouted ‘Put me down! Put me down! I don’t want to go yet.’ She carefully lowered me onto the bed and disappeared.’ E. H. – In this example the dreamer is feeling fear about being carried off by death.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr M.

Here the dreamer has not only come to terms with his mother’s and his own death, but also found this inner reality.

Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning toward him which I had done so often in his lifetime and saying ‘I thought you had died. Thank God you have not.’ Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken.’ Mrs I. – The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality.

A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort. Thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the women has within her such memories to replay. These are a reality. The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband. The ‘aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of the same person. What arises into their own lives from such memories, is the observable influence of the now dead person. But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. See: Dead Husband or Ex

Example: In a recent news program on television, a man who survived the Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know. The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name. The photograph was kept for forty odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not know how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph.

Dreams about a Dead Person – General Meaning:

This can represent some area of your life that has ‘died’. It can refer to death of feelings, such as hopelessness in connection with relationship and the loss of feelings about someone; the depression that follows big changes in your life such as loss of a loved partner, job, or child. It can also reflect the sense you have of your life in general, that it is without the stimulus of motivation and satisfaction, as when one feels oneself in a ‘going nowhere’ relationship or life situation. The dead person in the dream may link several of these feelings together, as symbols often represent huge areas of our experience. So the dead person my be a part of oneself you want to leave behind, to die out.

Some dreams are so clearly about the person who died. Here is an example of such a dream by a young child.

With his brothers and friends he went to bathe in a mill pool. He was only four or five at the time, and could not swim. In the recklessness of their-play, one of the children pushed him into deeper water. At that moment, the mill gates opened and water rushed through carrying him along. He was drowned – but some adults who were hastily called to the scene managed to pull him out and revive him.

As his father carried him home in his arms, the boy talked about his mother, who had died some years earlier and at first his father smiled at his story.

The boy said that as he went under the water he felt himself sinking down and down into darkness. Then there was a change and he felt himself rising up slowly until at last he rose to the surface.

He was in a huge sea. Around him, other people were also surfacing, and all were being gradually washed towards the nearby shore. There on the beach, people waited, and greeted those who were brought to them by the sea.

And as he himself drew near there on a small promontory were his grandparents waiting to welcome him – and in front – his mother, and she bent to draw him into her arms. She took hold of his hands and as she did so, a cross around her neck swung before his face. Sparkling in it were seven stones. But at that moment, something seemed to pull him away, and he sank into the sea and at last awoke on the riverbank.

The other half of the Story

At the conclusion of the story, his father’s condescending smile vanished. They were now at home and his father left the room, obviously deeply moved. Only years later did he tell his son the other half of the story.

The boy’s mother had died when her son was tiny and she had died on her birthday. For many weeks before, her husband had saved for a special present which he had kept secret. On her death, heart-broken, he had crept down to the coffin in the middle of the night, unscrewed the lid and given the present to his dead wife. It was a cross with seven stones, and the secret of it had been buried with her.

Putting together a picture of many such death experiences, we can begin to see a general view of what it might be like, what it certainly is for some, to die.

First of all comes a lessening and eventual disappearance of bodily sensations. Although all pain and physical awareness goes, most people are still conscious of their physical surroundings and of other people. In fact they often watch their own body breathe its last struggling breaths.

Usually people see themselves in a body, but it’s sometimes more perfect than the body they have just left. Their perceptions are nearly always enormously heightened in many ways. There seems to be no sensation of gravity or weight – the whole room or area can be seen instantaneously, as if with circular vision, and there is an awareness of the thoughts and emotions of those present.

See Talking with those who have passed on

Dreams about a Dead Husband or Wife:

Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband. It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband or wife at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the meeting become easier.

But as with the example above, there are many cases where people meet their dead in dreams and have tremendous assurance.

Dreams about a Dead Mother:

As with other ‘dead person’ dreams they usually show how we are working out or unfolding our relationship with them. They can be wonderfully confirming of continued existence.

