Masturbation

This form of giving pleasure to oneself is often very necessary to bring peace and relaxation. This may be represented in a dream by such things as using a pump, beating a drum, or any rhythmic movement. If there is a tendency to repress the sexual need, it may happen that one masturbates during sleep, in an attempt to release sexual pressure. Because the person has consciously decided not to allow sexuality, this might give rise to a feeling of being possessed by another will or the devil. In fact our unconscious will to express our needs has overridden the conscious decision during sleep. Out of such a split in the person, ideas about devils and possession probably arose. Although Christianity at a fundamental level appears to be teaching the love and acceptance of all sides of human nature – therefore integration through love thy neighbour as thyself, so love of self – in practice it becomes tight morality which creates devils through rejection and splits in human nature. In many white Christians, there are enormous conflicts between sexuality, love, work and spirituality. The following dream experience expresses some of this.

 Example: A couple of nights ago I had a strange experience that summed up my sexual situation perfectly. First I was masturbating in sleep without knowing it. In some peculiar way the act has always been hidden behind a screen of camouflaging images and ideas. Gradually I began to see through these distractions to what I was doing. Then it hit me, “You are doing this to your sexual feelings – in other words hiding them behind symbols and screens. Is this how I want to use/express my sexual being?” On realising that this was not what I wanted an immediate scene change occurred. The pressure of desire for fulfilment was still very strong. But instead of masturbation, images of various women arose before me as an alternative. Again the question arose, “Is this how I wish to use/express my sexual nature?” Realising that these images always remained phantoms, and even if the real woman was associated with, it would raise more difficulties than it solved, I again answered, “No.”

Some time later the same person dreamt the following.

 Example: Last night I woke to the borderline state and masturbated still largely asleep. As it reached the climax I surrendered into it and the resulting movements. In some wonderful way it was as if my act linked me with all life’s creatures. Somehow the flowers, the animals, the trees and wind, all nature, shared this with me, and were involved. It was as if an inner wisdom told me that masturbation itself was a most loving giving and sharing of self with all things. I had never before even glimpsed such a view, so it is extremely new to me. But in the climax I knew that a loving desire to masturbate is as divinely self expressive to creation as the sex act. It is like writing a poem, making love, entering into life through the musical act of this flood of feeling.

Useful Questions and Hints:

Can I masturbate easily, pleasurable and without guilt?

Was I masturbating during the dream?

What was involved in masturbating in the dream?

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