Grey – Gray

This sometimes indicate feelings of living an unhappy or colourless dull existence, a daily round without excitement or stimulus, or morbid or serious thoughts. Sometimes it suggests officiousness or officialdom.

Grey is the mid point between black and white, so in that sense depicts balance or calmness, but it can also indicate lack of clarity, indecision or blurring of distinctions. Like fog, it suggests not being able to see clearly. The grey could mean not judging myself, as in the past you might have got caught up in black and white thinking about yourself.  It could also mean invisibility or a way of protecting yourself.

Artemidorus wrote that, “.. a sky that is gray, gloomy or full of clouds, signifies failures and afflictions. In fact grey or gray is often used in language to indicate such feelings, as in the following sentence, taken from Castle’s Dreaming Mind. “If a dreamer needs to be sensitised to how gray, confining, or confusing his or her outlook is toward life, dreams may be cast in sombre,  prison-gray  tones  or the dreamer may wander around in a fog.” These states of mind can lead to ill health or at least a lowering of excitation and energy in life. An extreme example of how grey indicates difficult feelings is seen in the following dream.

Example: I have had a series of dreams which feature grey people standing beside my bed, and each time I have woken myself up by screaming, with my heart pounding, my being unable to move. JS

With grey hair it has several possibilities depending on the tone of the dream. It can link with maturity, wisdom or gathered experience. But it can also point to ageing, the loss of faculties with increasing years, and the path to death along the avenue of diminished interest or sparkle in life.

Grey clothes suggest neutrality or lack of ‘colour’, or in some dreams officialdom. But as with the grey colours worn by puritans, it can also suggest a moral stance, an avoidance of extremes or vivid passion. Such a stance might be one of avoiding full relationship or involvement in life. It might also suggest lacking anything more than a ‘bread and milk’ diet sort of life.

But some dreams describe grey in a powerful and exciting or enjoyable way. One dream includes a ‘beautiful, grey, old time car’. Another has a grey carpet that reminds the dreamer of home and comfort. Silver grey is sometimes felt to have these positive and life giving qualities.

Idioms: A grey world; a grey area; grey matter (brain); grey power.

Useful questions:

Is the dream environment I am in a grey one, and if so what aspect of my life does it reflect?

Does my life lack colour at the moment, and if so in what way?

Is this grey in the dream depicting my own feelings, or is it how I see the environment I exist in?

See: ColourTechniques for Exploring your DreamsQuestionsProcessing Dreams


-Tord Marthinsen 2018-03-08 0:46:43

My best friend (former girlfriend) appeared in a dream i had recently. I was in a big grey void, everything was dead silent. I turned around and there she was. She walked up to me, hugged me deeply and said “i know, i do too”
I’m still madly in love with her even 5 years after our breakup, and she just got into a relationship with someone else.
I’m really confused.

    -Tony Crisp 2018-03-08 13:26:20

    Hi – It is important that you read
    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – or

    Tord – What you are confused about is the difference between your dream lover and the actual woman. You see ex’s play an enormous part in many people’s dreams. The reason is that dreams about ex’s are very tricky for several reasons. To start with most people are often totally unaware of the experience they take in and how it interacts with them when we love or interact with someone. In other words because we memorise the feelings and responses we felt; and because we learn through our experiences, we are changed by them. The memories and the learning are part of you and is symbolised in dreams as a person or event. You have taken in millions of bit of memory, lessons learnt, life experiences, along with all the feelings or problems met by loving and living with someone and they are what makes you the person you are. Your dreams tend to put all that in the image of the past person when you are dealing with the influences left in you from the relationship.

    So you are not actually dreaming about your ex but the great influence she left in you. It was great because in some way it enabled you to switch channels so to speak. You entered into a different dimension of experience, the grey void, quite advanced. She said, “I know, I do too.”

    The love you want may not be available from a physical woman, so please see

-Melani 2017-03-03 12:31:23

My dream was about a maze and it had four different routes but I always take the same one so while I go through the maze A girl was like I really want a orange wig WILL you get me one if I help you escape? And I was like sure so she leads me a way and then we end up in this room area and she finds a door and it’s locked and she goes oh no hurry let’s find another way and she runs off before I could tell her that behind a wardrobe was a door which I successfully opened, I was going to yell for her but I heard a scream so I quickly shut the door and outside was a big mountain covered in flowers of different colors and there was a grey sky. It was a totally a different location from what I started in. Then before I could explore I woke up.

    -Tony Crisp 2017-03-05 13:33:47

    Hi – I am stopping from answering your posts fully – but will try to give hints; sometimes long ones because I quote from masses I have already put online. Also I need to take time to update the site – dreamhawk.

    It would help you to understand your dreams, if you would read – and also

    Nothing can replace your own ability to understand your dream. With a little effort you can do this by practicing what is described in – or


    Melani – The dream is telling you that we all live in a world – our daily life – that is like a maze. There are not four, but uncountable different ways we can take, and every different decision we take is a new path. Your dream is saying that you managed to completely change your direction, which opens a different location for you. This is obvious because we create our future because if the decisions we make.

    The reality of your dream may take time because a Dream is like a seed, it is something that comes from a deep part of you; it is something that is working upwards toward being conscious. As such it often, like a seed, takes time to break through to the surface, and then it has to grow. So often dreams are not recognised for their full meaning until later – sometimes months or even longer. The dream images are attempts to communicate something that has probably never been thought about or even been consciously thought about, so has never been put into common conscious thinking before. See

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