Example: ‘A dark grey sugar loaf form materialised. This pillar lightened in shade as I watched. It didn’t move. I began to think it was Mrs. Molten who died in 1956. The feeling grew stronger but still the colour lightened. Then it bent over and kissed my head. In that instant I knew it WAS my mother. An ecstatic joy and happiness such as I have never known on earth suffused me. That happiness remained constantly in mind for the next few days.’ Mr. M.

Dreams about a Dead Child:

When our child dies it is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can meet. Sometimes it takes years to adjust to what has happened. Not only is the adjustment emotional and psychological, but also your way of life is often built around the person you have lost. Therefore the changes we meet can be enormous. However, we each have enormous resources of healing and ability to meet the new if we can access them. Very often there are experiences we have, or dreams, that continue our relationship with the child. Unfortunately we live in a culture that often denies the possibility of this.

The example below shows how this can be possible.

For instance, Dr. Morse, in his book Closer to the Light, tells of a mother who came to him because she hadn’t slept properly for 1041 nights after the death of her son. She showed him a picture of her son, but Dr Morse was suddenly called away to a ward emergency. Having dealt with the sick baby, he was writing up the notes and a nurse who had been helping said to him, ‘Who was that person who came in with you? Is he a student?’

Morse did not understand what the nurse was talking about as nobody had come into the hospital with him. As he was trying to find a pen for the notes he was writing he pulled out the photograph of the woman’s son. Immediately the nurse said, ‘That’s him. He kept trying to get your attention’.

When he returned to his office Morse asked the mother if she had ever been contacted by her son after his death. She said, ‘Oh yes. After he died, for several nights he would stand at the foot of my bed and tell me he was alright, and that I should stop crying. But that was only a crazy dream.’ However, such things are not crazy dreams, but insights into a greater reality.

After her conversation with Dr. Morse the woman slept properly for the fist time in nearly three years.

Summary of after death experience

Because after death we are still in a dream like existence, we tend to create around us those things we expect to see or experience. So someone who has no previous information about death may wander around for awhile confused. A Christian may see Christ welcoming them, so the beginnings are very varied, and a Buddhist might meet Buddha, or a Muslim might see Muhammad. But there is some sort of life review. This is about harvesting all of value from the life experience. Not only do we gathered the lessons we learned from our life, but we also relive it moment by moment, feeling and reviewing our own feelings, but also the feelings we engendered in others. But because we are no longer living a life in three dimensions and time, it will be an all at once experience, not stretched over time.

This can be quite a trial considering the life we have lived. But it is not a judgement from outside us, but a self judgement of the quality of our life. We need to pass through this because after death we have left the physical world and moving toward the spiritual. We can see this as the Big Self; the Self with Enormous Love. But there is an enormous transition taking place at death. We lived within a body, and now without it we have to be ready for life without it in what is called the spirit world. That is why the life review is necessary. All our earthly experience has to be put through a transformation to make it fit for a wider life. The wider life works through universal connections, and the less we personally can connect with the universal the less fit we are for the universal life.

Something that I have noticed is that some people believe, and therefore experience, that ‘heaven’ is exactly like life on earth except better. They see it as having houses and living much the same way. But that is not really the whole truth, because just as our body grows and changes, so do we in the after death state.

It seems as if there is a great difference between existing in a body and surviving in the grand world of the spirit. For in the spirit world there has to be found something that will link the life with giving and receiving from others, and of course the integration with a greater purpose.

Many people say they go along a tunnel toward a great light, and then a great spirit leads them through life review. Others go through a door to the light, and others go up a flight of grand stairs.

Having lost their body and its appetites there may be a period of adaptation to a life in a world without boundaries. Also because the spirit world is similar to the world of dreams, you create around you an environment made up of your own inner state. So if you are full of hate, murderous impulses and selfishness, you create a world like that is usually called hell. We are not ‘cast into hell’ we create it ourselves.

The same with heaven, it is created out of all the attitudes and ideas and feelings that are in harmony with the way the universe works or is. As a friend told me after his death, “I cannot escape myself. This is because everywhere I look is like a mirror. Every direction I find a reflection of me. It is  three-dimensional. It doesn’t matter if I look up or down, left or right, all I see are expressions of who I am.”

At first one will look much as you did at death, except if you are old or ill, then you have quickly gained a more youthful and healthy appearance.  But of course that is only your physical shape, and you will create that because that is who you think you are. But a great and probably slow swing over will occur. Because your body is gone, and you are moving toward the spiritual being that has always stood behind your life and witnessed it and given it impulses to try to live out, so gradually you may lose any sense of being male or female.

It is possible some people will not make it that far, but will go into a sleep state until their next life in the body. But if they can maintain consciousness as they meet these changes they will slowly become a greater being, and have an awareness that could be seen as super human, touching all around them. This is why some dead relatives come back to us in dreams and visions and tell us things they would never have normally been capable of knowing.

Another conversation with a dead friend stated some of this:

I seems to me that things are different for me now. I feel something that is difficult to understand. I seem to be getting  less and less of the me I knew; yet at the same time more of who I am. More of me is being lost, but at the same time more of me is being gained. A strange paradox.

Then there is the going beyond even more barriers toward what can be called real spiritual awareness.

In the next region, one sees how the person’s life has accorded not only with their own Self, but with the ‘true being of the world’. We see ourselves as we exist, in or out of harmony with that world consciousness, that essence of all beings, sometimes called God or the Christ, or Krishna, or Buddha. Here is the judging, the self judging, of the ‘quick and the dead.’

And finally, in this withdrawal, the seventh region is reached, ‘quick or dead’, asleep or awake to the highest in us. ‘The man stands here’ says Steiner, ‘in the presence of the “Life-kernels”, which have been transplanted from higher worlds, in order that in them they may fulfil their tasks.’ These ‘tasks’, expressing through the self, mediated by the soul, and materialised by the body, usually motivate us unconsciously. In this region, if consciousness remains, we know ourselves as the whole cosmos of sun, moon, planets, and stars; as all beings, creatures and kingdoms. When we look at these through our physical eyes, we are looking at our own wholeness. The ‘Life kernel’ is the doorway to other ‘cosmic beings’. ‘The life between death and a new birth, and is really a living through the world of stars: but this means, through the spirit of the world of stars,’ not the physical stars. See What Happens When I Die?

Coming back to earth

Having made this ascent to the innermost of our nature, the essence of the whole cosmos, there now comes for most of us, a return to a fresh physical experience.

There awakens a ‘desire’ or direction, to perfect one’s own being and that of the earth. ‘Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven,’ is an impulse from this region. Depending upon what fruits were brought to each region, this descent enables certain things, qualities or strengths to be ‘claimed’ from each level of our being. A new spiritual ‘seed’ or ‘germ’ is fashioned which will play its part in fashioning our body. The essence of the future personality chooses the hereditary line and its parents. Steiner says the parents provide a seed bed of physical substance, impregnated with their own characteristics of body and psyche. At conception, the material substance is broken down into the germinal level of chaos, in which all physical form is dissolved. The spirit ‘germ’ of the new being takes hold of this.

At birth the ‘germ’ of the future personality and body, is clothed with physical substance drawn from the parents, along with inherited temperamental qualities. Working with these as materials is the essence of the past life and death experience. This spiritual impulse, takes the ‘model’ given by the parents, and works into it the pattern it brings from its central experience. So there comes into being, through life and death, another life upon the earth.

Just as there was a reliving of life at death, so just prior to birth there is a reliving of death. ‘He sees a tableau which this time displays all the hindrances he must remove, if his evolution is to make further progress. And what he sees becomes the starting point of forces that he must carry with him into a new life.  See Life and Death; Steiner Life after death

Another conversation with a dead friend provided the following information.

I am in process of creating a new life. But this is something like a work of art, not however, as we think of it with brush and paint. I felt it like a constant rise and fall of possibilities and forms that I, the Spirit I, was giving birth to. As one rose it expressed a certain quality, and this was in some way compared, or its harmonic compared, with all that existed in the changing spiritual and physical world. There was as yet no total interface between what was being created in this way, and what was expressed by the changing worlds. So I was gradually sifting the emphasis of all it contained from life experience and its possible future connections with physical life, moving toward a harmonic unity. It was explained to me that the unity would be a real connection with time, place, parents and the life that would emerge from them. When that harmonic unity was made the new life would begin.

Useful Questions and Hints:

Have I dreamt of any dead person?

How did I react to the dream?

Can I accept that we have an inner world?

See Inner World Techniques for Exploring your DreamsQuestions



-MJ 2016-11-21 5:56:27

For over a month now I have been dreaming about my father who passed 3 1/2 years ago. In my dream I’m usually doing something at night and for some reason the dream shifts to me riding in the car with my father and I’m just kind of seeing it all happening like watching a movie. I can’t here what me and my father talking about, but he is driving me somewhere. The dream keep repeating once a week about my father and I. I always wake up before we reach our destination.

What does this dream means?

-Nikki 2016-11-13 6:06:00

I had a dream today while trying to take a nap. To start, I do suffer from sleep paralysis(which I call episodes) and I’ve had 2 episodes in the past week. Also, I just had a friend pass from cancer just 3 days ago. Ok, so I’m my dream, I was in a house and my boyfriend just left for work. I went to take a nap and woke up in my dream because I was having an episode, which I was aware I was actually having. There were millipeds in the room and I was trying to kill them. I walked into on of the spare bedrooms and all the lights were on. I felt the presents of a spirit. I yelled to stop messing with me and turned the lights off. Went back to lay down and woke in the dream again due to another episode of paralysis and tried to yell out…I knew in actuality I was trying to yell out cause I could feel my throat burn and my eyes were half open. Back in my dream I was struggling to get out of bed and went into another spare bedroom and there was on old woman laying in a bed…I struggled to crawl onto the bed and was trying to ask her to help me, once I finally got to her, I tried to touch her and just like a puff of smoke she was gone. Somehow I knew her name was Doris. I made it back to the bed and felt that if I could go back to sleep I would wake up in my actual bad and apt. But I woke again and all the lights were back on in the one room and all the cabinets were open I was scared and started yelling to leave me alone. I felt the spirit was malevolent at that point, and turned the lights off. Then the spirit turned ALL the lights off in the house. I felt it enjoyed scaring me. I went back into the bed, just wanting to actually wake up. Again, I couldn’t breath,or speak. I woke again and there was an old man in the kitchen and a young boy. The boy had a broken arm and said his name was Jake. When I asked how his arm got broken, he whispered;”I was bad”. So freaked out I went back to the bed and just wanted to wake up for real. Finally, I could feel my dog trying to wake me up. I struggled to breathe and move, but finally I was able to come too. I have only ever had one other episode of sleep paralysis that was that bad. My chest and throat hurt from trying to scream and call out. What I’m trying to figure out…is this actually sleep paralysis or something else, what, I don’t know.

    -Tony Crisp 2016-11-13 14:03:07

    Nikki – Why are you doing this to yourself?

    All the images, people, animals, places we see in our dreams, are simply your own feelings, fears, hopes and wonder projected onto the screen of your sleeping mind as images. So, it makes sense to take the image of your dream person, thing or animal back into you and own it. In that way, you are actually meeting and dealing with the things about yourself you are not owning or conscious of. That is why dreams are often difficult to understand, because we are hiding things from ourselves. To do this you can use http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson

    The devil or demon in our dreams usually represents the parts of our own urges and emotions we have repressed or do not feel in control of. The angers, fears or urges may even feel to us as if they are strong enough to control us, so we represent them as an external force pushing us to some sort of evil. In each of us there is also the potential for creativity or destruction. This is especially noticeable in connection with our fears, such as fear of illness. Such a fear, if based on imagination rather than a real cause, can still cause illness. In this sense our own mind can turn against us. The enemy of our own undirected fear may be pictured as the devil or an evil entity.

    Having watched a person meet the devil in their dream exploration, what they arrived at is very helpful in understanding your dream devil. She saw that her lack of self esteem, her self doubts and depression were like an open door that allowed the destructive feelings and fears to enter. These attitudes or feelings may have been inherited from ones recent or ancestral family. Once this is understood it is easy to see that other things leaving such a door open are childhood trauma or abuse, and the attitudes and standards we often pick up – rather like infections – from others around us, and our culture. When this ‘devil’ enters us it can lead to self criticism, negative comparisons, the denial of ones own talents and ‘light’, and in bad cases, crime, murder and the infliction of child abuse and trauma.

-Lando 2016-10-30 20:49:21

I had a friend who recently suffered a horrible death. We were off and on as friends. I always believed that she liked me. She always said it was just sexual. We never had sex. We talked about it but sex never happened. Last night I dreamt about us having sex and it was pretty fun and great. It was very cheerful and happy. We didn’t reach a climax because I was arose by a text from my new girlfriend. Keep in mind that I have been single for about a year and a half and we were brought together because I asked the universe for her( my new girlfriend). I would like to know the meaning of the dream of me having sex with my deceased friend. Thank you.

    -Tony Crisp 2016-11-01 8:46:53

    Lando – Dreams are the greatest of virtual realities, for we are literally part of the characters. I fact we are all the images, people, animals, places we see in our dreams, for they are simply your own feelings, fears, hopes and wonder projected onto the screen of your sleeping mind as images.

    So, your dreamt of sexual partner is your own creation. That I because every relationship we enter gives us thousands or even millions of bits of memory. With these we build inner people that we use as some of our dream characters. You have taken in millions of bits of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences along with all the feelings or problems met by meeting or living with them, and they are what makes you the person you are. The memories and experience we gather unconsciously change us and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event.

    So, you obviously fancied her and so express your longings – maybe you hadn’t expressed in waking life – with your dream woman.

    Also, people are very confused about the difference between their waking life and their dream life. They believe that what they dream is the same as what they meet in waking life. In other words, we take as a truth that what is important outwardly is as important in our dreams. So, you are as upset by a dream as if it had actually happened in waking life. Such mistakes make us feel things that are ridiculous. This happens with the morals we live by, which may be necessary in waking life, but we try to make them fit to our much bigger and freer dream/inner life, and that causes conflict because the two worlds are completely different. But in dreams about sex we do not have to live by the same small moral world often necessary in waking life. In dreams, we experiment emotionally and sexually, so dreams often stand in place of actual experience. In doing so we expand our mental and emotional life without any danger or consequences. Through dreams we may experiment with new experience or practice things we have not yet done externally.


-carrie dingle 2016-10-27 18:31:41

I had a dream about my dead Auntie bought me shoes what does that mean I don’t understand the dream

    -Tony Crisp 2016-10-30 10:33:02

    Carrie – First of all, you have not given enough information for me to understand your dream. Things to remember when writing to us with your dream:
    • Write down anything that you think might have triggered the dream or links with it in some way.
    • What you associate/feel about any person, animal of object in the dream is immensely important. See Working with associations
    • Put in any insights you have about people or animals in your dream – it has to be the character of them as they appear in the dream.
    • Please let us know your age and gender.
    • Describe any emotions expressed or indicated in the dream.
    But guessing, it is not about your dead auntie but what you carry in you as memories and connections with her.

    The shoes, to understand I need to know what sort of shoes – but in general it suggests a change of attitude or a new way of life. To be sure, use http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson


-Nikki McKinnon 2016-10-21 23:40:09

My step father passed when i was 9 and i am now 18, i had a dream about him the other night where it was not like he was dead the dream was he had just gotten out of jail, he was still in a jail uniform and the setting was in a factory. I cant remeber much but him holding me in his arms like i was still a child. Its wierd to me that hes been in my dream due to my recent situations i was adopted last year, i am currently pregnant and going through a rough patch. I just feel as if that meant something in my dream.

    -Tony Crisp 2016-10-24 12:08:50

    Nikki – Yes it does.

    In dreams, we tend to put pictures or images collected from everyday experiences to put an interpretation on our formless dreams. We do this because we tend to have an experience of the world based on our body senses, and our dreams and communications from the dead come from a very different environment, so we put it in images and ideas we understand.

    So, when we dream about a dead person communicating with us it can be distorted by our view of what death is – or our associations with the dead person. If we believe in ourselves that when a person dies they are finished it creates our own view of death, or one that is a mixture of a real communication and our beliefs.

    Also, dream have a different view of death than is usually accepted. For instance, seeing your father in a prison uniform might be because dreams see life in the body like a prison sentence. A friend who didn’t know that he was soon to die of cancer of the lungs, told me the following dream.

    ‘An angel came to me and explained that before we are born we are all angels and are without limitations. When we are born we take on a life of limitations in order to learn something important to us. Then when we die at the end of that life we return to being an angel. All the limitations of life then disappear again.’

    Your father may have been trapped in some way with his past life in the body. But he certainly loved you and of course you were and still are his small child.

    Also, dear Nikki, rough patches are very important. As my friend said, they are given us to learn something important. So do not blame others for your situation, and keep the love your father gave you as a wonderful strength.


-Crystal Miller 2016-10-21 3:53:22

My mother passed a little over 2 years ago. We had a rocky relationship, tho most of it was due to me and what I was doing in my life she didn’t approve of. She suffered from many afflictions, and near the end of her life was sedentary, not able to walk, or did when needed with great difficulty and pain. She suffered a massive stroke which left the right side of her paralyzed, and when she briefly came to, i knew by the vacant look in her eyes she was already ‘gone.’ She had a No Resuscitation directive in her living will, and so we pulled her from life support and waited. While she was in the ‘death rattle,’ I sat and talked with her, telling her all the thank yous and I’m sorries I needed to say whime I stroked the cheek she could feel, and held her hand…she finally passed @19 hrs after we pulled the life support. My sister recently went as a lark to a psychic reading w a group of friends, and said mom was very excited about her slender figure (she had been obese most of her life), and said that mom knew we were there and heard “everything we said and more.” Ive recently moved and have been putting pictures of her up, etc., and last night i dreamed of her, very briefly. …there were other living family members in my dream, mostly the very young ones, and I instructed them to go “tell gramma/mom/” (I’m not sure of the verbage) bye,” like we were loading up in the car to go somewhere. After that, my next vision is very vivid in emotion …she is sitting in a wheelchair type chair, and there is a light source on the leftish side but above her; she is in a dark red shift and a dark pair of sweatpants, facing me. I fell to my knees and with my head on her lap, sobbing the same words, “I’m sorry, I’m so sorry,mommy, I’m so sorry.” I don’t think she said anything, but i very clearly felt her put her left arm on me (my back), as if to comfort me, and with that came the vibrating ripple feeling of connecting touch. Everything in the background is mottled gray. …and with that, the next thing I saw in my dream was writing a note to let her know I would pick up a chair in my next trip, and packing a few more things …..
In that instant, i truly feel my mom was there with me, helping me process this grief, and accept her physical absence. What say you?

    -Tony Crisp 2016-10-21 11:01:15

    Crystal – What can I say – except it was helping you process your grief, and accepting her physical absence.

    When I had my stroke, I wasn’t ‘gone’ but I was aware that my brain was badly damaged, and I realised that the brain wasn’t me. But was a connecting link no longer allowing any physical expression. So, from my experience I feel your mother heard all that you said to her but had no way of responding. See http://dreamhawk.com/interesting-people/tonys-experience-of-stroke/ and also see – http://dreamhawk.com/approaches-to-being/questions-2/#TalkDead

    Mine and other people’s experiences say that we can talk to the dead easily and they know what we say, but most of us are so locked into thinking we have to hear with our physical ears and so feel out of touch. But in dreams we can experience that “vibrating ripple feeling of connecting touch”.


-Lucy Jayl 2016-10-19 1:07:04

I dreamt of my deceased husband with two of our friends looking at a map. My husband was smiling and talking to me and our friends and we were smiling and discussing the map. His friend held up the map and he and his wife kept pointing to it and talking about it to me. The country Germany is something I distinctly remember. Throughout the dream my husband seemed happy and was his younger self. All of us were younger.

-Angela Warner 2016-10-02 15:15:39

Last night I dreamt I was staying the night at a childhood friends house. As i was getting ready for bed I turned around and there was this old lady in solid form but she was deceased, she told me her name was mary. I was shocked but yet was expecting her not sure why. I remembered thinking to myself this isnt so bad, Im not that scared. Mary soon disappeared and I went to bed. All a sudden my friend and I are woken to several voices coming from downstairs, she proceeds out of bed to go check it out and then calls for me. When I went down to see what was going on there were several deceased entities in solid form who knew I could help them. I did not know any of them. So one by one I would sit next to them took their hands in mine, looked directly into their eyes and began to pray to help them cross over. As I looked into their eyes I could see different paths and then path would light up as I was praying and as soon as I was done they would rise up from where they were sitting and then disappear. Each time I would help one, another one would arrive. I eventually took a break and stepped outside. Mary was there again and she told me that the place where were was a huge burial ground and all these souls needed to be freed. I looked out past her and saw a little girl with brown hair in braids holding a teddy bear and smiled at me as she was approaching the house where I was staying, I knew she knew that I could help her. So I headed back inside to continue the process and then I woke up.

    -Tony Crisp 2016-10-04 10:14:54

    Angela – Wow – you seem to know what to do, so thank you for sending your dream.

    In case you are interested I have written a piece called Journeying Beyond Dreams and Death – but I hadn’t included anything about communicating with the dead. I might add something when I get the time, as what you wrote is very helpful.



      -Angela Warner 2016-10-09 22:23:22

      Hi Tony,

      Thank you, I’ll be sure to check that out and I look forward to reading about communicating with the dead.


-Heidi 2016-09-16 15:47:26

I had a very clear dream about my father and my ex father who both passed away, in that dream me and my ex was reunion together, in real life we are far and I’m married, with our close families including my father and his father and had a delicious food to celebrate our joining together. I was so happy and I was next to his father and had a great time. I remember very good moments plus flowers that really would liked that that wasnt dream! Could you please help me what does it mean?

    -Tony Crisp 2016-09-18 12:07:48

    Heidi – You are talking about dreams as if they are unreal. True they are not about your everyday waking life, but they are true and real about your inner life. Please read http://dreamhawk.com/inner-life/inner-world/#MakesInner

    As I say in that entry, “When we enter our inner world we enter a state of mind that includes the death state, the near death state and of course the sleep and dream state. In that condition you leave the limitations of the physical world and enter an endless wonder.”

    There is another world that doesn’t have limitations like that. There is actually no separation between people in that dimension of experience. Quantum physics has demonstrated this. They call it non-local. In other words you are not in a particular place in time and space. That part of you is beyond time and space. No limitations.

    So of course in the death and dream state you are united with all your family. And of course they are sharing wonderful food, for food in dreams represents the satisfaction of your inner hunger, the hunger for love, for knowing each other fully, for giving of self, and a close walk with what has created you all.


-Reed 2016-08-31 21:10:47

Alright so I’ve had a few that I’m trying 5o make sense of.

Fiancé committed suicide December 2015.

The first one wasmt exactly a dream but I was falling asleep and it was like an automated voice calling my name, when I finally said what it said “it’s Anthony” I woke up immediately.

Another one was us being with each other but he just kept falling asleep. (he would slunch over in the dream, jus how i dld found him when it happened.)

Second one was of me picking up the car he did it in( i moved out immediately) and in it I found a letter that was saying it was about financial reasons.

This last one which I’m most curious about was us just having conversation, but I couldn’t see him, and I kept asking him if I could come home but he would go silent every single time.

    -Reed 2016-08-31 21:15:32

    Sorry for the typos! My screen is broken. Also all of those dreams were after he died. We had a conversation about how we would let one another know we were around if we died, and this conversation came up after our first died in 2014. I told him to mess with our seconds apnea machine. I told him her high heart rate never goes off so do that and I’d do the same.

    It did. I have proof of it even. It went off over 15 times in one night.

    -Tony Crisp 2016-09-02 8:32:06

    Reed – I believe your dreams are a mixture of trying to fathom why your fiancé commited suicide and communication with him.

    When someone we know dies through suicide it is like standing by a big hole wondering how they fell into it. Maybe your dream about finding the letter about financial problems is correct, but it could equally be you attempt to find an answer.

    The other dreams appear to be a fairly clear communication. Maybe you could find out yourself by using http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson


-Eronica 2016-08-23 3:14:39

I had a dream of an exboyfriend. I dreamed that I went to see him, he opened the door, and when I went in, he was standing there with no shirt on and black pants. He had a white towel in his hand, but he looked gray around his eyes as if he was tired and distressed, as if he wanted to go but something was holding him back. I asked him was he ready to see his son and he never acknowledged me. I woke up because I was afraid. I woke up feeling as if he wanted to leave this realm and crossover but was being held back by something. Please help me understand thisdream. Thanks

-Ann 2016-08-14 18:39:06

I’ve had a dream for the last 3 nights about my friend that passed from Cancer in April of this year. We talk in the dreams but she’s just sick not dead. Not sure why I keep dreaming of her?

-Monaye Blair 2016-08-09 15:26:19

I had a dream of my baby’s father and his father both died the father I never met but we have the same birthday we are all Capricorns and I was trying to introduce the new baby girl. Please help me figure this out

    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-08-13 9:39:59

    Dear Monaye Blair – Your dream expresses that your (dream?) baby’s father and his father are still alive in your inner world.
    Most people are often totally unaware of the massive experience they take in during a relationship and how it interacts with them when we love someone.
    In other words the memories and experience you have gathered unconsciously change you and are not lost. It is part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person/persons or event.
    Obviously your baby’s father has been influenced the same way by living with his father; http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/the-conjuring-trick/
    Having a baby girl with “the father” may reflect that “a new you” has been born; so it shows how your relationship has changed you and helped you grow.
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/pregnancy-childbirth/the-baby-in-your-dream/
    To explore this new baby girl – and the other symbols in your dream – you can use http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
    Anna 🙂

-isaia 2016-08-04 5:03:58

i keep seeing my grandmother in my dreams once she was pointing to her grave stone
the other she stood in my room smiling at me
i have never met my nana til then she gave me my full name jst as my mum was giving birth to me..

-Kim 2016-08-02 20:00:34

The last two nights I have had dreams of my dead husband. The first one He got his ex wife pregnant and me and his daughter starting arguing. Then I woke up. The second on he was cheating with other women, and I was trying to intervene, and ask him why. But in these dreams my husband could not hear me. Its like I was not there. My husband never cheated on me and was very against infidelity. Could someone please help explain.

    -Anna - Tony's Assistant 2016-08-06 10:05:53

    Dear Kim – What I see in your dream is that you are in conflict with certain aspects of your selves.
    To understand this idea of selves that live within your inner world I like you to read http://delos-inc.com/articles/Voice_Dialogue-_Discovering_Our_Selves.htm
    So your daughter, your husband’s ex-wife, your husband, the “other women” and your own dream figure that you call “I” in your dream all reflect different aspects of the family of selves that live within you.
    Your husband’s ex-wife may reflect a part of you that you have not expressed in a while; in a way you separated from “her”.
    It could be that while you lived with your husband you had decided to not pursue certain abilities or talents, for whatever reason.
    Now that your husband is not around anymore, you have met this unexpressed potential (again) and you realise that living with your husband has given it an impulse towards inner growth; “He got his ex-wife pregnant”.
    Being pregnant reflects a new you that can be born if you treasure it. The new life is a part of you that wishes to become active in your life now, a part of you that that hasn’t had the opportunity to be expressed before.
    The argument with your daughter reflects that your own dream figure still needs to sort out this idea of being pregnant of “a new you”, which is at the moment perceived as an inner conflict.
    See also http://dreamhawk.com/dream-dictionary/conflicts/
    The second dream in which your husband is “cheating” with other women may reflect that you perceive expressing other aspects of yourself as “not being loyal to your former roles in life” that you lived when your husband was still alive.
    Your inner husband or inner male not hearing your dream figure may symbolise that you have not found an approach yet that enables you to communicate effectively.
    Perhaps being open to the needs of your inner male – http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/archetype-of-the-animus-jungs-view-of-the-male-in-the-female/ – rather than intervening will make a difference?
    If you feel like exploring your dream by entering it yourself you can use http://dreamhawk.com/dream-encyclopedia/acting-on-your-dream/#BeingPerson
    Does this give you a start with seeing your dream from a different perspective?
    Anna 🙂

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